Biggest nutrition/weight loss/fitness pet peeves?

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When the people I'm around look at me like I'm insane or roll their eyes for counting calories before I eat...

Edit: -cough- the parents -cough-

"I don't sugar coat *kitten*...it's not all unicorns farting rainbows/fairy dust." Etc.

There are dozens, no hundreds, of experienced MFPers capable of giving out sound, science based, compassionate, educated advice without being obnoxious, rude, critical or judgemental. But when some are, in fact, obnoxious, rude, critical, judgemental and sometimes downright offensive, they wheel out this tired, overused excuse. Being "blunt" and "telling it like it is" is fine if you never learnt/can't be ar$ed to adopt the art of diplomacy or develop the gift of empathy, but don't defend it by using that smug, pre-school unicorn analogy. If you really don't care about how others interpret or react to what you have to say, why bother to justify it at all? Why do you even need to roll out the unicorn????

Other than that, my gears don't often grind. Just the farting unicorn thing.

^^^^^^THIS!!!!!!!! I sent an apology to an OP a while back, in behalf of all of the decent people on here that genuinely want to welcome and help new members. Her original opener could have been interpreted a few different ways. I saw an open invitation to new friends, and an enthusiasm to start taking care of her health. Several people came on and ripped her up, cut her down, and told her she was too sensitive and should get off if she couldn't handle it. I was stunned they could be so rude. So called "my way or the highway experts" but really egotistical self-ascribed know-it-alls with no compassion or empathy. I see she deactivated her account and left this site. Way to go people. Everyone that comes to this site (or really anywhere!) should be treated with equal status, and if they ask for help or show misinformed ideas, they should be responded to with caring and decency, not blunt judgemental rudeness. Don't we wish success for everyone that joins us here?

Agreed.

So many people have replied to me and given me the 'unicorn' statement. I have no regrets of showing compassion when someone needs it. People have no idea how much their environment affects their thoughts, there are a very small amount of people who are well educated about nutrition and exercise. Some people are completely off the map when it comes to the right direction, and it does not mean you should be rude and inconsiderate. Always give a friendly nudge in the right direction. If they dismiss your advice, then just proceed with your life. One day they'll understand, but that still does not warrant attitude.

Dear God how could I have forgotten my biggest pet peeve of all of them.

People who seem to believe that they won't effectively gain weight unless they supplement their workout by tagging themselves at the gym on Facebook and posting a picture while they are there, and also believe that their meal is unhealthy unless they take a picture of it first and then list all of the ingredients to their status.

You don't need to flood my news feed to be healthy. I have lost 50 lbs and never have I ever, even once, mentioned weight loss, health, nutrition, working out, or anything of the sort. STOP IT!

OMG I absolutely agree with this. People who post their statuses on Facebook drive me nuts! I don't care if you are at the gym working out or what you had for dinner!

I post on Facebook because people ask me to.... People ask me for advice and ask about my progress and request pictures and want to know what I am eating... But I put a full disclaimer that if you don't wanna know then delete me now because if I can inspire one person to better their life than it is completely worth the few people getting aggravated about what I post on my own page .. I also post a bit of it to my blog and if they want to see then the can click the link and go read

I love being inspired, Al Noog. And is that your dog on your pounds lost bar? Cute dog! (still trying to get the hang of this site, learning how Reply works)

Dear God how could I have forgotten my biggest pet peeve of all of them.

People who seem to believe that they won't effectively gain weight unless they supplement their workout by tagging themselves at the gym on Facebook and posting a picture while they are there, and also believe that their meal is unhealthy unless they take a picture of it first and then list all of the ingredients to their status.

You don't need to flood my news feed to be healthy. I have lost 50 lbs and never have I ever, even once, mentioned weight loss, health, nutrition, working out, or anything of the sort. STOP IT!

OMG I absolutely agree with this. People who post their statuses on Facebook drive me nuts! I don't care if you are at the gym working out or what you had for dinner!

I post on Facebook because people ask me to.... People ask me for advice and ask about my progress and request pictures and want to know what I am eating... But I put a full disclaimer that if you don't wanna know then delete me now because if I can inspire one person to better their life than it is completely worth the few people getting aggravated about what I post on my own page .. I also post a bit of it to my blog and if they want to see then the can click the link and go read

I love being inspired, Al Noog. And is that your dog on your pounds lost bar? Cute dog! (still trying to get the hang of this site, learning how Reply works)

Thank you!
yes that is my baby girl Lulu she's a yorkie. I have a baby boy named Remy that is half yorkie and half chihuahua.

You'll get the hang of the site soon and be a pro in no time!

People who tell me that 1200 calories isn't enough - I've done the calculator - I'm short, I'm not that active and I'm not 21 anymore- the number I get is 1228 for 'fat loss' sedentary. If I don't do any exercise that is what I am supposed to eat. Yes I eat back when I exercise, but don't assume everyone is the same. You know what assume means......

This!! I even had one person admit that she had more lean body mass than I have entire body weight. But she still couldn't get her mind around the fact that I maintain at just over 1500 cals and have to eat under 1300 to lose. And that is when I am exercising. When I don't exercise the numbers are even lower! It is hard enough to deal with these facts without lots of people telling me I am starving myself. The calculators don't lie.

My sister will not lose weight unless she eats below 1200, and she's far from sedentary. I agree with you, people shouldn't make blanket statements, assuming everyone will starve on a certain deficit. People are unique, that's what makes us all great.

Being interrupted & stopped over & over while working out by some bossy old man at the gym, & by gym I mean at home office, & by bossy old man I mean the impatient husbandish person I married & work for. I'd like to say "with" but can't tell HIM that.

He DOES do great work & he DOES support the diet part mostly, so it's just a peeve.

And he got me puppies. So, not a *pet* peeve.

Dear God how could I have forgotten my biggest pet peeve of all of them.

People who seem to believe that they won't effectively gain weight unless they supplement their workout by tagging themselves at the gym on Facebook and posting a picture while they are there, and also believe that their meal is unhealthy unless they take a picture of it first and then list all of the ingredients to their status.

You don't need to flood my news feed to be healthy. I have lost 50 lbs and never have I ever, even once, mentioned weight loss, health, nutrition, working out, or anything of the sort. STOP IT!

OMG I absolutely agree with this. People who post their statuses on Facebook drive me nuts! I don't care if you are at the gym working out or what you had for dinner!

I post on Facebook because people ask me to.... People ask me for advice and ask about my progress and request pictures and want to know what I am eating... But I put a full disclaimer that if you don't wanna know then delete me now because if I can inspire one person to better their life than it is completely worth the few people getting aggravated about what I post on my own page .. I also post a bit of it to my blog and if they want to see then the can click the link and go read

I love being inspired, Al Noog. And is that your dog on your pounds lost bar? Cute dog! (still trying to get the hang of this site, learning how Reply works)

Ooops, still getting the hang of this! And she's adorable

We needed this thread

I agree with you on the women and weights thing. It makes me facepalm when women say "They don't want to gain all kinds of muscle and look manly" as if gaining even a pound of muscle is easy.

One of my biggest ones though: When you politely decline a doughnut, pastry, etc. and people get offended. They assume you think you're better than them for not eating it and that you have a holier than thou complex when in all actuality, you think nothing even close to that. This really grinds my gears!!!

THIS!!

We've had a rash of retirements at work lately and I've been trying to navigate the tricky dance of saying my goodbyes while politely declining the obligatory 3-4 offers of cake and having to explain why I don't want any each and every time!

I'll add that I hate how much emphasis we put on weight rather than strength and overall health. I've finally realized at 35 that being skinny and weak is not what I want - I want to optimize this body and keep challenging it for the rest of my life!

Peeves - eating chemicals rather than real food because it has 0 calories (diet soda, tofu, diet salad dressing and packets of powerdy stuff you mix with water and voila out comes your lunch.

peeves - anything nasty tasting to me - mushrooms, kale, tofu, balsamic vinegar, etc.

my friend who is kinda preachy on his diet, the preaching turns me off though he is losing tons of weight per week. (ideal protein diet).

When someone sees me eat a cookie and they say, "Oh you went off your diet?"

ahh but did you??

Since it is not a diet but a lifstyle change, so if you used to eat 2 or 3 cookies and are now only eating one you did not go off.:laugh:

Peeve- is when someone says to you why are you losing wieght, you look okay.

OH I forgot one more thing. when i know exactly what I can eat, and i am enjoying it and my friend who is on this other diet, keeps saying to me certain things that drive me nuts,,, its not on HIS diet,.

Like, the day i chose a delicious healthy salad that i loved and it had Poppyseed dressing. it was the chicken poppy seed and fruit salad. if any of you have gone to Portillos, they make the best fattening beef sandwiches and other yummy fast food, but qualify fast food, and they have some very delicious salads. so instead of congratulating me on the delicious salad, all he could focus on was "the crap food from Portillos and ohhh that poppyseed dressing has too much sugar".. all he saw out of the good things that salad had also the fact that I was able to choose a salad in a fast food restaunt should have counted for something but noooo.. all he saw was SUGAR.. sheesh.

sheesh!!! portillos makes EXCELLENT food by the way.

I really dont feel like discussing my food choices with a person who thinks i should do things his way.

1. Fruit makes you fat myth. It annoys me beyond belief. I listened to a group of women discuss why you shouldn't eat fruit and how fattening bananas are. They were having this discussion over pie. Really?

2. When people know I've lost weight and have been in maintenance for 5 years (and still have weight to lose) but constantly ask me "are you still on a diet?" when they see me eating healthy food or if I DO eat something unhealthy, they ask if I'm done dieting now. They don't get the "lifestyle change" concept.

3. When people comment on my portion sizes when I pack my lunch or dinner. It can be a low calorie meal, but have a large volume from lots of veggies, etc and Ive had someone say "wow, isn't that too much food for weight loss?" while they're eating a much smaller volume of food, but with double the calories due to it being a calorie dense processed food.

4. Weight loss products that only work by creating caloric deficit, which you can do without the product (like Slimfast or Special K diet, etc). These annoy me because people believe it's the product itself if they don't understand calories, or if they are new to weight loss/healthier living. I am also annoyed by people who continue to blindly argue that certain weight loss gimmicks work despite logic being presented to them.

Wow, lots of pages I need to read through later, sorry if I'm repeating...

I have a 'friend' who belongs to a particular diet cult (not naming names). Generally, I don't have any issue with the plan, if that is your things, but it is not one I would do long-term, nor one I really care to do short term. That's just me. But the 'cult-like' behavior drives me bat s**t crazy. My skin gets prickly every time the subject comes up because I know where it leads. "Hey, you really NEED to try this. It is more awesome than a pig in a bacon tuxedo, and you'll lose 5 thousand pounds in 3 days. Best part, it ONLY cost half a week's salary! Really, it is a wash because you'll save that money at the supermarket by not buying any of the foods you enjoy. And, I sell it, so you can always buy it through me. Whosey-whats-it, So & so, and Whatchamacallit are all doing it. Don't they look fabulous?!" And when you politely decline- for reasons stated above- suddenly YOU'VE become the "know it all". :grumble:

Whew...I feel better now. Cheers. :drinker:

You like beer AND hate culty diets? You are a good person :flowerforyou:

The idea that weight loss means following a pain in the keister fad diet made up of expensive things.