So many people with respectively high final GWs....

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  • sfbaumgarten
    sfbaumgarten Posts: 912 Member
    delightful.

    incredibly.
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    So I set my goal for 180, maybe 170 if i am feeling ambitious. How do you know that that would make me obese? Do YOU know my BF%? DO you know my body composition and the weight of my muscles and bones in comparison to my fat? Maybe I'll have 20 extra pounds of skin after losing over 100 pounds? Hmm?

    I don't know if you were trying to be inspirational and have your own "Fat girl at the track" moment but it backfired just as harshly as that did.

    We do not need your approval for our weightloss goals. Losing weight for many of us is so so much more then simply "losing weight" for many of us we are releasing the past. Each pound lost is a moment in our life where we let go of one of our bad choices. Each pound lost brings us another ounce of confidence. Each pound lost is a slap in the face for every person who called us lazy, who hurt us, who broke us down.

    So how DARE you belittle our victories. Just because you were not happy at 160 does not mean that "He' or "She" cannot be happy at 160. Because to me, or to many of us, our goal weight, not matter what it is, is a victory because we overcame our own trials and tribulations.

    Good luck with your fitness aspirations, OP. I genuinely hope you are able to obtain them and find the peace, happiness, and victory you seek, just as I wish this for every person on here NO MATTER WHAT THEIR FITNESS GOALS ARE. (this, of course, excludes goals that support eating disorders because those are not fitness oriented and deserve proper help and medical attention, but I will support overcoming the disease)

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  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.


    Stop being stupid and stop caring about what other people want in their lives, it doesn't affect you if someone who is 5'4 wants to be 175 pounds, so what the hell does it matter?
  • cparter
    cparter Posts: 754 Member
    After seeing the ops previous posts, it is safe to say that one should not throw stones if you are living in a glass house. There are a lot of openings for someone to judge/slander/etc. the OPs idea of healthy change. The OP still stink this is about dieting vice a sustainable lifestyle change. Dieters rebound and gain. People who realize this is a lifetime change may have set backs as well but they have learned about eating meals (not starting themselves) and her comments on starvation mode borders on unsafe because they are clueless clamour with no sustance.
  • kconrad1712
    kconrad1712 Posts: 36 Member
    If someone has to lose weight, be it 5 pounds or 25 pounds or 175 pounds, EVERY SINGLE DAMN POUND is a victory. If it was so easy to get to your goal, you wouldn't be here either. You have no right to judge others' goals. Live and let live. You are neither an expert on goal setting, nor an expert of determining what will make others happy.

    So, move along. We don't need your kind in here!
  • LassoOfTruth
    LassoOfTruth Posts: 735 Member
    As said person that started at 325, and my goal is 195. What does it matter to you what my goal is? I just don't want to be 325 anymore, and 195 sounds like a nice number.
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  • MegE_N
    MegE_N Posts: 245 Member
    Oh look, the 'concern police' are out again, judging other people because they just "care so much."

    Go home. A person who loses 100+ lbs is much healthier than they were, even if they are still listed in the 'obese' range. It is a huge accomplishment, and anyone who has succeeded in doing so (I know I haven't) deserves all the praise and admiration in the world.
  • Oi_Sunshine
    Oi_Sunshine Posts: 819 Member
    I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.


    Stop being stupid and stop caring about what other people want in their lives, it doesn't affect you if someone who is 5'4 wants to be 175 pounds, so what the hell does it matter?

    Aw, it's another person I love! :love: :flowerforyou: :heart:
  • bethlaf
    bethlaf Posts: 954 Member
    When someone starts with a very high weight, it's best to set a goal that is perhaps higher than the "healthy" range. Have some compassion and imagine how daunting having a goal of 200 pound loss must be. Many larger people set several goals. Maybe start with a goal of losing 50 pounds/getting out of the morbid obese category to just obese, then maybe another goal to get into just the "overweight" territory, then a final goal. And even if they never get to in the "healthy" range, losing 175 pounds is still a huge achievement and the person has probably vastly improved their health.
    THIS!!! how is my mini goal anyones business but my own ?
    personally i set micro goals all the time !.
    i just passed 2 last month , 50lbs lost , and now out of morbidly obese- and under 40 BMI ..
    even the goal on my ticker is not my Ulitimate goal , but it is a good goal none the less...
    goals are meant to be achieved , and then SURPASSED. and set a new goal.
    thats the point.
    We set mini goals every day ...
    get up on time , get to work on time , do a good job , dont kill anyone ....
    get home, take care of kids/pets/spouses dont kill anyone
    feed self and others dont kill anyone ...
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
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  • kconrad1712
    kconrad1712 Posts: 36 Member
    Gracie... keep the gifs coming!
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
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  • sisterlilbunny
    sisterlilbunny Posts: 686 Member
    *walks in, looks around, suspects troll post, walks back out*

    Seeing how McJudgypants hasn't been back since? Yup...
  • Linli_Anne
    Linli_Anne Posts: 1,360 Member
    I'm doing it wrong.

    I've set multiple goals, achieved multiple goals, and have set more goals for myself.

    I didn't realize that when I reached that first goal that everything was supposed to just be over.
  • pdank311
    pdank311 Posts: 137 Member
    I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.

    Baby steps and a small win is a win. 2 years ago I set mine at 20 lbs to fit back into a suit. Hit that in like 6 weeks and then kept setting lower targets. That GW could be the motivation for someone to keep pushing on to the next level.

    To each their own IMHO.
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    Jebus, I need to learn to stay out of these forums when I am feeling stabby already. :grumble:

    OP, MYOB! An individual's goal is to be decided by them, perhaps influenced by their physician, and any number of other factors. What is healthy for them may be completely different from what YOU THINK may be healthy for them. :angry:
  • Akimajuktuq
    Akimajuktuq Posts: 3,037 Member
    So my goal to be in the upper range of my BMI doesn't meet with your approval? Like I care. It's MY goal. I know my body and I know what's healthy for ME.

    Maybe focus on YOU instead of others.
  • silver_arrow3
    silver_arrow3 Posts: 1,373 Member
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    ^This.

    I'm sure I could come up with more to say, but you're kind of a **** and I'd rather not.
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
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  • sarafischbach9
    sarafischbach9 Posts: 466 Member
    What the women are probably doing are setting their first goal. Once they get to 175 lbs, for example, they might set another goal of like 140 lbs. Once they reach that, they may stop if they are happy with that weight or make another goal, like 120 or 130 lbs. That is what I think most people are doing... taking baby steps. I don't think they are aiming to stay obese or overweight, but they are doing one goal at a time.
  • _Resolve_
    _Resolve_ Posts: 735 Member
    well this changes EVERYTHING...

    I guess my goal weight of 215 is still way to high, and for only the reason that it doesn't make YOU happy. Never mind the fact that I can ride a 100 mile bike ride in under 7 hours, or able to hang in crossfit 5 days a week, or pretty much smash all the goals i make for myself. Or that my BF% is 19 and dropping or that I am in the top 4% of the country with my lab results, or that I beat diabetes ... but screw all that.. standards are standards and YOU know better than ME about my life.

    Ill get back to work to make you happy now.

    Glad we got all that out of the way.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    maybe I don't care about what is considered a "healthy weight". My goal is to feel good and look at myself confidently. I lost 50lbs and even at 213lbs on my 5'9.5" body looked damn good.
  • becky10rp
    becky10rp Posts: 573 Member
    Merely deciding to lose weight - start this journey seriously - and pick a goal weight - is a major step in and of itself.

    For an outsider to criticize that goal weight seems rather intrusive, mean, and ignorant.

    You don't 'know' these people.
  • dunge0n
    dunge0n Posts: 29 Member
    I see it a lot with women, especially. For example, a 5'4" female starts out with a weight of 350 pounds, and her goal is to get to 175 pounds. That's still obese! I see this a lot where people set goal weights when they are probably underestimating their potential! I understand people want to set realistic goals, but why go so far when you only just a little more to go before your REAL moment of victory? The "healthy" range! Really, if you've set a high final goal weight, consider the fact that with a little more time, you can do even more than that! All it takes is a little more time.

    I don't usually comment on threads like this but this made me mad. I started at 265. For my height I think my healthy weight is 150 or something. I suffer from PCOS. It took me 80 days of eating right and exercising to lose 7lbs. Do you know how daunting that 150 goal is? I think I have my ticker set to 165-170 or something. My goal right now is to get to 230. THAT WILL BE A REAL MOMENT OF VICTORY FOR ME!!. I will still be obese but I will jump up and down. Who are you to judge what anyone's moment of victory is?
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    well this changes EVERYTHING...

    I guess my goal weight of 215 is still way to high, and for only the reason that it doesn't make YOU happy. Never mind the fact that I can ride a 100 mile bike ride in under 7 hours, or able to hang in crossfit 5 days a week, or pretty much smash all the goals i make for myself. Or that my BF% is 19 and dropping or that I am in the top 4% of the country with my lab results, or that I beat diabetes ... but screw all that.. standards are standards and YOU know better than ME about my life.

    Ill get back to work to make you happy now.

    Glad we got all that out of the way.
    but u r not helthy!!!1!
  • sassyjae21
    sassyjae21 Posts: 1,217 Member
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