Person called me fat at the gym!

I went to the gym today and was on the elliptical and a man came up to me and told me I look like I was about to break the machine. I asked him what he meant and he told me a person my size should not be using expensive equipment and that his gym membership fees were contributing to fat people like me breaking gym equipment. I don't feel like ever going back to the gym. Has anyone ever had a similar problem?
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  • You should ask him how he made it to the gym because if he is so stupid it is surprising he could find his way..That is bullying and it is not acceptable. No one should comment on anyone trying to make improvements in their health, no matter what their size is. No, that has not happened to me but I am very sorry that this has happened to you. Don't let this bully win, go back and use the same machine again. I would have gone straight away and reported it, but if he does it again go and tell management and hopefully he will be kicked out.
  • Hammybone
    Hammybone Posts: 36 Member
    You should report this incident to your gym's management.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Should have reported it right away.
  • C3001
    C3001 Posts: 28 Member
    I'm sorry that you had to experience that! Report him is right. My suggestion for you is to KNOW that you are such a more awesome person than that dude! Next time you see him at the gym, make sure to smile and go say hello. Introduce yourself shake his hand and let him know you missed his name last time you were fortunate enough to chat with him. Report said name but kill 'em with kindness. Usually the real jerks gets super confused by people not responding to their bully confrontations.
  • Maleficent0241
    Maleficent0241 Posts: 386 Member
    Wow, someone wouldn't have any functioning testicles left if they came and said that to me.

    If you see him there again, I would still report him. That is beyond unacceptable.
  • Ainar
    Ainar Posts: 858 Member
    I don't feel like ever going back to the gym. Has anyone ever had a similar problem?
    Yep... in high school, not in that kind of setting tho. Bullies gonna bull if you let them. Yes, the guy is an *kitten* but it's your fault non the less that you just let him talk like that to yourself and not do anything about it. Report him to your gym at least.
  • cpcoursec
    cpcoursec Posts: 82 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.
  • Nicolee_2014
    Nicolee_2014 Posts: 1,572 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.

    I thought the same...But, then again, it could be legit.
  • cpcoursec
    cpcoursec Posts: 82 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.

    I thought the same...But, then again, it could be legit.

    They allegedly went to the gym today...not tonight. If that really happened and they were that upset they would of posted earlier. Also, you join a gym trying to get healthy, you have been working out and this is your second post?

    Go with your gut instinct...not legit.

    ETA: He writes "and a man walked up to me." that's a girl talking. As a guy, you would write...and another guy said to me....or, some dude said to me...
  • Hammybone
    Hammybone Posts: 36 Member
    ETA: He writes "and a man walked up to me." that's a girl talking. As a guy, you would write...and another guy said to me....or, some dude said to me...

    How is it you know these things?
  • Ainar
    Ainar Posts: 858 Member


    ETA: He writes "and a man walked up to me." that's a girl talking. As a guy, you would write...and another guy said to me....or, some dude said to me...
    I would write as OP did... Oh damn! I guess that means I am a girl?! OMG! Holy crap! Thank you for enlightening me! It turns out I've been living in lie all my life!
  • Shropshire1959
    Shropshire1959 Posts: 982 Member
    You should have decked the ****!
  • MysteriousLdy
    MysteriousLdy Posts: 306 Member
    I went to the gym today and was on the elliptical and a man came up to me and told me I look like I was about to break the machine. I asked him what he meant and he told me a person my size should not be using expensive equipment and that his gym membership fees were contributing to fat people like me breaking gym equipment. I don't feel like ever going back to the gym. Has anyone ever had a similar problem?

    Yeah..when I had my health checkup ,back in year 2011(at 242-250lbs,I assumed) I had to run on treadmill as well as blood tests taken. On the day my health report was out, I went to see my own cardiac doctor for the review of my report ( I work in hospital)

    First thing he asked me was "Did the treadmill machine broke when you run on it?" I was speechless, but I kept it cool and just smiled at him. No one knew how hurt that words meant to me.

    That's where I gathered all my courage and determined to lose weight and be healthy. So far I did it successfully, managed to shed more than 50lbs, halfway to my goal now
  • MystikPixie
    MystikPixie Posts: 342 Member
    Nobody is above a swift kick in the balls. Just sayin.
  • michellemybelll
    michellemybelll Posts: 2,228 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.

    I thought the same...But, then again, it could be legit.

    They allegedly went to the gym today...not tonight. If that really happened and they were that upset they would of posted earlier. Also, you join a gym trying to get healthy, you have been working out and this is your second post?

    Go with your gut instinct...not legit.

    ETA: He writes "and a man walked up to me." that's a girl talking. As a guy, you would write...and another guy said to me....or, some dude said to me...
    different time zones dumbass. the population of the entire world doesn't live in your time zone. as far as how he composed his topic, WTF are you talking about? he's a young kid (22), it's not at all uncommon - regardless of age - for one man to refer to another man as, well, a man. lol. get your head out of your *kitten*.
  • Shropshire1959
    Shropshire1959 Posts: 982 Member
    Nobody is above a swift kick in the balls. Just sayin.

    ^^damned straight!
  • zeal26
    zeal26 Posts: 602 Member
    What a stupid *kitten*. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Report it to the gym and keep on going there- clearly HE'S the one with the problem. No decent human being would act like that to another person.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.

    I thought the same...But, then again, it could be legit.

    They allegedly went to the gym today...not tonight. If that really happened and they were that upset they would of posted earlier. Also, you join a gym trying to get healthy, you have been working out and this is your second post?

    Go with your gut instinct...not legit.

    ETA: He writes "and a man walked up to me." that's a girl talking. As a guy, you would write...and another guy said to me....or, some dude said to me...

    yeah because of course everyone in the whole world lives in the same time zone as you and uses language in the exact same way that people do where you live....

    I know plenty of men who's refer to another man as "a man" seeing as that's the standard term for an adult male human, and as his location isn't on his profile you have no idea what time of day it is where he lives.


    OP: report it, that's just totally effing rude, this is definitely not a case of you being oversensitive (not like all the "backhanded compliment" threads on this site) and he's probably said it to a bunch of other people as well because that's how people like him tend to operate.
  • teenyjem
    teenyjem Posts: 46 Member
    1, Report him. It is totally unacceptable.
    2, Keep on it. You will get there. Do NOT stop going. Stick to your routine. These things happen (unfortunately) and these are the times that will be the ultimate test for you.
    3, Remember, He who laughs last, laughs longest. Karma will come back and bite this loser on the *kitten*.

    I know what it is like to have horrid things said to me, but I know I am better than these bullies.
    Keep on. Do not stop or this idiot who said this would have won. And we don't want that.

    T xx
  • brevislux
    brevislux Posts: 1,093 Member
    Tell the staff, this man should be kicked out.
  • Skinny_minny_mo
    Skinny_minny_mo Posts: 1,272 Member
    Nobody is above a swift kick in the balls. Just sayin.

    I'm with her.

    His ugly words are a reflection of him. You are there to get fit. Report him (if you havent already) and try not to give a flying *kitten*.
  • loubidy
    loubidy Posts: 440 Member
    ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!?!?! I WOULD HAVE SWUNG FOR HIM!!!

    Definitely report that. Absolutely DISGUSTING behaviour!!


    Good for you for doing something about your size. You were on that elliptical for a reason. You should be proud of yourself.
  • jobegone
    jobegone Posts: 91
    Report it for sure, a gym is not a place to be calling someone out on their size or shape when you're ultimately there to improve your health and fitness. What a prickoid.

    In the past I have been called out when I'm running , mostly by little chavs and I just hold my head up and think to myself, I'm doing this for me, or training for a charity run to raise money, what are they doing-walking the streets with no purpose in life probably living pretty unhealthily so feck them. I'm the better person.

    Go back to the gym, ignore these complete morons and become the person you want to be. You'll have the last laugh.
  • LadyK1P1
    LadyK1P1 Posts: 69
    Everyone has some faults and some shortcomings. It sounds like you unfortunately encountered a bully of some sort - they point out other people's "whatever" to try to make themselves "look better" (they have low self esteem and look for what THEY PERCEIVE to be "faults" in others. If you're "running your race" and someone starts something from the grandstands - don't leave the track to get into it with them. You may win the argument but lose the race for getting off the track. Ignore the idiot. His words are not who or what you are. Be better than being his "verbal victim".

    This toad at the gym was just an in person telemarketer (no offense to anyone intended if that's what you do for a living) and you just have to train yourself to mentally say "no thank you" and hang up on them and refocus on what you were doing in the first place.

    I wouldn't stay away from anywhere on account of one person. Treat yourself to a really cute and colorful workout outfit, go back and have fun :-)
  • mzbek24
    mzbek24 Posts: 436 Member
    I would have reported it to management...maybe they can ban the *kitten*. I reallly don't get why people knock others down for getting out and having a go.

    I hope you will have the strength push through and still go back again and work out. I think it may be hard on you the first few times if it is on your mind, but hopefully you won't have to come into contact again.

    In a way you should go back just to prove that you cannot be brought down by his bull****, take the anger and hurt and use it as fuel to improve and reach your goals there as you have every damn right to do. There may be many road blocks on your journey, don't let it stand in your way! think of all the calories you burned in your efforts!

    A guy yelled something out of a car yesterday when I was riding my bike, exhausted towards the end of the workout and really slowly getting up a hill. I was like "Meh, not letting that get to me...I'm burning heaps of calories, and I CAN make it up this hill when a month ago I couldnt without hopping off and walking"

    If that doesn't work and he still bothers you, report him. You deserve to feel comfortable and abuse free in the place you work out, and if you feel bad about it it may be demotivating and hinder your progress. Just do what is going to be best for you :)
  • MysteriousLdy
    MysteriousLdy Posts: 306 Member
    ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!?!?! I WOULD HAVE SWUNG FOR HIM!!!

    Definitely report that. Absolutely DISGUSTING behaviour!!


    Good for you for doing something about your size. You were on that elliptical for a reason. You should be proud of yourself.

    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

    Yeah..Don't let bullies get you
  • MysteriousLdy
    MysteriousLdy Posts: 306 Member
    I would have reported it to management...maybe they can ban the *kitten*. I reallly don't get why people knock others down for getting out and having a go.

    I hope you will have the strength push through and still go back again and work out. I think it may be hard on you the first few times if it is on your mind, but hopefully you won't have to come into contact again.

    In a way you should go back just to prove that you cannot be brought down by his bull****, take the anger and hurt and use it as fuel to improve and reach your goals there as you have every damn right to do. There may be many road blocks on your journey, don't let it stand in your way! think of all the calories you burned in your efforts!

    A guy yelled something out of a car yesterday when I was riding my bike and struggling up a hill. I was like "Meh, not letting that get to me...I'm burning heaps of calories, and I CAN make it up this hill when a month ago I couldnt without hopping off and walking"

    If that doesn't work and he still bothers you, report him. Or seek out a female gym. You deserve to feel comfortable and abuse free in the place you work out, and if you feel bad about it it may be demotivating and hinder your progress. Just do what is going to be best for you :)

    Umm..OP is a young man of 22
  • mzbek24
    mzbek24 Posts: 436 Member
    I would have reported it to management...maybe they can ban the *kitten*. I reallly don't get why people knock others down for getting out and having a go.

    I hope you will have the strength push through and still go back again and work out. I think it may be hard on you the first few times if it is on your mind, but hopefully you won't have to come into contact again.

    In a way you should go back just to prove that you cannot be brought down by his bull****, take the anger and hurt and use it as fuel to improve and reach your goals there as you have every damn right to do. There may be many road blocks on your journey, don't let it stand in your way! think of all the calories you burned in your efforts!

    A guy yelled something out of a car yesterday when I was riding my bike and struggling up a hill. I was like "Meh, not letting that get to me...I'm burning heaps of calories, and I CAN make it up this hill when a month ago I couldnt without hopping off and walking"

    If that doesn't work and he still bothers you, report him. Or seek out a female gym. You deserve to feel comfortable and abuse free in the place you work out, and if you feel bad about it it may be demotivating and hinder your progress. Just do what is going to be best for you :)

    Umm..OP is a young man of 22

    Omg crap sorry! I just didn't look at the profile and there was no pic here so I stupidly guessed wrong. Fixed my post :) soooo sorry OP! hope that I didn't make you feel worse.
  • coolblondenerd
    coolblondenerd Posts: 90 Member
    Report that <insert expletive here>! You are going to the gym to get healthy, and you're paying membership fees just like he is! You have every right to use whatever machine you want!
  • Snow3y
    Snow3y Posts: 1,412 Member
    You should have told him that you may choose to go to another gym so you could avoid his ghastly looking face, and bad smell. (he would thus be made complexed) *kitten* like that deserve to be brought down.