question for guys- more so for guys who are FIT.

So I just looked at your profile and I have a question. You were once not much less than the woman whose body your BF hated. And great job losing that weight, BUT ... Statistically, you are likely to regain the weight you lost. Hopefully, you won't. However, sometimes regain happens for reasons out of our control.

So what happens between you and the love of your life if you regain your weight?

I am sure she understands that she will be physically less desireable if that happens. That is pretty much simple reality. Sometimes in society we want to deny what is obvious because it is unpleasant.

Take the pictures of me below - am I suppose to be in denial that if I go back to being the person on the left, that I won't be as desireable to my wife? Of course I wouldn't be.

I'm sorry that's the case for you. And I mean that sincerely.

My wife has lost weight at the same time as me, 50 pounds. I will go ahead and be a horrible person and admit that I find her more physically desireable now.

My wife has lost weight at the same time as me, 50 pounds. I will go ahead and be a horrible person and admit that I find her more physically desireable now.

You superficial, chauvinist jerk!!!

My wife has lost weight at the same time as me, 50 pounds. I will go ahead and be a horrible person and admit that I find her more physically desireable now.

You superficial, chauvinist jerk!!!

LOL at least I am honest though right. That has to count for something.

Depends on many things. How fat? I've dated a girl who was overweight for well over a year. 250lbs? No, I wouldn't. More so because that would preclude a lot of activities (skiing, rigorous hiking, wakeboarding, etc).

First, 250 pounds on a -foot tall woman is not the same as 250 pounds on a 5-foot tall woman (same for 180) so how do you put a number on that?

Second, my neighbor is probably closer to 5 feet tall, I'd say she weighs about 300 pounds and she runs marathons.

Oh you and your stories.

I'm sorry that I busted your PC excuse. You could just be honest and say you don't find an overweight woman physically attractive. It really is OK to admit to that.

5 feet tall, 300lbs and she runs marathons? That is a blatant lie.

Girls, if you like girls you can answer also.


Would you date a fat girl?
What is your weight limit. Does she have to be as fit as you?
What if she's pretty in the face? Is body more important - I'd think so.

I know I ain't **** myself, trust me I know my flaws.. i don't need to be told.
He answered as if he is fit...."would you date a fat girl?"- "no way" .
Kay reeelax.

Girls, if you like girls you can answer also.


Would you date a fat girl?
What is your weight limit. Does she have to be as fit as you?
What if she's pretty in the face? Is body more important - I'd think so.

1) No way.
2) No specific weight limit. That would really just depend on height and where she holds her extra weight (a few strategically placed extra lbs are a plus for me)
3) I wouldn't date a girl unless I liked the way her face and her body looked. If I'm going to be sleeping with this person I would like to enjoy it!

But you are fat yourself

Funny how you call him fat when you don't even have a profile pic.

ETA: Nvm not worth a strike.

So I just looked at your profile and I have a question. You were once not much less than the woman whose body your BF hated. And great job losing that weight, BUT ... Statistically, you are likely to regain the weight you lost. Hopefully, you won't. However, sometimes regain happens for reasons out of our control.

So what happens between you and the love of your life if you regain your weight?

I am sure she understands that she will be physically less desireable if that happens. That is pretty much simple reality. Sometimes in society we want to deny what is obvious because it is unpleasant.

Take the pictures of me below - am I suppose to be in denial that if I go back to being the person on the left, that I won't be as desireable to my wife? Of course I wouldn't be.

I'm sorry that's the case for you. And I mean that sincerely.

I am sorry you are naive enough to completely deny the existence of physical attraction. And I mean that sincerely.

It surprises me how superficial some people can be about the person they are supposed to love. My husband and I have been together for almost 24 years, married 22 of them. He tells me that when he looks at me, he still sees the 23 year old young (thin) woman he fell in love with. When I look at him, I see the 30 year old man I fell in love with. He is approximately 60 lbs heavier than he was when we married and I am approximately 40 lbs heavier than I was when we married. We both still find each other very physically attractive and have fun time 2-3 times a week, even after all those years. Because we love each other. I am much more active than him and run 3 times a week. On the days I don't run, we walk the dogs together to spend time time with each other and get some exercise. On the weekend, we do lots of outdoor activities. He's a bit more limited on his exercise because he has muscular dystrophy, but he still does as much as he can. And I'm okay with that because I love him for him.

Ok, I am just going to go ahead and be a d*ck here and tell the truth.

With few exceptions, the guys who say "I like them big" are telling themselves that because they don't have the confidence or the ability to get a fit lady.

Once they do....they really aren't into the big ladies anymore.

There are exceptions of course, but there is a reason you usually see fit guys with fit girls...although the reverse is not always true. Girls aren't as superficial as guys usually.

Living proof my bf spent twenty years married to a 250 plus lb woman he said he hated it but he loved her. I am very tiny compared to her and he says it is the total opposite he loves it and will never again be with a bigger girl!

Send your boyfriend my way and I'll bring him back to the plus-size team. :flowerforyou: