Is MFP used as a dating site?

Well, is it? I have had friends tell me they have found plenty of people to message… privately and discreetly with pictures, etc.

Oh, that's how dating sites are supposed to work? Here I've been sending true conversational messages to men and posting respectable photos that don't lead to public embarrassment. I didn't realize I was supposed to be sending nudes and dirty messages to strangers thousands of miles away.

What a weird and oversexualized definition of "dating".

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Well it is the internet. Women and men in the same place with the same goal... Noooooooo hanky panky could ever come from that.

She didn't quote you, so it is POSSIBLE that she wasn't directing her comments to you specifically.

I am married, my husband is on this site, commenting in this very thread. I still have fun in the chit chat section. That's what it is designed for.

Also completely missed the point... What I am referring to happens in private. I am not talking about stupid flirting in the "hot or not" threads... So you can take your aggressive tone and twist it anyway you want :-)

Ermmmm would we call that aggressive?

Ermmmm would we call that aggressive?

Maybe abrasive would be a better word?

It can be, I mean it has a private method for messaging, you can gain some insight in what a persons like and their technical 'availability' by getting to know them on the boards or as a 'friend' and it can turn into something.

Not unheard of anywhere, even WoW can lead to marriage hahaha, I've heard of that happening numerous times!

WoW, can even destroy relationships and marriages as it did mine, though I think it was just the things that pushed it over the edge.. Oh well, i have yet to find anyone men on here I want to talk to and if I do they are all taken

Maybe just not my time yet, but I personally just use this site to read the forums and log my stuff everyday!

Isn't that what we are all here for?

Isn't that what we are all here for?

You are late to that party.

I'm going to say yes because I have definitely received some unsolicited photos and messages which were not consistent with the purpose for which I personally choose to use MFP. If people are into that, fine. Online flirtation is definitely not my thing but I am a bartender to some extent flirt with people for a living so it just gets old.

Sorry, I was putting my two cents in cuz it was sounding a bit once sided saying that being married and on this site is a bad thing. :indifferent:

Understandable, but no, I wasn't saying being married is bad. I am just saying most of the women participating in the discreet coital behavior are married... not that most of the married women are participating lol... so guys realize that being married isn't a redline with a lot of the women on here, so they advance regardless.

This is just getting a little hard for me to follow. You said that you know most of the women participating in the discreet coital behavior are married, you also mentioned that you meant private messages not innocent flirting that goes on in hot or not threads. But if it's private and discreet how do you know who is participating let alone which of those participants are married or not? Either 1) you really don't know and instead are assuming which would bring up that stereotype of "Desperate Housewives" you used earlier or 2) you're the other participant in those private messages/discreet coital behaviors/cheating/dating on MFP?

I am curious how you know what goes on in SAHM's inboxes, mmmmkay?

Be curious all you want... I don't need to explain anything to you :-)

Sorry, I was putting my two cents in cuz it was sounding a bit once sided saying that being married and on this site is a bad thing. :indifferent:

Understandable, but no, I wasn't saying being married is bad. I am just saying most of the women participating in the discreet coital behavior are married... not that most of the married women are participating lol... so guys realize that being married isn't a redline with a lot of the women on here, so they advance regardless.

This is just getting a little hard for me to follow. You said that you know most of the women participating in the discreet coital behavior are married, you also mentioned that you meant private messages not innocent flirting that goes on in hot or not threads. But if it's private and discreet how do you know who is participating let alone which of those participants are married or not? Either 1) you really don't know and instead are assuming which would bring up that stereotype of "Desperate Housewives" you used earlier or 2) you're the other participant in those private messages/discreet coital behaviors/cheating/dating on MFP?

There's a lot of "private" affairs that happen on here that eventually get out through the grapevine, usually when one of the parties gets caught or finally fesses up to their SO. I've seen it happen when the person's SO was even on MFP and friends with the other parties involved. I think those kinds of people are going to do questionable things regardless, MFP is just an easy means to do so.

I'm sure there's the fair share who do use it for such things

I'm sure several people have already said this (too lazy to read all the comments) but, any time there's a "Friends" network either on the internet, in social activity situations, service clubs, fund raising organizations, volunteer groups, etc., there's a possibility that people will discover others with similar interests outside of the organization. This can (not necessarily does) lead to closer relationships, which are sometimes construed as "dating", or even a more intimate form of "friendship". No big surprise. We are all human

Since when did dating = sending discrete messages?


These are/can be completely independent events. Send your noodz to whomever you want. But I wouldn't call that "dating."

She said it! It's kosher!

I'll be busy for the rest of the day.

I'm totally trying to hook you up brotha.

It is...and you think you're having a good decent conversation with someone about healthy eating, weightloss and staying motivated and then they ask if you have a boyfriend and you answer honestly and the encouraging messages stop! lol