if you could go back...

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  • Lisa1971
    Lisa1971 Posts: 3,069 Member
    Nothing. I would thank them for what they have done for me and keeping me on the right path. I would want to thank them sooner than when I had.

    THIS!!!!!!!
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    Don't leave me alone with my brother. What happens scarred me forever.
  • LJGettinSexy
    LJGettinSexy Posts: 223 Member
    Wow, there's a lot of anger in some of your posts, which was not what I expected when I looked at the topic. Which is probably why the world is so misguided and violent. May I suggest therapy, and not on this type of forum.
  • tchell99
    tchell99 Posts: 434 Member
    Buy me stock in Apple.

    Why, oh why, did you not teach me the magical powers of compounding interest??
  • JoelleAnn78
    JoelleAnn78 Posts: 1,492 Member
    I'd tell my Dad that he could still be a part of my life even though his mistakes made him feel like he was not worthy of being my Dad. I'd rather have an imperfect parent than an absent one.

    I'd tell my Mom that she does one hell of a job! Don't change a thing.
  • JoelleAnn78
    JoelleAnn78 Posts: 1,492 Member
    Wow, there's a lot of anger in some of your posts, which is probably why the world is so misguided and violent. May I suggest therapy, and not on this type of forum.

    May I suggest you back away.
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  • tchell99
    tchell99 Posts: 434 Member
    Wow, there's a lot of anger in some of your posts, which is probably why the world is so misguided and violent. May I suggest therapy, and not on this type of forum.

    Not anger. Just hard-earned wisdom for some of us. I wouldn't change a thing about my experience because I learned a lot, but other kids would not have the constitution for some of the stuff I heard and saw. :flowerforyou:
  • BamaBreezeNSaltAire
    BamaBreezeNSaltAire Posts: 966 Member
    I would tell my Dad that his middle son is not baby Jesus and we'd appreciate being treated as he wasn't such.

    I would tell my mom that while she was pining away over missing middle son baby Jesus' children, she still had one at home and appreciated being noticed for more than what she did wrong.

    I would thank them however for all the good they did and the sacrifices they made and that they taught me right from wrong and how to stand on my own 2 feet.
  • LJGettinSexy
    LJGettinSexy Posts: 223 Member
    Wow, there's a lot of anger in some of your posts, which is probably why the world is so misguided and violent. May I suggest therapy, and not on this type of forum.

    May I suggest you back away.

    You just proved my point, I wasn't being mean, I was being observant and taken aback with all the anger from the first few posts. So, if your post wasn't angry then I wasn't talking about you, get it
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Wow, there's a lot of anger in some of your posts, which is probably why the world is so misguided and violent. May I suggest therapy, and not on this type of forum.

    May I suggest you back away.

    You just proved my point, I wasn't being mean, I was being observant and taken aback with all the anger from the first few posts. So, if your post wasn't angry then I wasn't talking about you, get it
    Okay, grey blur. Whatever you say.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    To help me better understand the path to serious careers via college, technical school, or whatever. It was all so hazy for me and I felt totally overwhelmed and freaked out! For example, I was a "gifted kid" but a huge underachiever in high school and I thought to get any real scholarships you had to be in the top 2% of the class or a sports star. I was so peeved to find out with my testing scores and even a B average I could have had a free ride to college...wat!? I also had it in my head that "regular people" couldn't become doctors, lawyers, etc. I thought by not being straight A with 50 extracurricular activites I was doomed yet nothing could have been further from reality.

    I wound up doing okay, I have a BA and decent job, able to support myself since I was 19 or 20. But I think my parents (who didn't go to college) just thought the teachers & counselors would handle this, which is interesting as they were very hands-on and informative about every other part of life.

    I don't blame them because they were ignorant about most of this stuff but I think that's the one area they really could have done better. They were both raised in an era when college was less common and in their small city after high school most people just started applying for jobs and took what they could get. I think now with the internet it is (hopefully) easier for parents and teens to figure it all out!
  • Sovi_
    Sovi_ Posts: 575 Member
    Wow, there's a lot of anger in some of your posts, which was not what I expected when I looked at the topic. Which is probably why the world is so misguided and violent. May I suggest therapy, and not on this type of forum.

    Mind your own business.
  • Orion782
    Orion782 Posts: 391
    I would thank them, sincerely for all they did. They aren't perfect, but they did the best they knew how and I turned out pretty well.

    That being said, I would tell them to stop demonizing alcohol, because I'm gonna try it regardless and *SHOCK*, am not an alcoholic because of it. :tongue:
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  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I would tell my mom that when she realizes the man she has allowed to be my stepfather is in my bedroom and not hers that she should go upstairs and walk in on him, and then call the police. That would be a start. Or that any of the number of things she witnessed go way beyond "red flag". I really don't think there was much hope for my mother. Probably be best if I were able to have had the mind of an adult when I was a child, so that I could have taken care of myself and gotten help for myself.
  • Sovi_
    Sovi_ Posts: 575 Member
    Wear a seat belt. Or better yet, just walk home from the bar. It's 3 blocks.

    Oh man....Hugs
  • _chiaroscuro
    _chiaroscuro Posts: 1,340 Member
    Be emotionally steady and consistent. Don't let your past hurts dictate your behavior. I can't trust you when out of nowhere you turn on me and I have to be the grown up.

    But I love and forgive you anyway.
  • Noamsh
    Noamsh Posts: 79 Member
    1. Don't be so cold to me, yet warm and fuzzy with my siblings. Yes, I'm the oldest, but it doesn't mean I don't need love.
    2. Teach me how to socialize, or actually, what's society like. You don't have to raise me to be exactly like you are, because you're the living proof it doesn't work. It's your fault I'm 23 and still live at home.
  • DuckDynastyMakesMeLaugh
    DuckDynastyMakesMeLaugh Posts: 363 Member
    I would tell my parents that the words "clean your plate or you won't get any dessert" is an EPIC FAIL on so many fronts!..and back(sides)! :laugh:
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Wow, there's a lot of anger in some of your posts, which was not what I expected when I looked at the topic. Which is probably why the world is so misguided and violent. May I suggest therapy, and not on this type of forum.

    It's not anger. It's honesty. Nothing wrong with being honest. It's actually healthy.
  • salemsaberhagen
    salemsaberhagen Posts: 54 Member
    Get the soda out of the house and keep it out, fast food WILL kill you, whole foods are actually cheaper than prepackaged Stouffer's heat-em-up meals, fear is the mind killer, and weight training is actually very good for kids.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    I would tell my mom that when she realizes the man she has allowed to be my stepfather is in my bedroom and not hers that she should go upstairs and walk in on him, and then call the police. That would be a start. Or that any of the number of things she witnessed go way beyond "red flag". I really don't think there was much hope for my mother. Probably be best if I were able to have had the mind of an adult when I was a child, so that I could have taken care of myself and gotten help for myself.

    I debated even engaging in this thread once I saw what it was about, but I had to say: eloquently put, as always. That's something I've had to work on for quite awhile--not holding my child self responsible for what I can see, say, and do for myself now as an adult.

    :heart:
  • salemsaberhagen
    salemsaberhagen Posts: 54 Member
    One day you will be the reason that I try to be a better mom. So don't change anything. Your horrible parenting kept me a fighter.
    I'm with you.
    Yes.

    ^^same here

    Yep
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    Agreed- I learned how not to be a parent from mine. Haven't spoken to my mom in several years and life is good:)
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    ...put all your money into intel and microsoft stock.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    You just proved my point, I wasn't being mean, I was being observant and taken aback with all the anger from the first few posts. So, if your post wasn't angry then I wasn't talking about you, get it

    I beg you... Do not become a shrink or psychologist. :flowerforyou:
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  • california_haley
    california_haley Posts: 220 Member
    I'm glad to see a handful of people have nothing to tell their parents wish that's how the majority was posting.
    I'm sorry to everyone who's childhoods weren't in fact much of a childhood.
    All families have their problems there ups and downs. But children deserve to children.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    I wanna go back, Go back, and do it all over, but I can't go back I know

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o0JqC2UDpoE
    Good beat haha
  • BlueEyed_Beauty
    BlueEyed_Beauty Posts: 18
    For my mom I would want to say goodbye. She passed before I could say a final goodbye and I wish I could have had that for closure.

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