my fiance keeps junk in the house

Compromise is the key in all relationship conflicts. He should support your desire to maintain your weight, and you should support his desire for junk food.

My boyfriend and I very rarely buy junk food when we grocery shop, and when we do, we buy one thing we know will be gone the same day. I don't like to keep junk around because I will eat it. For the most part, he gets his junk food fixes when he's not home, but when he does bring it home, I just figure it's his food and it would be rude of me to eat it.

Maybe your fiance can have his own cabinet in the kitchen, or a place somewhere else in the house to stash his goodies? If he buys his own junk food on his own time, maybe you can just adopt the thinking that he bought it and it's his. Or maybe he can not keep junk food in the house but buy it when he wants it (which may not work for you depending where you live).

Bottom line is, find a way to make this work for both of you. When he says you're the one with the problem, say "yes, I do have a problem, and I'm asking you to support me." If he doesn't at all, then it's time to have a conversation about why he's being a bag of d*cks about it.

I cant believe more people didnt say this:

It isnt even about the food at this point. I can see there is a power struggle in your home...that is what you should focus on

I think it may be helpful, as others have said, to have his/hers cupboards so his unhealthy snacks are not constantly in your face and so you can have something at hand to snack on while he indulges in whatever. Can't really go so far as to have a separate fridge/freezer, but it might help to label things as "his" (either just mentally or with a Sharpie) I have had roommates in one form or another my entire life and I basically look at it as "It is not mine, I didn't buy it, so I don't touch it." It is like anything else that is exclusively his...toothbrush, socks, email....
Life is always going to present you with temptation and it is up to you to decide what goes into your own body. Your partner should be more supportive and respectful of your goals and your feelings, but at he same time, he shouldn't be forced to give up the things he enjoys either. I work in a grocery so I am constantly bombarded with tempting foods and people who come in to buy and enjoy them (many of whom are grossly overweight and should put down the Cheetos and pick up a carrot) but we will both have to deal with the consequences of our choices later. Do I want to be slim, healthy and active or do I want to be obese with heart disease and diabetes?
On a side note, I hope that you and your fiance have planned a long engagement. Your courtship period and the time btwn starting dating and moving in together seem very short and you are obviously still getting to know one another. Your arguments now may be about junkfood and booze in the house, but you do not want to make a lifelong commitment to a man who is unsupportive, disrespectful and unwilling to compromise. Those characteristics will only become more ugly a time goes on.
Not saying you should $%&*can your relationship over one disagreement, but keep your eyes open for patterns of behavior. You are in a honeymoon stage now and it is easy to be blinded by new love and not see evidence of being truly incompatible on a deeper level.

I don't know that a power struggle is necessarily the case, just two people trying to figure out how to combine lives and lifestyles. He's not an *kitten*...just a man. (lol) and I'm not a *****...just a woman. We're actually starting couples counseling, and maybe that will be more productive than this forum.

Going to be blunt here....
You two have been together for 5 months and you already need couples counseling? You are right, that will be more productive than this forum.

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I don't know that a power struggle is necessarily the case, just two people trying to figure out how to combine lives and lifestyles. He's not an *kitten*...just a man. (lol) and I'm not a *****...just a woman. We're actually starting couples counseling, and maybe that will be more productive than this forum.

It is likely the counselor will have more informed guidance to offer than an internet forum. Premarital counseling is a good thing.

Obviously he has no respect for you or what you're trying to accomplish. So the answer is simple, pack him and his junk food up and kick them out.

It's the same in my house, nice slim fella who eats junk!! But I'd never ask him to keep it out the house! You just need will power girl!! Lol

Congratulations on your 65lb weight lose.

Honestly, I'm having a problem with all the "it's your problem get self control" comments myself.

Relationships have to be based on compromise or they will not work. That means both people, people! As others have opined, there might be an underlying issue that's causing a power struggle. See if the two of you can figure that out together.

As my Mom told me before I got married: Make sure your partner is your friend. The glow and excitement of true love wanes over time and you better like the person you married. Marriage has a lot of ups and downs, you are in a position to really suss things out before the wedding.

My husband and I started living together after 6 months of dating 23 years ago. It can work, but seriously get things worked out before the plunge. There are days I wish I had.

Best of Luck

four pages and not one "my blank keeps his junk in ..."comment? has MFP lost its touch?

Ugh I have 5 kids in the house who love to be surrounded by junk food. Just gotta learn to say no.

I've been married to the light of my life, boy of my dreams for almost 22 years now. He knows I struggle with binge eating and the after effects. He also knows that I try my best to stay slim and healthy, partly for him, mostly for me. However, he really does love potato chips (thankfully, that's not a problem for me), peanut M&Ms, and brownies/cookies. When I bake him brownies, I just tell him to hide them from me. If I buy him peanut M&Ms, same thing. Putting these things out of sight is amazingly effective. I think he also knows that there might not be anything left for him if he left the brownies out:blushing:

Have you asked him to put them where you won't see them? I mean, really, is that asking too much? If it is too much and he won't support you in wanting to stay slim and healthy, I'd seriously be rethinking some things. If the positions were reversed and he were, say, a recovering alcoholic and you drank in front of him and kept booze in the house in plain sight all of the time, I'm pretty sure we'd all be calling you some pretty caustic stuff, and selfish would be the least of it. If he ever has to go on a special diet because of diabetes or heart disease or whatever, I would bet money that you would change everything to help him become healthy and stay alive. If you wouldn't, well, hmmmm.

Ultimately, you are in control of what goes in your mouth. I totally get that; however, the emotional issues that cause many of us to junk to an extreme are way more powerful than we know. On the flip side, all of us have passed by Girl Scouts selling cookies and just said no (or in my case, "get behind me, Satan!"). We've all been to events where our trigger foods are present and have been able to say "That doesn't work for me, but thanks for the offer."

BTW, I was married for 5 years to one of the most selfish humans on the face of the earth. It was hell. Just sayin'

You think it's selfish to ask him to lay off the junk food for a month in what is your house? My fiancé stopped buying junk food when I started my weight loss trip because he could see how hard it was for me not to go binging. I didn't even have to ask him to.