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I found a copy of her obituary.. I'm sharing to prove a point- weight doesn't define people. And we shouldn't let it define our perception of them, either.

Debbie L. died Saturday at her Midland residence.

She was born Feb. 6, 1955, in Holden, W. V., to Virgil B. and Garnet B. She was an active member of Living Way Church in Midland.

She was a prophetess and Bible teacher; ministering in many capacities in the last 25 years in New Mexico, Texas, Oklahoma and California. She served as director of St. Paul United Methodist Church Mother's Day Out in the late 1980s. She was a frequent speaker at Ladies' Bible Studies, Small Groups, and Women's Conferences.

Her ministry focused on the equipping of the Saints, the restoration of joy, and inner healing. Her trademark characteristics were a contagious laughter, positive outlook on life, and an undying love for her Lord Jesus Christ, the family reports.



Now i'm done fo reals... :bigsmile:

Survivors include her husband, David L. of Midland; her son, the Rev. Joshua David L. of Hamilton, Ohio; her father, Virgil B of Hobbs; four brothers, Robert L. B of Hobbs, Ronnie B of Ooltewah, Tenn., Danny R. B (my daddy) of Monahans, Texas, and the Rev. James D. B of Red Oak, Texas; two sisters, Sarah G of Gahanna, Ohio and Connie D of Hobbs, New Mexico; and a great number of nephews and nieces.

Mmmmmm......fudgsicles.....

I thought you may enjoy it.

Im only 20lbs lighter but that has made a difference... But ppl would tell me I was beautiful before I lost some weight.. and now it seems more guys hit on me.. but then I think... Are they just trying to be nice, or do they really think im good looking, and is it because I have lost some weight or am I just an overall nice looking person? hahaha I think too much!

hahaha thanks.. but with low self confidence nothing matters :P

ooooooh noooooooooo!! not the carebears!!! Ask Soupnazi how I feel about them!! hahahaha

Better?

Careful or i'll find Rainbow Bright.

Good I knew you'd see it my way.... :laugh:

HA! I have the same thing.
Guys don't say I am pretty....although i did have this scarey "homeless" person tell me I was a "pretty lady" I almost punched him in the head (cause it was not a good day to start with). Oh! Or those little old guys in the neighborhood.....i am not sure they count.

I am sure guys think it....sometimes they are probably intimidated, insecure (too), or fear rejection....just like us!

I just wanted to add my two cents to the discussion about fat prejudice and why we have become fat.

I am well into the obese range of the weight chart and have had 40+ pounds on where I am now at one point (in high school - I don't recommend that!) and also work in the mental health field. I have spent a lot of time soul searching to explore my own weight gain and how to address it now. I feel that I personally gained weight thanks to bad family eatting habits, very poor self esteem, genetics, and depression.

After reading what both women had to say (and having strong reactions to both), I think that the truth lies somewhere in the middle. I definitely believe that, especially for the morbidly obese crowd, that most people have trauma histories of some kind that led them to where they are now with their bodies. I also believe that there are plenty of people who ended up in the same situation by other circumstances. I think we need to have empathy for our fellow brothers and sisters who struggle with obesity, because we are beautiful people who have struggled a lot.

However, I also think that we need to be careful about fighting against fat prejudice. It is very hard to be accepting of your body and aware of these prejudices at the same time. I went through a time when I was very angry with people who were prejudiced against me, but then I realized that I hold the same prejudices. If you can be really honest with yourself, you might reach the same conclusion. How many times have you caught yourself noticing another person who is bigger than you and taking pride in the fact that you aren't them? Terrible, but true. I am working on that for myself. If big people can't even love other big people, then how are we meant to ask smaller people to ignore weight?

Society has attached so many meanings to obesity and most are negative. This won't be changing any time soon, although I do believe people are becoming more aware in recent years of what this can do to people. I had to make a choice to take care of myself first and fight against other people's ways of thinking later.

I hope this added some new thoughts to your discussion. I'm not sure if I made as much sense as I had hoped to... hard to put a lifetime of ideas into one post! Thanks all for sharing your stories.

Now back to the topic!
yup! I'm getting stares again! woo hoo! (doin' a dance!)

:laugh: :laugh: :blushing: :blushing:

That's cause you're looking HOT in that dress! Show that pic again! That pic should be your default! lol
*whisltes*

awww shucks!:blushing: :blushing: :blushing:
Thanks Crystal!

Okay Jen, where's this pic???? Come on girl...

Okay, it's now my main pic (just for you Crystal!)

So true, I've lost 80 lbs and 67 more to go. I'm grateful they're opening doors, paying more attention (a little shy about it), maybe a little self-conscious about having smaller waist & a little bigger than average breasts but it's so hot here in Arizona. So It's hard not to notice, I sort of dislike it, the attention. I'm thankful for my health, it's much better and I'm able to exercise. I agree with all of you, and I have more confidence in myself than I didn't before and I see it in a positive light. Be grateful. :happy:

Chubbybunny...

I'm loving the new pic..hair looks awesome

Some responses on this post made me think....if you're Dh (or SO) tells u that u are beautiful..do u believe them?
I think no matter how often u hear you are beautiful from your SO...(unless you believe it)...it doesn't mean anything

To be honest, I always felt OK about my looks...not the best, but could be worse....I'm OK with that
I try my best with what was given to me

Kim

I have actually gotten more comfortable with who I am as I have gotten older. I think most people have just learned to live with themselves and what looks they have and are more accepting of who they are. Of course this doesn't mean everyone.

I just know that I feel better about myself right now than I ever have in my life. Not only because I have lost weight..but because I am super proud of myself for doing it the healthy way and for making myself as healthy as I can for my family. And I just have more energy. All of these things put a smile on my face more often.

Am I perfect? Of course not. Are there things I wish I could change? Of course there are! LOL! But, I am who I am.... I have been for 33 (almost 34 years). I just want to live my life in peace and enjoy myself and stop worrying about everything so much. I am LEARNING to take compliments better too! I used to sort of smile and look away because I was uncomfortable. Now, because I am proud of my accomplishment.....I smile and simply say "Thank you!"

HA! I have the same thing.
Guys don't say I am pretty....although i did have this scarey "homeless" person tell me I was a "pretty lady" I almost punched him in the head (cause it was not a good day to start with). Oh! Or those little old guys in the neighborhood.....i am not sure they count.

I am sure guys think it....sometimes they are probably intimidated, insecure (too), or fear rejection....just like us!

I think you are pretty.