Beyond Unsupportive: Wednesday Morning Rant

Thanks for all the support! My mind was certainly made up after the first comment, but I've subjected myself to arguments with him I will never win too many times, so I removed myself from the situation because he fights to hurt and I'm done fighting. Instead, I went to the gym and worked on my own things. He isn't going to drag me down with that bull****.

And as for waiting until Saturday...that is strictly a rent paid through then situation and legally I'm obligated. We both work full time so I won't see him much until then which is good. My PT and I will be moving his **** out and burning some cals while we do it!!

If he is NOT on the lease as you stated in your OP ... why are you legally obligated to keep him there? He doesn't have a legal leg to stand on ... tell him to stay elsewhere until Saturday and then he can come get his 'stuff' and be out of your life. Where he goes is no concern to you.

Cheers for your great attitude and using the gym to improve yourself and not bow to his low level. :flowerforyou:

Even though he is not on the lease, he has been there long enough to establish legal tenancy. This is something I've looked into before with a roommate from years ago. I don't think I honestly would get into a legal battle with him. But as a said previously, he's paid up until Saturday and we are both working full time. I won't jeopardize someone's job when I can coexist until Saturday without it being detrimental to my life. I totally understand all the sentiments regarding kicking him out immediately, but I've established a situation that will work for me until Saturday when I have time to separate our belongings in a respectful and appropriate fashion. He may not be a respectful and appropriate person, but I'm not getting on his level.

My 'as of this upcoming Saturday moving out ex" had some very nasty things to say this weekend/week that just blow my mind.
Thank god he's not on the lease and hasn't paid March rent yet- 3 years of wtf was I thinking.

I've been working my butt off for the past two months on diet and exercise, really putting the effort in with no excuses. I've lost 14 lbs since I rebooted at the start of January. I invite him to the gym and he declines. I don't push him. I don't pester him. I discuss my workouts with him because it's part of my day and I thought he would be proud of what I was doing-making a change for the better. We've both gained a substantial amount of weight in the past two years. I know this has an effect on a relationship so I'm taking the steps to change that.

On Sunday I brought up some issues going on in our relationship that have just been chewing at my brain. The response I got was "I'm tired of banging a fatass. I want a hot blonde." Mind. Blown. Just unacceptable. I didn't provoke a drag out fight over this because I hate spending a whole week at work depressed and exhausted from fighting. I didn't speak to him Monday at all until the evening. He's a spiteful hateful fighter and I wasn't going to set myself up for another attack so when that comment was made all I said was "That's unacceptable" and asked him to leave for a while. Then Monday night all he says to me is "Are we going to be mad at each other forever?" Are you frickin' insane. First of all: you have nothing to be mad at me about, and second of all: something like that just doesn't blow over.

I started doing two-a-days and have been really proud of myself. He gets home from work last night and out of habit I start to small talk with him and I brought up that I was really sore and had done a lot of work and his response was "I'm not impressed. Stop telling me about your workouts. It's weird and I don't care." Mind blown again.

There's no fixing that **** and its unacceptable, so goodbye bf.