Do you get hit on?
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No I don't get hit on really unless I'm on MFP0
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I get hit on a bunch. I have a happy disposition and I smile often (my nickname at work is "sunshine"). People tell me that I seem friendly and approachable. I'm guessing it's more of a "approachability" thing, rather than a "hot" thing.0
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No, my personality usually scares guys away. I'm ok with that, though, because cats.
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okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
Don't listen to them darlin. They have numb vajays. You are gorgeous, I would hit on you in a heartbeat.
Yeah, mine is numb from all that attention I get from my husband, and not from strangers hitting on me.
Edit: jtexasflood beat me to it. lol0 -
okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
Don't listen to them darlin. They have numb vajays. You are gorgeous, I would hit on you in a heartbeat.
Yeah, mine is numb from all that attention I get from my husband, and not from strangers hitting on me.
Edit: jtexasflood beat me to it. lol
Mine only tingles for my SO 0 -
Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley
"Just because there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score" - I'm from Texas too haha
"I'm a country plowboy, not an urban cowboy...and I dont ride bulls but I have fought some men. Drive a pickup truck, trust in God and luck and I live to love Texas women."
Best looking women on the planet. (apologies to the gorgeous non-Texan women on my FL)
What can I say, we're hot! lol
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True story. This is why I am - and will always be - a Texan.0 -
That situation is not too bad. I've had the husband ask me out for there wife a couple times...hahahaYes.. Gets pretty awkward when the "hitter" is married and trying to get friendly in plain sight of their spouse or they are about my daughter's age.
Maybe not awkward, maybe her husband it totally on board
Its when they are trying to creep from a closed relationship.0 -
okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
Don't listen to them darlin. They have numb vajays. You are gorgeous, I would hit on you in a heartbeat.
Yeah, mine is numb from all that attention I get from my husband, and not from strangers hitting on me.
Edit: jtexasflood beat me to it. lol
Sure, just not comprehending why those things have to be mutually exclusive. It's fine for you, but don't judge OP because her relationship is different.0 -
No I don't get hit on really unless I'm on MFP
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okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
Don't listen to them darlin. They have numb vajays. You are gorgeous, I would hit on you in a heartbeat.
Yeah, mine is numb from all that attention I get from my husband, and not from strangers hitting on me.
Edit: jtexasflood beat me to it. lol
Sure, just not comprehending why those things have to be mutually exclusive. It's fine for you, but don't judge OP because her relationship is different.
I don't think there was judgement passed, just a question. Once explained that she didn't NEED validation, all is fine. Some women, however, crave validation from everyone. Clearly not OP.0 -
okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
If you were a man at a strip club, you'd be hit on too. Strippers flirt to try to make money, not find someone to go home with (well, usually).
I know that. So does he. She wanted his money, not his penis. I wasn't jealous that a stripper sat on him.0 -
okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
I think it has way less to do with beauty/hotness -- obviously, in some cases -- and more to do with the overall vibe you put out to the world.
Are you approached a lot by strangers in general? I am constantly. I think it's because I come off like I'm friendly and eager to talk/help people...which I'm actually not always in the mood to do, LOL!
FWIW I have known women who were extremely beautiful and never got asked on a date until they were like 27 years old and it was on the internet!
Nope, I don't get approached very often. Every female friend I've ever had has admitted that she thought I'd be a b*tch when she first met me. I'm actually really nice to people, but I must have a b*tch face or something. I can't say anything, because I judge people that way, too. Gorgeous blonde with an entourage - I automatically hate you. But really, I just want that body.
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Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley
Can you tell me where in Texas, since it's a pretty big state and I am moving there sometime this year!! :-)0 -
Hardly ever, unless I count the 70 something year old homeless guy by the gas station I go to who hits on me daily because I buy him beer.0
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If you're on MFP and you haven't been hit on, then you are doing it wrong.
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No, and even if I did, I don't pick up on subtlety at all. LOL. Just ask my girlfriend!0
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frequently hit on.
Also randomly- non/hit on compliments- like- wow I just really wanted to say how lovely you look type things.
I wouldn't say I dress extremely provocatively- nor do I think I'm exceptionally attractive (I know I'm good looking- but I'm not the hottest thing to cross the street and I know it)
I do dress to flatter my shape- and I have no problem show casing my assets, but I don't walk about trying LOOK for attention to get.
Shrug- might be carriage- I'm a broad shoulder- look people in the eye- very outgoing can command a room kind of person- if you keep to yourself and have a less possessive posture- even if you are extremely attractive you may not get the attention.0 -
Hardly ever, unless I count the 70 something year old homeless guy by the gas station I go to who hits on me daily because I buy him beer.
He's mine! :laugh:0 -
Haha! Lord, I haven't had that said to me yet but I get your point fellow TexanCome to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley
"Just because there's a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score" - I'm from Texas too haha 0 -
okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
Don't listen to them darlin. They have numb vajays. You are gorgeous, I would hit on you in a heartbeat.
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okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
I don't NEED validation. And I never "compared" myself to my friends. I brought it up to my husband the other night because he asked if anyone hit on me that night, as part of a casual conversation. He was at a bachelorette party and was singled out by a stripper - it just came up. We talk about everything together. He tells me about the stripper that sat on his lap and tried to get him into the champagne room and I tell him about the guy that asked if we girls worked at the strip club. It's no big deal to us.
And, sorry, but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm invisible. It's nice to get hit on, even if I have no interest in hooking up with anyone (which I don't). It doesn't "bother" me that I don't get hit on - it's just something that I recently wondered about after the party I went to. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself - it's just curiosity.
Don't listen to them darlin. They have numb vajays. You are gorgeous, I would hit on you in a heartbeat.
Yeah, mine is numb from all that attention I get from my husband, and not from strangers hitting on me.
Edit: jtexasflood beat me to it. lol
Sure, just not comprehending why those things have to be mutually exclusive. It's fine for you, but don't judge OP because her relationship is different.
I actually wasn't one of the ones "judging," I just had to insert a dirty comment after your numb vajay comment. :laugh:0 -
Yes, and theyre usually not my type lol sooo annoying0
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Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley
Can you tell me where in Texas, since it's a pretty big state and I am moving there sometime this year!! :-)
How YOU doin? :bigsmile:0 -
I am verrrrry rarely hit on, to the point that in the last 6 months I can say I was hit on 3 times and they were ALL by male body builders. Very strange experience and all their muscles make me feel self concious. But all super nice and super friendly so I didn't mind.0
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Hardly ever, unless I count the 70 something year old homeless guy by the gas station I go to who hits on me daily because I buy him beer.
He's mine! :laugh:
Aww shoot, and there goes by future babies daddy. *Kicks rocks*0 -
Shrug- might be carriage- I'm a broad shoulder- look people in the eye- very outgoing can command a room kind of person- if you keep to yourself and have a less possessive posture- even if you are extremely attractive you may not get the attention.
This may be true for me, too. I am awkward, silly, and an introvert actually...but I am tall and walk very erect and look people in the face and smile a lot. So people feel comfortable talking to me and if I find myself in a motley crew of strangers (say in a store, class, at jury duty, emergencies, etc) I am always elected leader. It is odd now that I really think of it!1 -
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okay now that we've all got all our funnies out, i'm a little concerned that OP even thinks about this? is it normal to need male validation this much? enough to bring it up to husband and compare oneself to friends. once already in a secure marriage? just wondering, not trying to be mean.
i don't think it has anything to do with validation. I've wondered the same thing myself. Everyone always tells me that gyms/fitness clubs are the biggest pickup joints EVAH and in my many years of going to one (and hanging out in the free weight rooms) no one's ever hit on me. Am I missing the signals? Are my friends exaggerating what sorts of things happen to them? Is there some kind of special code?
I mentioned this to my husband and he said, "Maybe it's because you go to the gym to work out and not meet somebody?"
And I thought, "Oh hey, maybe that is it..." So I guess I'm never going to find out what a great pick up joint my current club is.0 -
Come to Texas if you want to get hit on, guys here are a bunch of dogs in heat. I can throw up my left hand and say I am married (engaged, close enough) and on more than one occasion I hear "it's okay, I 'm not jealous". Ha! Well my man is! I seriously don't think it has to do with the way a woman looks rather or not a guy will hit on you, I think its more so your vibe and attitude. I've always been told I am very sweet and I guess that can come off as flirting. If a guy smiles at me, I smile back, doesn't mean I am flirting and doesn't mean he should come and start hitting on me, it means I am a Texan and I smile. :bigsmile:
edit: had to add that big cheesy smiley
Can you tell me where in Texas, since it's a pretty big state and I am moving there sometime this year!! :-)
Dallas or Addison. Hope you like it and hope you find yourself a good ole' boy or a high powered attorney as seeing how diverse Texas is becoming
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