"Are you trying to get fat?"

I got a lot more than 20 to go. And i didn't get fat by eating fruit, i gained all the weight when i was eating meat and dairy. I don't gain weight when i'm eating massive amounts of fruit, i lose it, just like everyone else who tries eating a fruit and vegetable based diet.

that's funny- because I lost weight eating a high fat high protein diet - full of meat and dairy.

You can lose weight that way, but that's not a sustainable healthy diet.

You can lose weight, AND reverse heart disease, diabetes, autoimmune conditions and improve energy levels, improve cognitive ability, live longer, etc on a fruit and vegetable based diet.

I have tried both. I have lost weight with both. But fruit and vegetable based diets are FAR, FAR healthier!

Not trying to knock what's working for you, but a ton of people have reversed all those conditions on a LCHF way of eating; there is a plethora of information available if you're willing to look. And it's about as sustainable in the long run as veganism is for most.

This is the problem that too many 80/10/10ers, raw vegans, fruitarians, etc, often have; a self righteous attitude that turns many people completely off. You know the old adage about catching more bees with honey?

Oh wait, you people don't eat honey.

^Says they are not trying to knock me. Calls me "you people".

This thread answers one of the great mysteries of the universe: Who is more obnoxious? A cashier that asks, "Are you trying to get fat?" or the IIFYM crowd at MFP?

I predict that the responses to this comment will only add to the body of research.

It's interesting to be the fly on the wall in these forums. My observation up to this point (not that anyone cares, but it is a forum). Judging the reactions that Ive seen, never say anything to a woman about: a) what she's eating, b) her weight. Also IMHO, sugar can be as addictive to some people as caffeine or nicoteine.

maybe he was joking/flirting/being friendly and it came out or was taken the wrong way by your friend?

I feel like this line of thought is rooted somewhere in sexism. It's not okay for boys to bully girls because they *like* them. You should treat people you like or are interested in better, not worse. Being flustered is one thing, but I can't imagine someone saying this if it wasn't really their opinion. It's rude and hurtful, and she is not overreacting by being upset by it...

It's only hurtful if the person is irrationally oversensitive about their weight or eating habits.

Judging by the responses to this post, MOST people agree that the statement is rude. You're obviously very ignorant to the experience of anyone who struggles with body-confidence, especially women. We get criticized on every detail of our appearances throughout our lives and see so-called "perfect celebrities" getting torn down from any deviation from their top forms. There are a lot of messages telling people in general, and women in particular, that they should hate their bodies.

It's a miracle that there are women who are confident in their bodies at all.

I was made fun of for my weight since I was a kid. If someone said that to me in a store, I'd be pissed, and yes it would be a hurtful comment. It would trigger unpleasant memories. The point is, people should keep their opinions of strangers to themselves because you have NO IDEA what that person has been through or how they might react to such a thoughtless comment.

As for the fail at flirting bit... don't try to "flirt" by insulting people. It makes the person insulting, sound like they are seeking out a person to emotionally abuse.

When I go to the convenience store, I'm not looking for judgement on my eating habits, so the clerks can keep it to themselves.

Would love to hear your obviously unbiased opinions on the topic.

........ I've just heard from a tiny size 8 friend that she went to the petrol station this morning .......

........ I've just heard from a tiny size 8 friend that she went to the petrol station this morning .......

I redacted the OPs post to highlight what popped out at me that I LOVED: tiny size 8 friend

I'm now a size 8 and I've never felt tiny - so this made me SMILE.

And NO - the comment wasn't acceptable - just gotta chalk it up to butt heads that open mouth, insert foot. He prob thought he was being "cute" and making conversation. His misguided attempt at flirting. Who knows? ehhhhh.

Totally agreed.

And that's why I regularly do things like eat slices of pizza at the Costco food court. I've been asked various times how I stay in shape despite eating "dirty"

I once went to try some clothes, and the guy who was serving went "DO YOU EVEN EAT ANYTHING!?!" and then asked me when the last time I ate was.

It's not about if I care about what other people think of me or not. It's rude.