What do women really want from a relationship?

wow..you can tell by the responses in what age group people fall.

In my 20's I wanted attention, sex, fun.

In my early 30's I didn't want a man they had ticked me off enough I was done with them...so I concentrated on my career, my son and got my life in order as I didn't expect to get married or be in a long term relationship ever.

In my mid 30's I just wanted a FWB...no drama, no cling a man who was independent that had no kids and could come and go as he pleased as when I called he'd best be available...I figured out I would need 3 at least to cover my "needs" when they needed covered.

I got what I wanted in my mid 30's but gd it...I ended up marrying him...he is like 3 men....:laugh: :blushing: :laugh: and as an "older" woman he covers my needs quite well and is a great partner...

I want from my relationship the following in no particular order:

adequate sex (and yes that is more than once a week...jeez I get cranky if that's all I get)
fun (doesn't have to be bungee jumping or sky diving every week) just fun
no drama...
normal life
trust and honesty and communication...which means he can comment on an attractive woman he see and I don't care and I can do the same...we can tell each other anything without recrimination or judgement and if either one of us is ticked we don't talk code we tell each other what's up and what the other needs to do to fix it.
No jealousy...that has no place in my life...
he has to clean the cat litter, mow the lawn, take the garbage, shovel the snow, till the garden (you know man work) and he has to accept that I do the house cleaning, laundry and most of the cooking...
a good Dad since I do have a child and a son at that who isn't young, he was a teenager when I finally got married....

so basically a FWB but mine lives with me, married me (and yes he's younger and doesn't care about my weight/age etc).

Sex, food, and booze?

I thought thats what guys wanted?

wow..you can tell by the responses in what age group people fall.

In my 20's I wanted attention, sex, fun.

In my early 30's I didn't want a man they had ticked me off enough I was done with them...so I concentrated on my career, my son and got my life in order as I didn't expect to get married or be in a long term relationship ever.

In my mid 30's I just wanted a FWB...no drama, no cling a man who was independent that had no kids and could come and go as he pleased as when I called he'd best be available...I figured out I would need 3 at least to cover my "needs" when they needed covered.

I got what I wanted in my mid 30's but gd it...I ended up marrying him...he is like 3 men....:laugh: :blushing: :laugh: and as an "older" woman he covers my needs quite well and is a great partner...

I want from my relationship the following in no particular order:

adequate sex (and yes that is more than once a week...jeez I get cranky if that's all I get)
fun (doesn't have to be bungee jumping or sky diving every week) just fun
no drama...
normal life
trust and honesty and communication...which means he can comment on an attractive woman he see and I don't care and I can do the same...we can tell each other anything without recrimination or judgement and if either one of us is ticked we don't talk code we tell each other what's up and what the other needs to do to fix it.
No jealousy...that has no place in my life...
he has to clean the cat litter, mow the lawn, take the garbage, shovel the snow, till the garden (you know man work) and he has to accept that I do the house cleaning, laundry and most of the cooking...
a good Dad since I do have a child and a son at that who isn't young, he was a teenager when I finally got married....

so basically a FWB but mine lives with me, married me (and yes he's younger and doesn't care about my weight/age etc).

Heh, basically what I said I wouldn't say it's an age issue, but rather how mature people are. I'm 35, but compared to some 60-yos wiser, some 20-yos less wise.

Make me laugh, make me come, make me food.

Simples.

so like a penis cake will do?

The penis cake is apparently my perfect man.

:laugh:

What I have come realise is the more I focus on what I can give, rather than what I want, the better my relationship with my partner becomes naturally.
So thats what I focus on now, and it has led to a very happy, fun, secure, loving and drama free relationship :flowerforyou:

Well I'm 20 and the biggest thing for me is:
Respect for me and the female gender, someone I can debate with on current topics and to not get angry with, conversation, trust, a great sense of humour and playfulness, an active sex life and friendship. My boyfriend is my best friend, he lights up my life and we never seem to fight. I couldn't be happier with anybody else!

Money.




....has nobody said that yet?

Well, on the previous page I said I really don't ask for it, I'm low-maintenance. And I do have a pay check of my own, possibly better than yours. Since you're frank enough to bring money up for discussion.

What's wrong with being frank?

There probably wouldn't be a relationship in the first places if the income were below some particular level. Everything that comes after is secondary. Seems like it should be a factor rather than something we're all politely not mentioning.

First time for love and if there must be a second time, then for money. :smokin:

Words my mother lives by lol

Money.




....has nobody said that yet?

Well, on the previous page I said I really don't ask for it, I'm low-maintenance. And I do have a pay check of my own, possibly better than yours. Since you're frank enough to bring money up for discussion.

What's wrong with being frank?

There probably wouldn't be a relationship in the first places if the income were below some particular level. Everything that comes after is secondary. Seems like it should be a factor rather than something we're all politely not mentioning.

really? when I met my husband he was making far less than me...probably 20k less a year...I didn't care.

Would I have cared in my 20's yup but that's where I say age has an impact.

At 35 I had bought my own house, had a new car and was living a great life and didn't "need" a man in my life to cover my bills I did that just fine on my own...I only wanted "some" in my life for fun and well sex....

But that is why my husband is now my husband...he saw a very independent woman who wasn't going to cling, demand attention and require him to take care of her...I took care of myself and my son very well.

so is money important? depends on the woman..

PS he doesn't make less now...I encouraged him to make a career move and he is so glad I did as he is in a career he loves now and makes more than me...

Money.




....has nobody said that yet?

Well, on the previous page I said I really don't ask for it, I'm low-maintenance. And I do have a pay check of my own, possibly better than yours. Since you're frank enough to bring money up for discussion.

What's wrong with being frank?

There probably wouldn't be a relationship in the first places if the income were below some particular level. Everything that comes after is secondary. Seems like it should be a factor rather than something we're all politely not mentioning.

really? when I met my husband he was making far less than me...probably 20k less a year...I didn't care.

Would I have cared in my 20's yup but that's where I say age has an impact.

At 35 I had bought my own house, had a new car and was living a great life and didn't "need" a man in my life to cover my bills I did that just fine on my own...I only wanted "some" in my life for fun and well sex....

But that is why my husband is now my husband...he saw a very independent woman who wasn't going to cling, demand attention and require him to take care of her...I took care of myself and my son very well.

so is money important? depends on the woman..

PS he doesn't make less now...I encouraged him to make a career move and he is so glad I did as he is in a career he loves now and makes more than me...

Some ladies would gasp in shock at the idea of asking him to marry her, rather than have him go down on his one knee to present her with a rock the size of a tennis ball and do a whole elaborate affair of the engagement, then to proceed to a cinderella wedding that costs as much as the portion of a house. Well, I asked and it worked for us. Granted we're divorced for various reasons, but I think equality should infiltrate everything in society, including being financially secure on one's own.

I typically LOVE eogtistical a-holes. Let me explain.

Confidence is a HUGE turn-on to me. Not flat-out arrogance, but a high level of confidence. And guys that get labeled often as "egotistical a-holes" have that [generally]. There is nothing worse than when you're interested in a guy and he begins getting insecure about everything. "Are we okay?" "Did I do something wrong?" "I'm sorry." "Are you mad at me?" It's the kiss of death! There's a very refreshing feeling that comes with talking to a guy that is sweet and funny, but who also isn't caught up worrying about what I think. Who cares what I think? Be yourself! If I like it I like it, if I don't I don't. There's also an honesty factor that comes along with that confidence. When a man is confident, he's not worried about whether the truth hurts your little feelings or not, because if you ask a question he is doing nothing wrong by simply answering it. That's a golden quality in my eyes because it is so rare to truly find in people. I want honesty, even when it's ugly. A little tact helps, but a confident man is generally more honest. Those qualities are the two 'biggies'. Past that...mainly a good sense of humor, shared interests, physical/sexual attraction (the basics that we all want in a partner).

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BRO DO YOU EVEN COSMO?

No, I am not interested in what COSMO says, I want to hear from real people with varying degrees of education, age, income, and marital status.


P.S. Openly admitting that you read COSMO could be grounds to revoke your man card. :laugh:

I think that tattoo and pose are grounds for revoking your man card (just realized you were a guy). :laugh:

Heh.