are looks important to you?

gunshowgreg
gunshowgreg Posts: 169 Member
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Are looks important to you? I'll be honest they are to me I wouldn't want to be with someone that I was not physically attracted to you and nor would I want to be with someone that was not physically attracted to me. I want to be desired and seen as hot. If I wasn't seen that way it be upsetting and rather hurtful. Personality is important just the same. But I like the combination of the two.
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  • SweatSmileRepeat
    SweatSmileRepeat Posts: 99
    Same. I can't be with someone I'm not attracted to physically. It just won't work out in the long run.
  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member
    Yes.

    Anyone that says different is lying.
  • sweetcurlz67
    sweetcurlz67 Posts: 1,168 Member
    Ditto...

    I want the "full package"!!!
  • Crimson_Fire
    Crimson_Fire Posts: 2,504 Member
    Are they important? Yes.
    Are they the most important? No.
  • SweatSmileRepeat
    SweatSmileRepeat Posts: 99
    Ditto...

    I want the "full package"!!!

    Yup! Never settle for less than you want.
  • Me2FitMe
    Me2FitMe Posts: 1,285 Member
    Yes... To a certain extent...
  • MsSophySticated
    MsSophySticated Posts: 181 Member
    Nope. I know what that's like to have someone judge you from the outside appearance and it sucks. Also with time, the outside changes as you get older, and the inside will be what really matters after all. That's what I focus on, to me someone who is kind etc... will be the most beautiful person in my eyes whether they are ugly to some. Which means that the guy who I will be attracted to in all ways will be because of his inside values and not because of his looks. He'll radiate far more because of the values and not because of something he was born with. That's my opinion though :smile:
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    Anyone who says otherwise is lying. You can be open minded, but everyone has a limit. When I was heavier, I went out with this guy a few times that I was crazyyyyyyy about. The feeling was not mutual and deep down, I knew it was because I was too heavy.

    Flash forward 2 years and about 40 pounds of weight loss. I wound up reconnecting with that guy. Guess what? Now we are together. I have been head over heels in love with him for over 2 years. I asked him what was so off putting about me before. His response? "I always knew you were the one. You were just too big." Brutally honest. I went from being too fat for him once and now he tells me I am the love of his life.
  • missbp
    missbp Posts: 601 Member
    Absolutely!

    Physical attraction is the the thing that draws me in . . . but it's gonna take more then that to keep me interested and wanting to stick around.
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    When I was younger it was very important, as I've gotten older my scale has changed, but overall I still am some what shallow.... Just being honest.
  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member


    Flash forward 2 years and about 40 pounds of weight loss. I wound up reconnecting with that guy. Guess what? Now we are together. I have been head over heels in love with him for over 2 years. I asked him what was so off putting about me before. His response? "I always knew you were the one. You were just too big." Brutally honest. I went from being too fat for him once and now he tells me I am the love of his life.

    IN

    Before "OMG WHAT DOUCHE"
  • Bodecia
    Bodecia Posts: 2 Member
    I didn't marry for looks. So I have to say no, looks aren't important.
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    Are they important? Yes.
    Are they the most important? No.

    This. Looks fade over time so you better enjoy the company of the person you are with. But yes, I have to be physically attracted to her in order to be willing to date her.
  • kuntry_navySD
    kuntry_navySD Posts: 106 Member
    i'd buy a yugo with a 540 big block under the hood..so not really, as long as they make up for it in other areas
  • Geoj0
    Geoj0 Posts: 145 Member
    yes but they have to have the full package, looks and personality are both as important as eachother for me.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Perhaps for initial attraction with some people.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Are they important? Yes.
    Are they the most important? No.

    This. Looks fade over time so you better enjoy the company of the person you are with. But yes, I have to be physically attracted to her in order to be willing to date her.

    Yeah, I agree with this.
  • gunshowgreg
    gunshowgreg Posts: 169 Member
    When I was younger it was very important, as I've gotten older my scale has changed, but overall I still am some what shallow.... Just being honest.

    Not shallow what you desire in someone is what you're attracted to and can't help it lol
  • gunshowgreg
    gunshowgreg Posts: 169 Member
    Nope. I know what that's like to have someone judge you from the outside appearance and it sucks. Also with time, the outside changes as you get older, and the inside will be what really matters after all. That's what I focus on, to me someone who is kind etc... will be the most beautiful person in my eyes whether they are ugly to some. Which means that the guy who I will be attracted to in all ways will be because of his inside values and not because of his looks. He'll radiate far more because of the values and not because of something he was born with. That's my opinion though :smile:

    I think that was very well put
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    I guess I'm weird. I'm attracted to good conversation -shrug- LOL
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member


    Flash forward 2 years and about 40 pounds of weight loss. I wound up reconnecting with that guy. Guess what? Now we are together. I have been head over heels in love with him for over 2 years. I asked him what was so off putting about me before. His response? "I always knew you were the one. You were just too big." Brutally honest. I went from being too fat for him once and now he tells me I am the love of his life.

    IN

    Before "OMG WHAT DOUCHE"


    Hahaha! There is a fine line. It's understandable if a guy simply doesn't find you attractive because of your size...but when he treats you badly or even...differently?...because of it...that's a different story. (Not saying that's what happened, just my observation on the matter.)
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Attraction is important to me, but I am also attracted to a wide variety traits and features.
  • MsSophySticated
    MsSophySticated Posts: 181 Member
    Nope. I know what that's like to have someone judge you from the outside appearance and it sucks. Also with time, the outside changes as you get older, and the inside will be what really matters after all. That's what I focus on, to me someone who is kind etc... will be the most beautiful person in my eyes whether they are ugly to some. Which means that the guy who I will be attracted to in all ways will be because of his inside values and not because of his looks. He'll radiate far more because of the values and not because of something he was born with. That's my opinion though :smile:
    I think that was very well put

    Just speaking from experiences and being honest :smile: Taking the time to get to know someone really does wonders. If you focus on the looks, you can't let that person have a chance into showing you how they really are and you guys could get along so well too! Take your time and listen, before judging! :happy:
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,242 Member
    I think being physically attracted to your partner is incredibly important, but I don't think traditional "good looks" are a necessity for physical attraction. There are many things that make someone physically attractive and what is attractive to me may not be attractive to you, and what I find attractive in one person, I would not necessarily find attractive in another person.

    What makes someone physically attractive varies wildly from person to person, changes over time, changes with the way you think about that person and is basically impossible to really quantify.

    Would someone have to be drop dead gorgeous before I'd date them? No (though luckily my husband is a total hottie) but would I need to be physically attracted to them? Yes. But it isn't necessarily their looks that makes them physically attractive.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I guess I'm weird. I'm attracted to good conversation -shrug- LOL

    Me too! It is the most attractive aspect to me. The conversations I have with my husband, I just fall deeper and deeper in love with him (for these past 18 years). He also has a fit body (just athletic), and a sweet face and eyes. And he is so insightful and kind. He's intelligent. And so funny. Good in bed, too. Adventurous.
  • establishingaplace
    establishingaplace Posts: 301 Member
    Of course looks are important. Sure, there are a lot of things that create attraction - smell, mannerisms, personality - but that person is going to be the first person you see when you wake up so you really ought to enjoy looking at them.
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    Are they important? Yes.
    Are they the most important? No.

    Quite.
  • funforsports
    funforsports Posts: 2,656 Member
    Yes......
  • Strokingdiction
    Strokingdiction Posts: 1,164 Member
    Nope. I've never been attracted to a person's looks. It's not a lack of shallowness thing either, I literally don't feel any sort of sexual attraction to people I don't know. In fact, I don't feel any attraction to a person until I know that they feel some sort of attraction to me. I never understood girls having crushes on celebrities/models.

    But once a potential partner makes a move and I already liked them in a friendly manner, it's on.
  • 1pandabear
    1pandabear Posts: 336 Member
    Nope. I know what that's like to have someone judge you from the outside appearance and it sucks. Also with time, the outside changes as you get older, and the inside will be what really matters after all. That's what I focus on, to me someone who is kind etc... will be the most beautiful person in my eyes whether they are ugly to some. Which means that the guy who I will be attracted to in all ways will be because of his inside values and not because of his looks. He'll radiate far more because of the values and not because of something he was born with. That's my opinion though :smile:
    Just wanted to quote this post because it is so sweet. :drinker:

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