Beyond Unsupportive: Wednesday Morning Rant

oh honey, thank goodness you finally realize you love yourself more than to put up with this bullsh*t because seriously, that is ridiculous! Trust me when I say that the words that came out of his mouth? Those were just the tip of the iceberg of what he's REALLY feeling.

There is no "fixing" anyone and he doesn't need to be in a relationship and sure the hell not with you. I'm shocked you're being so kind to let him stay until Saturday. I mean really!

Please do not falter. You know what you have to do. You deserve to have a different life. Sometimes in the beginning "a different life" is hard but each day gets easier. Its just like with eating right and exercising, it gets easier.

Much love to you sister!
You will see how good life can be once he's gone!!!

Yay OP!!! :drinker:

Good for you! MFP will gladly support you through your journey. :flowerforyou:

The only question - is why are you still in this relationship?

Sounds to me like the decision should have been made after the first comment! Holy heck I would have lost it...

No choice in the matter, drop him and leave him at the curb. There is no doubt you deserve better!!

Well this guy isn't worth it - you don't need someone so unsupportive in your life - our OH's are supposed to encourage us!

Congratulations on the weight loss too

Congratulations on losing "220" pounds of emotionally unhealthy boyfriend?!

Poor you! Some people eh...

You look young enough and sound clever enough to make a better future for yourself not surrounded by idiots!

he sounds like a total douche nozzle and you deserve WAY better! stand your ground girl and keep up the good work! :flowerforyou:

I think your soon-to-be-moving-out-this-saturday-ex should actually be your comes-home-with-all-his-crap-in-the-yard-and-the-door-locked-tonight ex

Sounds like this upcoming Saturday your are going to be losing a lot of unhealthy, useless fat all at once. Now, that's what I call a Non-Scale Victory!

:laugh: ROFL... well said!! :drinker:

I was with my ex for 18 years....since I was 15. He was always lazy, never wanting to do anything, and never had the desire to eat healthy even thought technically he was morbidly obese. I started doing my own thing and we drifted apart. Barely speaking and never touching. One day, in 2012, I was joking around because he was super quiet and I said jokingly "what, don't you love me anymore?"....no response. And it went from there for hours and he eventually said he wasn't happy and didn't want to be with me anymore. We were married for less than 3 years but I suggested counselling. He said no. A few days later, after a LOT of prying, he finally blurts out he has feelings for my now-ex best friend and that they have been together behind my back for over 2 months and want to be together. I lost my s**t. LOL I told him to get the eff out...after I threw my glass at his head.

In the weeks to follow I went into a depression and lost almost 20lbs in a month from not eating. After some medication from my doc and therapy from friends and family, I snapped out of it and realized I didn't need him....nor was I in love with him anymore....and that I deserved better!

I think in relationships, people can sometimes tend to get comfortable...and complacent. He never made me feel pretty or sexy....not even on our wedding day. So I had come to believe that I wasn't and therefore couldn't get any better. He never put any effort in. Never showed any interest in my day or my cares.

I am now in an amazing, passionate relationship going on 2 years. This man is so caring, thoughtful, romantic and makes me feel beautiful and loved every single day. Sadly I've gained the 20lbs back though so that is what brought me here! haha

There IS something better out there....whether it be finding yourself or finding someone new or both! It seems obvious that something wasn't there for you two....and he doesn't seem worth trying to fight for something you might never accomplish.
Drop the dead weight and move on to bigger better things!

Sounds like this upcoming Saturday your are going to be losing a lot of unhealthy, useless fat all at once. Now, that's what I call a Non-Scale Victory!

couldn't have said it better!!
you're doing amazingly and keep it up, who know's who you could meet at the gym :devil:

Just....WOW. Don't wait. Tell him to get his *kitten* and get the frack out, and good luck with finding a hot blonde that will want his lazy *kitten*.

YESSSS! :laugh:

Sounds like this upcoming Saturday your are going to be losing a lot of unhealthy, useless fat all at once. Now, that's what I call a Non-Scale Victory!

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Just....WOW. Don't wait. Tell him to get his **** and get the frack out, and good luck with finding a hot blonde that will want his lazy *kitten*.

I couldn't have said it better myself! You deserve SO much better! Much love to you

Get him out ASAP and use that tank of fuel he gave you for your fire, burn baby burn, losing weight feels good enough but doing it in spite of someone else as well as other great personal reasons just makes the victory all the more sweet!