To all the MFP meanies/bullies

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  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I am a bit of a bully. And no cares are given.
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  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    My ears are burning.

    Those aren't your ears....
  • Lleldiranne
    Lleldiranne Posts: 5,516 Member
    In just to watch. I've enjoyed the conversation so far.
  • HaelaBaer
    HaelaBaer Posts: 44
    :flowerforyou: Well said.

    Someone sent me a PM a while ago, because they weren't sure how to interpret something I had said. We sorted it out, I had perhaps been unclear and they had perhaps misunderstood something, but all in all it was such a nice way of handling a potential conflict. Both parties were calm and straight forward about the matter, it was solved within minutes and I can't even remember said person's name anymore, only that they behaved like a good person. It took guts to send that PM and I respect that very much. None of that chewing on stuff forever, walking around blaming the general you or any other silliness.

    I sent someone a pm once to sort something out. They wrote back : Go Away. Forever.
    I'd prefer a pm, but some men you just can't reach.

    Btw. Love the gifs. Most of the folks here are decent and funny as all get.
  • Sharon_C
    Sharon_C Posts: 2,132 Member
    As someone who is new to MFP I find what I have seen on the message boards the last couple days to be VERY discouraging. #justsaying

    I'd like to say it will change, but it won't. There is lots of helpful information and helpful people. It's a good idea to build a solid list of friends and stick to asking them questions then lurk in the forums.


    But how do you find said people? (Sorry if thats one of those stupid questions) :)

    I love the forums. There is a wealth of information here if you're willing to dig for it. After awhile you will figure out what threads are hot button threads and you will know to stay away from them (not that I do. I actually enjoy reading the hot button threads)..

    I lurk a lot and I have never, ever, EVER posted a topic but I do respond to a lot of them if I think I have something worthwhile to contribute. By doing that I have slowly built an awesome friend's list. I've watched and read and listened and taken to heart what some people have said and every so often I will send someone a friend request who seems to be on the same wave length as me.

    You have to put the time in if you want to find friends here, but I promise, if you do, you will build some wonderful relationships. :flowerforyou:
  • VBnotbitter
    VBnotbitter Posts: 820 Member
    I am a bit of a bully. And no cares are given.

    You are so not a bully!!
  • whitebalance
    whitebalance Posts: 1,654 Member
    I am a bit of a bully. And no cares are given.

    You are so not a bully!!

    That's not very supportive.
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
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    As long as you don't touch my special snowflake cake.
  • angf0679
    angf0679 Posts: 1,121 Member
    Tagging to read later - I need to get ready for work!
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    I am a bit of a bully. And no cares are given.

    Is it mean to tell someone who thinks that he's a bully that he's not?

    No. On MFP, the only real mean thing is to tell people that they are mean.
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    Now I just want pizza.
    To all the bullies, meanies and jerks. I know that often we get called these things when someone doesn't like what we have to say or how we deliver the information. Not really our fault. The jumping in to attack people with snark and sarcasm without offering an explanation isn't helpful (and makes you look like an *kitten*). Enough of the mob mentality. It's helpful when trying to stop the misinformation, but not helpful when it's just attacking someone personally.

    This is the part I want to respond to. And I feel qualified to do so. I'm sure many people would vote me in the mean bully camp. If you're someone who sells MLM shakes I'm happy that you don't like me. But I really do try to help others, even if I can be blunt or go too far in an attempt to make a joke.

    It's the piling on that bothers me. If someone has already said it, and someone else has agreed with them, and another person, do you really need to add your comments as well? They get it. That's when a person starts to feel attacked. When there's 8 pages of "Of course that counts as water, stupid!" Plus it's just redundant and annoying to read.

    But ignore me. I'm all mean and junk.

    +1

    Admittedly, I've taken out a bit of aggression on the forums. The problem is, it can be fun to be a d!ck. :embarassed: But it's not fun to be one to people who are just trying to get help. I think (hope) that I'm only a d!ck to others already dishing it out.
  • abrockhausen
    abrockhausen Posts: 35 Member
    I am new here and have only asked a couple of questions on the forums. I got back nothing but positive help. I can take tough love and blunt, non-sugar coated responses. The only snarkiness I have seen has been where it is obviously people just messing with each other, not in reponse to people asking for help.

    If you have sensitivities or are offended by a specific person, may I suggest the "Ignore User" function.

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