People suck.

This is... kind of funny to me. Not funny ha-ha, but I guess kind of ironic. My co-worker and I are both losing weight, in different ways and with different methods, but we help back each other up. She weighs her food, down to the iota, because she's focused on getting to a certain body fat percentage. She also has celiac disease, so she has to be VERY careful about what she eats. She's CONSTANTLY getting remarks in the office about "Oh wow, you're weighing again?" or "Chicken again?" and so on. When she first told me this, I didn't really believe it. I get a comment or two, because people are naturally curious about things that they don't understand. But I've witnessed it... from more than one person, multiple times.

However, she will join in on the celebrations when we have group activities. She'll adjust her journal and her diet to fit it in, so that she can partake because she understands that when she brings her own food, people can take offense. They often feel as if their food isn't good enough, that you think you're better than them, etc. This may not be the case at all, but from your tone, it may hit closer to home than intended.

Also, coworkers DO feel its okay to tease each other, especially if they like you or are close to you. If you've never mentioned that you don't like it when they act like that, they may think that its perfectly acceptable and that you have no issues with it.
I've started saying "Yep, I've got goals to reach and I need to stick to my guns! I really appreciate all the effort you guys put in though!" You catch more flies with honey....

This is... kind of funny to me. Not funny ha-ha, but I guess kind of ironic. My co-worker and I are both losing weight, in different ways and with different methods, but we help back each other up. She weighs her food, down to the iota, because she's focused on getting to a certain body fat percentage. She also has celiac disease, so she has to be VERY careful about what she eats. She's CONSTANTLY getting remarks in the office about "Oh wow, you're weighing again?" or "Chicken again?" and so on. When she first told me this, I didn't really believe it. I get a comment or two, because people are naturally curious about things that they don't understand. But I've witnessed it... from more than one person, multiple times.

However, she will join in on the celebrations when we have group activities. She'll adjust her journal and her diet to fit it in, so that she can partake because she understands that when she brings her own food, people can take offense. They often feel as if their food isn't good enough, that you think you're better than them, etc. This may not be the case at all, but from your tone, it may hit closer to home than intended.

Also, coworkers DO feel its okay to tease each other, especially if they like you or are close to you. If you've never mentioned that you don't like it when they act like that, they may think that its perfectly acceptable and that you have no issues with it.
I've started saying "Yep, I've got goals to reach and I need to stick to my guns! I really appreciate all the effort you guys put in though!" You catch more flies with honey....

So what you are saying is that in order for her to stick to a plan that has nothing to do with affecting their way of life, she has to walk on egg shells to not make them feel uncomfortable about something trival... but it's okay for them to make her feel uncomfortable in her pursuit to feel better about herself because they "could" be offended if she didn't take a bite of lasagna?

Not sure how that's okay.

Not sure how I said any of that. I said what "she does" (my coworker) and "what I do". I've also tried to explain what the other side may be thinking, and it could be that both sides see themselves as the victim. Just trying to give a little perspective to similar situations. And its true, you win over more people with niceness than you will with rudeness. Especially when it comes to coworkers, the balance of happiness is a thin one. I, personally, would rather get along with my coworkers by making the SMALL sacrifice of eating someone's home cooking vs. getting worked up over someone else's opinion. I never said she had to do anything, nor did I suggest that their feelings overrode hers.

Again "If you've never mentioned that you don't like it when they act like that, they may think that its perfectly acceptable and that you have no issues with it." This is the only thing that I actually said about the OP's situation. If she doesn't speak up about it, it's not going to change, and she's going to keep resenting them over it and they're going to keep saying it and she's going to start hating work and nothing positive will come out of it.

I didn't realize that mentioning portion control and other people's feeling were taboo. My bad.

I had a very similar experience at a workplace. The food that was cooked was often VERY carb heavy...and multiple choices of dessert every meal. I typically brought my own lunches. One day, the dessert was strawberry cake. It looked AMAZING. Yes, I was fixated somewhat...but then I said "no" AND OMG EVERY co-worker had something to say. One co-worker actually waved the cake on a plate in front of my face.

While suddenly, I made a joke of it...another co worker (who was also eating the cake) shut the entire table up by saying "we are just pressuring you to eat the cake because we feel guilty for eating it". Done.

To add...this was a drug/alcohol treatment centre for youth. Needless to say...I used it as a perfect example of how even as adults, you experience peer pressure and just have to say NO.

So today we had a slightly impromptu potluck and I thought I'd share the results. It was slightly impromptu because I completely forgot about it until last night.

I managed to leave 500 calories in my day, AND I ate the potluck food, AND I didn't have to come to MFP to rant about the stuff your face fest or how horrible people treated me.

I managed all of that by offering to cook something I knew fit into my calories (shredded chicken taco filling with red leaf lettuce wrap), taking small portions of food I had to have, and not taking one of everything. I had a half of a doughnut, a half cup of corn salad, and turned down the queso and chips. No one asked me why I wasn't taking queso, because I was engaging with them, had food on my plate, and didn't act like this was some huge conscious act of sabotage to my diet.

Also, just to note, people not liking what one is doing is NOT a sign of jealousy. I wish people would stop with that.
Person #1 "That girl said my dress was unflattering."
Person #2 "Oh nevermind her, she's just jealous you can wear those (bright clashing fugly) prints."
Person #1 "Oh yeah, totally. Poor loser."

No, she's not jealous. That's really an unflattering dress. But if it makes one feel better when one receives criticism, well, okay then.

My husband has this same problem. Sometimes the hardest part of dieting is other people. Especially when you work in an office. Hold to your guns! Then you can be the skinny ***** they all hate:) Keep up the good work!

When my office has a luncheon or potluck I don't eat tons and tons of food...I just eat a normal amount of food and enjoy myself. There are some really exceptional cooks at my office and I enjoy their cooking and I can easily manage to hit my calorie goals and macro goals. Portion control is a beautiful thing...you don't have to eat granola bars and diet food and what not to lose weight...you can eat actual food and stuff.

Many people when they are just starting find it hard to deviate from the plan without going overboard. She is doing a good job by understanding herself and what she can handle. One step at a time.

Portion control seems like step one to me. *shrugs*

Right and if portion control is preplanning your meals everyday so that you know what you're eating then she's doing it. I preportion ALL of my meals during the work week. I know exactly what I am eating and the macro nutrients in it. Someone brought in donuts to my class. I didn't take one. they looked AMAZING, but I'd already eaten all my calories by 8pm, so I couldn't have one. Weekends are terrible for me because I have to feed my boyfriend too. So I completely understand not wanting to have to worry during the week about messing up my planned meals

No one got fat in one day. Just saying.

So today we had a slightly impromptu potluck and I thought I'd share the results. It was slightly impromptu because I completely forgot about it until last night.

I managed to leave 500 calories in my day, AND I ate the potluck food, AND I didn't have to come to MFP to rant about the stuff your face fest or how horrible people treated me.

I managed all of that by offering to cook something I knew fit into my calories (shredded chicken taco filling with red leaf lettuce wrap), taking small portions of food I had to have, and not taking one of everything. I had a half of a doughnut, a half cup of corn salad, and turned down the queso and chips. No one asked me why I wasn't taking queso, because I was engaging with them, had food on my plate, and didn't act like this was some huge conscious act of sabotage to my diet.

Also, just to note, people not liking what one is doing is NOT a sign of jealousy. I wish people would stop with that.
Person #1 "That girl said my dress was unflattering."
Person #2 "Oh nevermind her, she's just jealous you can wear those (bright clashing fugly) prints."
Person #1 "Oh yeah, totally. Poor loser."

No, she's not jealous. That's really an unflattering dress. But if it makes one feel better when one receives criticism, well, okay then.

Wow, that was hostile.

Straight truth =/= Hostile. Sorry you don't understand it.

So today we had a slightly impromptu potluck and I thought I'd share the results. It was slightly impromptu because I completely forgot about it until last night.

I managed to leave 500 calories in my day, AND I ate the potluck food, AND I didn't have to come to MFP to rant about the stuff your face fest or how horrible people treated me.

I managed all of that by offering to cook something I knew fit into my calories (shredded chicken taco filling with red leaf lettuce wrap), taking small portions of food I had to have, and not taking one of everything. I had a half of a doughnut, a half cup of corn salad, and turned down the queso and chips. No one asked me why I wasn't taking queso, because I was engaging with them, had food on my plate, and didn't act like this was some huge conscious act of sabotage to my diet.

Also, just to note, people not liking what one is doing is NOT a sign of jealousy. I wish people would stop with that.
Person #1 "That girl said my dress was unflattering."
Person #2 "Oh nevermind her, she's just jealous you can wear those (bright clashing fugly) prints."
Person #1 "Oh yeah, totally. Poor loser."

No, she's not jealous. That's really an unflattering dress. But if it makes one feel better when one receives criticism, well, okay then.

Wow, that was hostile.

Me thinks you should look up the definition of 'hostile'. It's called bluntness and snark.

Oh yeah. And truth.

And, on the jealously note, what are people jealous of in this situation? The OP and how she isn't eating what is supposed to be tasty food? ...k. I know I boil with jealously when I see people not eating delicious food.


Like. Wut?