Have you ever been celibate?

6+ months. Military deployments are a b!tch.

Preach.

Don't change it.

The definition of celibacy is not the abstention from all sexual activity. That is a contemporary usage that isn't even all that common. The correct and actual definition of celibacy is as follows, and most people here are using the word correctly.

Definition of CELIBACY

1: the state of not being married
2
a : abstention from sexual intercourse
b : abstention by vow from marriage

How long and why?

30 years and counting.

I'd be lying if I said religion didn't have something to do with it, but it's not the only reason.

For one thing, my parents and I started having "the talk" when I was in first grade (courtesy of Peter Mayle's book, "Where did I come from?"). That whole time, it wasn't "when a man and a woman have...." but it was mommy and daddy or husband and wife. There was no doom and gloom or "you're going to hell if you don't wait for marriage". It's simply how it was understood. It was something a husband and wife did.

But the BIG factor, since reaching adulthood where I was free to go out and do all those things is that I have seen every form of birth control fail. This includes a couple where BOTH the man and woman had their respective tubes tied and / or snipped, which to me is the most aggressive form of birth control out there. But on top of all that, the situations where the individuals weathered the unexpected pregnancy the best were the ones where they were basically in a committed relationship, already.

Added on top of that, as a supervisor, I've seen people deal with special needs children. Once again, where the couple is in some form of committed relationship, life is a lot easier.

So, because I haven't found a woman I'm willing to enter into a committed relationship with and / or otherwise be connected to as the father of her child, I keep my genitals to myself. Because if I did father a child, no matter how unintentionally, I'm going to BE there for that child and the mother.


Also, while it's not necessarily "romantic", but it's as close as I get to romantic when discussing this matter, being in the military means I've had to live with all kinds of people. I've eaten with them, lived with them, shared rooms with them, talked about our hopes for the future with them, even cried with them. In my private life, I've kissed and hugged women, too. So I'm holding back on sex so that, if and when I do find a woman I want to settle down with I have SOMETHING in the relationship that I've shared only with her beyond filing jointly for taxes and social security benefits.



It's not easy. I get urges just like everyone else. But the biggest headache is when people make the assumption that my being a virgin means I'm uncomfortable with women or with the idea of sex. That couldn't be farther from the truth. I simply made the active, conscious choice to abstain from sex.

you're all nuts

you're all nuts

I had to scratch mine yesterday. I had logged them in my diary, but then I went to eat them and someone had left the empty canister on the counter! :sad:

Yup, til I was 15

I was 9

I am so sad for you. 9 is just a kid. How awful

Maybe this is why I train so hard hehe!

Until I was 16, then it has went downhill from there. 3 times a day would be great!

Lol, after having my kid, it was about a year till sex was on again. But at least there was Pornhub.

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That is unfortunate. Reason #2 on why I am never having kids

Yes .-. lol

This whole topic reminds me of this song:


Dear penis, I don't think I like you anymore
You used to watch me shave, now all you do is stare at the floor
Ohhhh dear penis, I don't like you anymore
Used to be you and me, a paper towel and a dirty magazine
That's all we needed to get by
Now It seems things have changed, I think that your the one to blame
Dear penis I don't like you anymore

He sings:

Dear Rodney, I don't think I like you anymore
Cause when you get to drinkin', you put me places I've never been before
Dear Rodney, I don't like you anymore
Why cant we just get a grip on our man to hand relationship
Come to terms with truly how we feel
If we put our heads together we'll just stay home forever
Dear penis, I think I like you after all

Oh and Rodney,
While yer shavin',
Shave my balls

Some unwanted dry spells, yes. :ohwell: By choice, never.
Also, 10 pages in and here's this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o

Lol, after having my kid, it was about a year till sex was on again. But at least there was Pornhub.

A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
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Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

That is unfortunate. Reason #2 on why I am never having kids

It was great, back in the day, to spend the afternoon having "fun" on the couch, in the kitchen, out in the backyard in the rain, etc., without having to worry where the kids were or if they'd walk into the house / barn / down on the riverbank (etc.) and see something they shouldn't. Once you have kids, spontaneous adult fun flies out the window. That's one of many reasons I refused to have kids.]

Oh spontaneous adult fun doesn't fly out the window when you have kids, you just have to be more creative. Trust me :bigsmile:

The first thirteen years of my life. and several spans when I was married.

2 years the last time.
No idea why... Just lost interest.
It seems to happen now and again... I read a lot during those times. It's part of the reason I gained all the weight. Like a protective shield I guess. I was always aware of what I was doing with my food intake.
I might be heading down the celibacy road again but this time i will get intimidatingly muscular and throw people across the room if they hit on me