So many people with respectively high final GWs....

AlyRuth94
AlyRuth94 Posts: 11
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I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.
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  • thepetiterunner
    thepetiterunner Posts: 1,238 Member
    I'm not one to judge someone else's goals, personally. I think goals like cutting your weight in HALF or more is substantial and is a great goal to have. I think what you're not realizing is that our goals are constantly changing. Just because that's someone's initial GW, doesn't mean that when they reach it they won't reassess and figure out they want to do more. Or maybe they're totally satisfied with it, that's for them to decide.

    And what is a "REAL" moment of victory anyway? Can you really decide that for other people?
  • BigT555
    BigT555 Posts: 2,067 Member
    thats the beauty of a goal though, once you reach one you can set another. i understand what you are saying but some people dont want to set the bar too high at first. my original goal weight was 220, then moved it to 210, then to 200, then to 190, now its 185. i will probably move it again once im below 200 but who knows, i may be happy at 200 and stick with that (i seriously doubt it though)
  • kgeyser
    kgeyser Posts: 22,505 Member
    How is someone else's goal weight any of your business?
  • chubby_checkers
    chubby_checkers Posts: 2,352 Member
    Why do you care so much what other people do? Focus on your own goals and let them worry about theirs.
  • rduhlir
    rduhlir Posts: 3,550 Member
    I'm not one to judge someone else's goals, personally. I think goals like cutting your weight in HALF or more is substantial and is a great goal to have. I think what you're not realizing is that our goals are constantly changing. Just because that's someone's initial GW, doesn't mean that when they reach it they won't reassess and figure out they want to do more. Or maybe they're totally satisfied with it, that's for them to decide.

    And what is a "REAL" moment of victory anyway? Can you really decide that for other people?

    You are so awesome...I am glad you are my friend!
  • emmaxbon
    emmaxbon Posts: 123 Member
    How is someone else's goal weight any of your business?

    This.

    Using your example, someone going from 350 to 175 is amazing. Who are you to judge that what it takes, mentally, emotionally and physically, for them to do so, isn't enough or that they should try harder.
  • maz504
    maz504 Posts: 450
    delightful.
  • Keiras_Mom
    Keiras_Mom Posts: 844 Member
    My initial goal weight was 199 and I never thought I'd make it there. From 280ish, it seemed like a really far-fetched goal. When I got there, I lowered it to 175 because that is "healthy" for my height, albeit at the highest end of healthy. When I got there, I decided to go for middle range of healthy. I've been maintaining now for over a year at 145-150 (I'm 5'9").

    If I had set my initial goal at 145 lbs, it would have seemed too daunting, and I would have given up before I even started. Each to their own. What worked for me wouldn't work for you because our attitudes are different. I would never judge you on your goal, and I'm a bit surprised that you'd judge me on mine. :huh:
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  • lemon629
    lemon629 Posts: 501 Member
    When someone starts with a very high weight, it's best to set a goal that is perhaps higher than the "healthy" range. Have some compassion and imagine how daunting having a goal of 200 pound loss must be. Many larger people set several goals. Maybe start with a goal of losing 50 pounds/getting out of the morbid obese category to just obese, then maybe another goal to get into just the "overweight" territory, then a final goal. And even if they never get to in the "healthy" range, losing 175 pounds is still a huge achievement and the person has probably vastly improved their health.
  • BamaBreezeNSaltAire
    BamaBreezeNSaltAire Posts: 966 Member
    Hypocritial much? One word..NUNYA. As in none of your business what other people's goals are.
  • jenniebean1680
    jenniebean1680 Posts: 350 Member
    So what, OP?? That's their call, not yours. You do you. Let others do the same.
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    YAY FOR THE FIRST BODY SHAMING TOPIC OF THURSDAY!




    From a 20 year old.




    Who has a lot of life experience.
  • kethry70
    kethry70 Posts: 404 Member
    I'm not one to judge someone else's goals, personally. I think goals like cutting your weight in HALF or more is substantial and is a great goal to have. I think what you're not realizing is that our goals are constantly changing. Just because that's someone's initial GW, doesn't mean that when they reach it they won't reassess and figure out they want to do more. Or maybe they're totally satisfied with it, that's for them to decide.

    And what is a "REAL" moment of victory anyway? Can you really decide that for other people?

    That.

    Also, having been overweight/obese my entire adult life, I set goals that I see as attainable and achievable. I am setting myself up for success. Setting my goal weight as 125-135 seemed impossibly hard with PCOS, IR, peri-menopause, etc. 165 was a number I have seen in my late 20s and involved losing > 20% of my starting body weight. Attainable. And already vastly improves my health and appearance. And the beauty is that, as PP said above, when I get there, I can re-assess and set new goals - but probably based more on fitness and BF% vs actual weight. People are already surprised about how much I weigh now. Despite my short stature and high BF%, most people assume I weigh less than that 165 goal weight - a lot less
  • Llamapants86
    Llamapants86 Posts: 1,221 Member
    I set a higher goal so that I could take a month if eating at maintanence for a month or so. Give myself a little break from a deficit and make sure that my methods were appropriate both for loss and for maintanence.
  • olimadmom
    olimadmom Posts: 6 Member
    Maybe try reaching your goal before chastising others for not having good enough goals.

    Exactly!!
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    :noway:
  • starrylioness
    starrylioness Posts: 543 Member
    You worry about your goals, I'll worry about mine. :happy:
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
    I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.

    Errrr, you what mate? You think a person who manages to lose 50% of their body weight hasn't won?

    Seriously?
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.

    Really? Who are you to judge anyone else or their goals?
  • _Zardoz_
    _Zardoz_ Posts: 3,987 Member
    I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.
    Why are you so worried about other peoples goals? There are many reasons their goal weight maybe different to what you consider ideal. Going from 350 to 175 is a huge achievement. How do you know that's just not the initial goal and they are going to reassess when they get there?
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Who the hell are you to judge?


    I think for a 350 pound person getting down to 175 would be a fantastic goal and accomplisment and I'd applaud them every step of the way.

    In fact I think it's much more reasonable and doesn't set people up for disappointment.
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    Maybe try reaching your goal before chastising others for not having good enough goals.

    This times a lot.

    Goals are personal.
  • Veil5577
    Veil5577 Posts: 868 Member
    Some people decide to set smaller goals rather than one big goal because it's easier for them. You may decide to set one big goal because it's easier for you.

    Don't judge. :explode: It causes tension.
  • ami5000psu
    ami5000psu Posts: 391 Member
    I know. I don't get it either. Once you pick a goal you're stuck with that goal forever and ever and yet here we are with people settling in the goals department. It's a shame really.
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.

    Okay Judgy McJudgerson. You know that they can decide at a later date to lower it. I think you should worry less about others goals and more about your own. Even if they decide to stick with a goal that's still overweight or obese it's better than they used to be.

    By the way I am overweight for my height. I also have 20% body fat, which is athletic for a woman. To get into the healthy range I would be very close to almost unhealthy levels of body fat. One size does not fit all when it comes to weight ranges.
  • Mikkimeow
    Mikkimeow Posts: 1,282 Member
    I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.

    You must have all the life experience in the world, thus able to pass judgement on anyone's goals that are not considered up to standard.
    *Edited to say that if a 5'4" obese woman went from 350 to 175, she should be celebrated. Not judged for not getting low enough. If she wants to get lower great, if not that is her choice.

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  • sassyjae21
    sassyjae21 Posts: 1,217 Member
    YAY FOR THE FIRST BODY SHAMING TOPIC OF THURSDAY!




    From a 20 year old.




    Who has a lot of life experience.

    This. Mind your own effing business pls. Thank you and that is all.
  • Eleonora91
    Eleonora91 Posts: 688 Member
    Oh yes indeed. Let's all get skinny, we know that's the only way a girl can be attractive! I'm not surprised you especially mentioned women. :noway:

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