Super skinny boyfriend comments on my weight ALL THE TIME

5'4" and only 130! I wish! I think your only extra weight is your dude.

What exactly are you getting out of this relationship is the only response that comes to mind?!?!

there's no way he is any benefit to you.... loose some extra baggage and drop him. i know being in a relationship is "comfortable" but it'll be so much better without that negativity.

I didn't read all of the comments, so it may have been said already. 1st of all, if you are stressing - you are storing fat! If you are stressing, you are more than likely stress eating with bad foods. If you are stressing, find the source and get rid of it - it is pretty clear to me what that stressor is. You have your own life, I know what I would do if I were in your shoes!!! I would get rid of my stressor!

I think you'd feel a LOT happier and be way less stressed out physically and emotionally if you ditched this guy.

Its hard enough taking care of yourself, but taking care of a dumb guy who uses you (while he seems to use everybody in his life) for food and attitude.

You deserve a man who complements you, not guilt trips you.
You deserve a man who buys you the food, not scavenges your cabinets.

You'd financially be more stable, your body will be able to feel like you have enough food and you can eat healthily without that guy as a bad influence.

Take a step back from him, think as an outside person does looking in and try to detach yourself emotionally. Then you can see what needs to be done.

By the way, don't think you can't go without him. You are way more independent than you think

This guy sounds like other young people I have heard about. They gorge on massive junk in one sitting, then shoot themselves up with insulin. They seem oblivious to the fact that they are destroying their bodies. Someone like that is not a person I would want as a partner.

You need to lose approximately 120lbs, if you know what I mean.

Don't let someone else dictate to you what you should weigh. Anyone making jabs about your weight is not going to change even if you lose more. They'll simply find something else about you they don't like.

You are 5 foot 4 and weigh 130 to 135 pounds? I am 5 foot 3 and weigh 126 to around 130 or so. It just changes all of the time with the time of the month and all of that. I would say we are about the same size but I have a medium frame (I have super broad shoulders for a women, it runs in the family!) and you claim to have a small frame... Still not much of a difference. You sound healthy, in my opinion. If you want to, just start taking walks and cut out junk food and sodas.

By the way, my boyfriend is 5 foot 6 and weighs maybe 130 pounds. He is extremely skinny, and has narrower shoulders than me. And he says he loves how much a weigh and he does not think skinny girls are attractive. He makes me feel good about myself... Your boyfriend sounds mean. I would not want to be with someone who made comments like that.

All very good points above, couldn't say it better myself.

That said, I am not going to lie, I like skinny boys. I can understand why you would want to look similar to them.

...BUT the skinniest I have EVER BEEN is 118 and I am 5'3. You should NEVER be skinnier than ~110-115 regardless of your "frame". Its unhealthy. (look up your BMI & body fat % for exact numbers)

Truthfully, based on what you have said, neither you nor your boyfriend have healthy eating habits regardless of your weight. Exercise and eat more fruits/veggies. No binging/purging. (Yes, you can purge without throwing-up or using meds.)

...AND work on your relationship or ditch it. The stress ALONE can put weight on you.

Good Luck!

I'm 5' 3" and I've never weighed more than 105 pounds. Before I began strength training I weighed 100-102 pounds. And yes, I have a small frame. It does make a difference. I'm just pointing our your general statement is incorrect. I may be on the low end of the spectrum but I was born that way. That doesn't make me unhealthy. I'm sure many other people are the same as me.

Like everyone said, he sounds like a total jerk and you should move on. Besides that, from what I'm gathering he is a type I and with habits like that he is putting himself into an early grave. Just because he is skinny doesn't mean he's healthy!

dump that lazy *kitten* sack of crap! He is definitely not a MAN if he has to live off of you and everybody else! I'm sure he puts you down just so he can feel like a MAN!

I'm not going to leave you judgemental comments or tell you how your boyfriend sounds like a total douche, because he obviously has to have some redeeming qualities that you find endearing or you wouldn't have spend years of your life taking his crap. I'm just going to give you some advice because I too have dealt with a (somewhat) similar problem in my relationship. I have been with my boyfriend going on 8 years. I've gained over 100 pounds in those 8 years. After all that weight, my boyfriend loves me just the same. He doesn't harp on my weight or make mean comments. But he sees how it effects ME and my day to day life and self esteem, so he encourages me to make a healthy change to better my life, and ultimately better his. For a little while, i was hung up on him making this change with me. I felt like I cant do this on my own, which is true. But he wasn't so keen on it at first, and thats when I started turning to MFP for the support I needed. Now, 3 months into my weight loss, he is more on board then ever.Maybe you need to do as I did, and have serious sit down talk with him. Tell him how it makes you feel with he insults you for eating vegatables. Tell him you are trying to make a change for your happieness and he can either be there for you or keep his mouth shut.
Since your boyfriend refuses to be your support system, you need to find something else. Even if its just logging in to MFP and randomly requesting Pals and then messaging them to try to get some people in your corner. Or join a gym and get a buddy. Find a healthy coworker thats willing to hear you out. This is a big piece of the puzzle that it sounds like your missing.

Next, you and your boyfriend need to start doing the grocery shopping TOGETHER. Make a list of all the healthy foods you need to buy, and then try to add them up to see how much its going to cost. If you have any money left, tell your boyfriend the rest of the money is his to buy is junk food with. Maybe you should make your own cabinet or fridge space and tell him thats your healthy cabinet that he's not to eat from?

I hope that you realize that you shouldn't be trying to lose weight for anyone but yourself. If you can live with a little bit of chub, but HE can't then its HIS problem, not yours. But if you are truly unhappy with your appearance, that quit starving yourself and start making REAL healthy choices. It sounds like you know what your doing isn't the 'right' way to do this. You need to focus on you and everyone else's opinions come second. I know its easier said than done when you put your boyfriend's wants and needs before your own sometimes, but it doesn't sound like he does the same. Good luck to you.

you should marry him

You need to lose about 120 pounds. Everyone before me who said Love Yourself and move on with your life was right! AND i'm 5'3 and there is not way you were chubby at 115.... If i was 115 my family would be calling an intervention... it sounds like you need an intervention of your own. Please love yourself and do what is good for you!

Dump his *kitten*!!