Friends say I am too skinny now

I'm less than 10 lbs away from my goal and I've been hearing those comments also. Just brush it off and put your head up high!

I take all those comments ("skinnie minnie, you're a stick, aren't you done yet?") as compliments. I say thank you and move on. I think they get used to seeing us a certain way (overweight) and then it's a shocker when we get small.

Sometimes people are genuinely concerned, especially in light of all the eating disorders. I use to lose a lot of weight to the point of being undereigjht when depressed, so it was good that people said something.

Tell them you feel great and your doctor is happy about your weight.

I get that too. Someone told my wife my face is so skinny now I look sick. I ignore it. I'm down 40 lbs from my peak weight five years ago but still don't think of myself as sickly skinny. I mean look at my profile pic. That is current. It's the people that have known you during your "fat" years that say it. That's the lens they are using when they look at you and think your are sickly skinny. I guarantee strangers you meet, the thought doesn't even enter their mind. Just ignore the comments and know it's not true, they are just comparing you to what you looked like before.

No kidding i hadn't seen a few friends for about 6 months and they thought i was dying, one lad said i looked like i had aids which was nice, the thing is if you lose a lot of weight you will look different, i weigh roughly what i did at 19 and no one thought i was dying then

I had a bet with the guy who thought i had aids on our strength he lost big time which was nice especially after i patted his belly afterwards

I remember that the most recent winner of The Biggest Loser, Rachel, was given a lot of greif in the media about looking too thin at the finale. She WAS really thin, but I think that because the public saw how heavy she was starting out, they were quick to judge her. But really, if she was a stranger standing in line at Starbucks would you really look at her and think, "Wow - she is too thin!" Probably not. And it was a contest for a lot of money - my bet is that she will probably put a little back on now that the competition is over. If you are in a healthy weight range for your height, and you are able to meet your nutritional needs I would say that this is "their" problem and not yours. Only you (and hubby) know how you look standing naked in front of the mirror and only you know how you feel. Are you energetic or do you feel sluggish and tired? Does your hair and skin look great? Or are you noticing that your skin is dry and you seem to be losing a lot more hair in the shower? If you are not noticing any of those problems just keep doing what you are doing and as my hubby would say "Don't let the turkeys get you down!" He lost 70lbs in three months and his mom started complining that he was looking too thin because she could see his collar bone and sholder bones that had been "hiding before". After hearing this for about the 10th time, he finally pulled up his shirt and showed her that he still had some belly fat to lose, and said emphatically "I'm not too skinny!!!" She backed off, but I do think that somewhere in the back of his mind he took what people were saying to heart because he started gaining weight again after that. Long story short, try not to let others get you discouraged. Only you know in your heart what is best for you and your body. It is just plain bad manners to comment on someone's appearance when unsolicited if you don't have anything nice to say. A "wow, that was so rude!" might put them right back in their place if all else fails. Good luck!

Don't worry. I'm getting these all the time. I'm 165cm/52kg. I feel great ... but people are saying that I'm to skinny and that I need to gain weight. One of my neightbours said that she is so worried about me and that I'm starting to look anorexic. I was stunned, I honestly didn't know what to say to her, inside I was screaming "Mind your business, it's my body". Instead I just told her not to worry, that I'm fine, because I didn't want to make her feel bad like she did with me.

Everyone says that to me too. I'm 18% BF. That is at least 10% too high. So sod 'em. I'll decide when I'm too skinny.

Poor you.

First let me say I am obese. Reading the thread has called me to question my own comments of those that have lost weight. I think I have used the word skinny to people I know with the intent of compliment, as a term of comparison from where they were. And from an obese prospective there are ALOT of skinny people. So I'll have to keep a closer tabs on my usage of that word.

With that said, I have thought a person had lost too much weight and did not say anything. I would inquire about their maintenance plan or such but avoid a commentary on their looks. Mostly as I know much of my thoughts are somewhat locked into this vision of what the person used to look like. So it takes time for me to get over what my brain says it should be seeing (the overweight person) while looking at a thinner person. Kind of like looking at a man that has had a beard most of his life, then shaves.