Friends say I am too skinny now

I got that when I was getting close to maintenance. People get over it when they become accustomed to the new you.

I think you look great in you pic, and I know you say you are 10 pounds lighter than that now and look the same. I do worry a bit that this might not exactly be true...I'm sure it is in your mind. Your friends might be butting in where they don't belong, being jelous...whatever it may be...but from my own experience (with myself loosing too much, with my friends loosing too much) I've generally seen when people start making those comments it might be a little true. It's very hard for us to be objective about ourselves. Take a look at a photo of you now, compared to your profile pic...just like we can not notice how much we've gained sometimes before seeing a pic we can also not notice how much we've lost. You might look great, and that's GREAT! :-) I'm just saying everyone here is commenting on how you looked 10 pounds ago, which may not be the real picture. Everyone is different, but 10 pounds is a big amount of weight when you are close to your ideal. Your friends could genuinely be worried about you and they might have a reason. Or they might not. Take it with a grain of salt.

I am 5'4 and 115 lbs, so I if people actually told me I was "too skinny", I might be offended too. I think most adults have lost perspective on healthy weight as most of the population is obese and has gotten used to seeing overweight people. There is a difference between fit and healthy and the too skinny cancer patient/druggie look. Muscle tone is usually the difference. So as long as you still have good muscle tone, and a normal amount of body fat, then you are good. You didn't mention your BF%. Which is a better indicator of health vs. scale weight. I am at 20.71% body fat right now.

Best approach I've found is to ignore the comments. If you're happy with where you're at physically, then you don't need to justify that to others :flowerforyou: I get a lot of those comments too, "I can't hug you, you'll break," "why are you eating salad again?", "you must be anorexic if you feel the need to go to the gym-you're already thin," "you're obsessed," "you're becoming bony," the list goes on. Actually a girl I long considered my closest friend was the most vicious, and I finally realized she was simply acting out her own insecurities with her figure. So people voice comments like that for a variety of reasons, and chances are they aren't actually reflective of you personally.

Keep doin' yo thang OP, you look great :happy:

Oh doesn't it drive you crazy??!!! When I started Insanity to mix up my workout routine all I got at work was "why do you need to do that when you're already thin?" I wanted to scream "because I take care of my health? Because I want a challenge? Because I enjoy exercise? Any of those reasons sound good to you?" I didn't though. I just took the back handed compliment like I always do when someone calls me "skinny" or says there's "nothing of me" :mad:

I've been huge my whole life, and I am finally about 40-50 pounds away from my goal weight (I'm 6'8" and carry it somewhat well) after losing 120 pounds. I get the skinny comments al the time, and honestly it was nice at first but I really don't like it. Those compliments seeped in and made me feel like it was ok to be the weight I am at now, when in reality I have much higher standards for myself and am still almost 30% BF!!! I wish people would be real with me and motivate me instead of placate me, but they are just trying to be nice and I can't be mad at that my wife loved me when she met me 70 pounds ago, but I'm getting buff and shredded for her and my little boy!!! Great job OP, keep it up and don't let the comments, whether negative or positive, derail you from the work you are still doing!

they're just jealous. Don't worry about it.

I'm getting it too.. and I am not even to goal.. and not "skinny".. Ha.. I went from a 12/14 to a size 6. I am about 9 lbs to my original goal and then I will reevaluate. Having issues now with friends and family who said "oh if you lose any more you will look sick... etc". No I won't because I know my % of body fat and I could still stand to lose some of it.. and still want to gain more muscle...

I think people are so use to the OLD ME the NEW ME makes them a little uncomfortable to be honest. But I took this journey/quest on with only myself as the cheerleader (And then my crossfit family and a runner friend) and I am gonna finish it that way.

However.. it will never be finished because I now love pushing my self to succeed. It is really empowering.

I think people have become skewed as to what is a normal weight. So many people are overweight that after a while, it almost seems normal. You look great so I wouldn't worry about it at all! If your doctor is fine with it, then who are others to judge you.

It's happened to me before too. (my picture isn't current). I'm 5' 3" (barely) and weigh between 125-127. I have a small build too. The lower portion of my arms have always looked thin and they still are today. However, I wear a size 6 or 8 so I feel like I'm a decent size for my weight. It is frustrating when you feel healthy and happy at your weight and then someone tells you that you look too thin. It tends to mess with your body perception.

Good luck to you and don't worry. If you're at a healthy weight, then stick with it!!

People who are used to seeing you carry more weight perceived that as normal. In comparison, seeing that weight drop somehow looks abnormally thin to them in comparison. Had they met you at your goal weight, I bet they wouldn't think anything of it.

Calling someone a "cancer patient" is a pretty insensitive thing to say, though. On so many levels.

It's odd how perceptions change. I now see myself as normal, and didn't really see myself as being all that heavy before. Now when I see some photos, I view myself in those old photos as being much chunkier than I did before. Go figure.

A friend of mine told me that I was too skinny and then she threw in "scarey skinny." I just said thank you and moved on. It was the first time she saw me since I lost a majority of the weight. She hasn't said anything since. Sometimes the way you look can shock people and since you have been seeing yourself through the whole process, it might not register what a dramatic change it really is. As long as you are happy and you are eating then do not let it get to you. The shock will wear off.

crabs in bucket: when one gets close to the top and is about to climb out and escape, the others grab it and pull it back down. ignore.

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:flowerforyou: Know thy Self. You know that you are now healthy and happy. Maybe either educate those who are saying that now you are too thin or make new Real friends.

Congrats. to you!!!

20 bucks says its jealousy.

if you're happy with the way you look, tell them to piss off or that you'll find new friends. -fin-

For some reason, I've found that people are more open to telling others they think they're "too skinny" as opposed to telling them they're "too fat". I've gotten the too skinny comment starting around when I was at 115 (I'm 5'3"). Currently, I'm 103 and trying to gain a couple of pounds back before returning to maintanence. I've gotten downright rude comments from co-workers, but luckily my real friends and my family and husband are supportive and encouraging. Even though it bothers me to hear the thoughtless comments like "eat something", "too skinny", "you're going to disappear", etc, I just have to chalk it up to those people not having good manners. You've worked hard to get to the weight you want! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise or discourage you! As long as you're happy and healthy, try not to worry about what everyone else thinks and says. There's no point in letting their senselessness or jealousy upset you.

^^^^^^ this! This was YOUR journey and no one's business until/unless you make it theirs. People can be so rude, insensitive, judgmental *kitten*. Sorry, but true, especially strangers or people that don't know you. I know it's hard to not to take to heart, but like you said your TRUE family and friends love and support you and are happy and excited that you chose to love yourself to get healthy for yourself and them. You should be damn proud. You look FABULOUS! Do NOT anyone rain on your parade or steal your thunder, honey! and ((hugs)). I don't even know you, and I'm proud of you and everyone here that has decided to take back their lives and health and love THEMSELVES AGAIN to be as healthy as they can be. We ALL DESERVE IT!!