tattoo argument with spouse

I think it's a form of self-expression! I started getting tattoos when I was 18 and my first was on my upper left thigh. I spent months researching good artists and yet when it came to the day, I went to the first artist I could find. On the lucky side, he wasn't a bad artist, his work was good, but as the months progressed I couldn't help wishing it was better. So I went to a very reputable, albeit expensive parlour. They spent a long time talking with me about how they could assist, and they have touched up the tatt brilliantly.
I had my second tattoo done by the first artist again and this time, I wasn't so lucky. I hated it as I rushed into it without thinking about the design.
I spent a year getting laser tattoo removal which in the long run, was expensive but I now have a full back piece by the reputable parlour and it is gorgeous.
I've also both of my feet tattooed by them and I've yet to feel any resentment.

Occasionally you will feel some stigma about them but I think that's a by-product of today's society and the worries about tattoos.
My advice: Do lots of research, make sure you will love the design, find a phenomenal tattooist and be very considerate about where the tattoo will be. Can you hide it if you need to?
And remember that 'a cheap tattoo 'aint good and a good tattoo 'aint cheap'!

I love body-defilement! Sign me up for more. Getting my next on Saturday, actually. All mine are in hidden locations, due to work, but I love them anyway. My husband wasn't a fan of me having tattoos, even though he has three himself. I just figure, my body, my choice. No regrets, and I've had my first one since I was 17.

I've seen so many say Tats are hot and in the same sentence they are hidden for work or just hidden. I don't know why work would be a reason to hide a tat if it's an accepted form of art.

I have a tat on my wrist and I don't keep it covered. I work in an office. I also have one on my ankle that's visible if I wear capris. No one has said anything to me about my tats. Those who choose to get some that are covered up are doing so because they understand that not everyone feels the same about tattoos. That being said, I have tattoos in other places that can be hidden depending on what I wear. When I got my tattoos, they were not for other people to see, but for me and me alone.

I almost cried when my boyfriend said he wanted to get a tattoo, not gonna lie, I'm not exactly a fan. But I also told him it was his decision, and please pick something nice. I do feel somehow like I got something of a say, or at least a consultation right, b/c I would have to look at it, but in the end it's his body. To this day, he hasn't gotten one

I think if it's something you really want to do and is meaningful, tattoos can be beautiful and very personal. So i can see how your husbands reaction could be hurtful. But I would try and talk it out - perhaps he is just worried about your motivation or afraid you will regret it. A lot of anger is usually rooted in fear.

Personally I think the majority of Tattoos are pretty Ugly. There are very few that are in reality good pieces of Artwork. As with all things its personal choice but 40 years down the road when the Tattoo has bled a little and your skin has changed with age the reason you got that unrecognisable blob will escape you. I have met a lot of people through both work and personally that have regretted their tattoos and yes I know people that love them as well.

Tattoos are really no longer shocking so if thats the reason you want one I'd forget it. If you want to shock people why not run naked through the streets. It's less permanent and you'll only have to pay the fine for public indecency.

I'm sure i dont get tattoos to shock people , mIne are memories that I cant take a picture of that I can view for ever, and everyones skin is gonnna sag and be ugly mine will just be colourful and saggy!!!

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

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1952 called...

lol yes.

But seriously...I haven't read all of the responses yet, but I'm curious what the tattoo is and where. Why exactly her husband is opposed...that COULD make a difference although at the end of the day it is HER body.

ETA: Just saw the tattoo description OP, and I think it sounds like you are really set on it. The only thing for me personally that would make me pause is if it would deter from my husband's physical/sexual attraction to me. Also, you're not a teenager but it really sounds like you're kinda wanting the tattoo to "shock others" which I don't fully understand. No offense.

I am not a big tattoo fan for me personally (I have 3, they are okay, but if I'd waited until age 25+ I would not have any tattoos...personal preference) but they can be Art or pretty bada$$ on some people.

However, I am also practical and I think for most people in conservative areas who want to earn a good living in a traditional business type of position you do need to practice caution. My ex husband didn't get a specific promotion because of a tiny tattoo on his neck...total goody goody guy, never been to prison or involved in crime etc...but it was the wrong image for his company. While he still did all right professionally it DID limit his options. Wrong, perhaps, but true.

How does one really enjoy a tattoo?
If nobody else can see it, then what's the point.
If want to remove the tattoo, it maybe painfull.

Why not take that money, and invest in the house so everybody can enjoy, and not just you?

Uuugg. fighting with the husband over as yet non-existent tattoo = really dumb argument!!!
So what if I'm honest and like the fact 90% of the people I know won't see my tattoo coming. I'm still getting it for me. It Doesn't mean I can't enjoy just a little shock value...right?
He said its a life changing thing. I can't possibly know what its like. That set me off! Oh really!?! like, altering my body beyond recognition to have a child??? that kind of life altering thing??? Lets see...Choosing a piece of art versus my body conforming to accommodate a child... yep I'll take the 100% my choice art work thanks.
Really I only had 3 beers lol.

Well ... good luck?

Every man I've ever been involved with has been against me getting a tattoo of any kind, even my fiance who HAS a tattoo. He says I'm "pure." Whatever that means.

It wouldn't be a huge fight, though, if I got one. I've thought about it for a while, but I'm afraid of the pain and not keen on spending the money. Plus, I can't decide exactly what I want.

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

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1952 called...

lol yes.

But seriously...I haven't read all of the responses yet, but I'm curious what the tattoo is and where. Why exactly her husband is opposed...that COULD make a difference although at the end of the day it is HER body.

ETA: Just saw the tattoo description OP, and I think it sounds like you are really set on it. The only thing for me personally that would make me pause is if it would deter from my husband's physical/sexual attraction to me. Also, you're not a teenager but it really sounds like you're kinda wanting the tattoo to "shock others" which I don't fully understand. No offense.

I am not a big tattoo fan for me personally (I have 3, they are okay, but if I'd waited until age 25+ I would not have any tattoos...personal preference) but they can be Art or pretty bada$$ on some people.

However, I am also practical and I think for most people in conservative areas who want to earn a good living in a traditional business type of position you do need to practice caution. My ex husband didn't get a specific promotion because of a tiny tattoo on his neck...total goody goody guy, never been to prison or involved in crime etc...but it was the wrong image for his company. While he still did all right professionally it DID limit his options. Wrong, perhaps, but true.

Well said.

It's your body, do what you want.
Luckily my other half loves my tattoos (11 and counting) but even if he didn't, I would still get them. He loves me for me, not for some scribbles on my skin.

I am rocking 9 tattoo, my lastest is my profile picture. When I met my husband he had one tattoo and I had four. He since has gotten three new since we met. Each tat on my body has a meaning to me some are really deep other just respects someone in my life. It is your body, do as you want.

How does one really enjoy a tattoo?
If nobody else can see it, then what's the point.
If want to remove the tattoo, it maybe painfull.

Why not take that money, and invest in the house so everybody can enjoy, and not just you?

I appreciate art, appreciate the sentiments of mine, and they can be seen if I'm in a bathing suit or naked. I own my own house, and spend plenty of money on it. And can't wait to get rid of it!

I'm COVERED in tats/piercings/modifications and my boyfriend had nothing ANYWHERE (no piercings, tattoos, not even his ears!)

He legit tells me all the time he forgets why people stare at me sometimes (my ears are stretched to an inch and I've had them so long *over 10 years now* that we both don't even notice them anymore). Sometimes he's like, "THE HELL? WHY ARE THEY LOOKING AT US?!" and then he remembers haha.

He loves anything I do to my body because it's a part of me--it doesn't matter what it is--it's ME!

That being said, one day when going for a tat- he REALLY wanted one and got a little spider on his shoulder. So, he did....

...life continued on as normal and now he forgets HE has it! It's super cute though :P

I don't know why people are saying all this crap about tattoos...I have an almost 4.0 gpa, got my AS degree and now working on my Bachelors. I have a job, I have a life, and frankly all my tattoos only show when I want them too--even the ones on my wrist and arms. I just put on a bracelet/short sleeves if I don't want to show it off.

Your hubby is being jerky imho right now...it's not his body. He just gets the pleasure of looking at it! :P

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

I'm sorry but are you kidding me!?

It's her freaking body. She can get a tattoo if she wants it.
And does not need his permission or approval.
He can step off.

Not that I believe that she should get her hubby's permission but I love how the women are ripping this comment, even though I'm sure they love the phrase, "happy wife, happy life". Chill out people, it's just that guys opinion on the matter.

I noticed that too. I also thought this was interesting. While the ladies are foaming with anger at the idea that any man would dare feel he could tell them what to do with their bodies, this comment...

almost cried when my boyfriend said he wanted to get a tattoo, not gonna lie, I'm not exactly a fan. But I also told him it was his decision, and please pick something nice. I do feel somehow like I get something of a say, or at least a consultation right, b/c I would have to look at it, but in the end it's his body. To this day, he hasn't gotten one

A woman admitting she feels she should have at least partial say over what her husband does with his body gets a complete pass.

Weird. It's almost like some kind of hypocritical double standard or something. Hunh.

Seems like you missed several posts from women who weren't foaming about anything.
Generalization, much?

Personally I think the majority of Tattoos are pretty Ugly. There are very few that are in reality good pieces of Artwork. As with all things its personal choice but 40 years down the road when the Tattoo has bled a little and your skin has changed with age the reason you got that unrecognisable blob will escape you. I have met a lot of people through both work and personally that have regretted their tattoos and yes I know people that love them as well.

Tattoos are really no longer shocking so if thats the reason you want one I'd forget it. If you want to shock people why not run naked through the streets. It's less permanent and you'll only have to pay the fine for public indecency.

i've had mine 21 years and probably regretted it for 20 years, i didn't think about it before going ahead and doing it, i didn't research the tattoo artist, and basically went for a cheap design (i was only 17 with very little money) at the time i tried rationalizing by saying it was a symbol of freedom from secondary school (butterfly plus hated school with a vengeance) but it's just a cheap tattoo, it's also horribly faded.

please don't just do it on a whim or to annoy your other half, if you do decided that you want to go ahead with the tattoo, like others have said do your research.