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    • Gentlemen, its perfectly ok to comment on my weight loss!

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    edited February 24 in Motivation and Support
    Male coworker of mine said to me the other day "wow, you really are losing weight!, I dont know if thats appropriate or not to say, but I can tell you are losing weight"

    Men, trust me, no woman will ever be offended for commenting on a weight loss:)
    please feel free to comment away!!!

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    • Posts: 1,553 Member
      TRUE STORY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    • Posts: 62 Member
      Actually, I know I am in the minority, but I hate when someone comments on my weight loss. People commenting on how much weight I had loss was the reason I stopped losing weight the first time around. In a time of weakness I actually contemplated intentionally regaining the weight to get people to get off my back and leave me alone.
    • Posts: 4 Member
      I'm with piersonj. I would rather people keep their thoughts about my body weight --positive or negative -- to themselves.
    • Posts: 131 Member
      I wish everyone i saw noticed my weight loss haha I worked hard for this and it feels good to have my efforts noticed. It puts a little pep in your step and just makes you feel good. So yes men comment away
    • Posts: 190 Member
      Not always true! I went back to my old college for a 5k race this past year, and saw a bunch of my old teammates from the crew team I was on. At anafterparty later that night one of the guys decided in the middle of a conversation with a large group of old friends and new acquaintances to stop the conversation and announce loudly-everyone look at her--seriously she's lost sooo much weight.

      No one said anything, there was a long awkward silence, and it just made me feel ridiculously uncomfortable and got me thinking about how bad I had looked before, not feeling great about my loss and improvements in fitness. Usually I can take a compliment, but having a spotlight put on me in front of this large group just made me feel so uncomfortable.

      Some people may get discouraged if people *don't* comment on their weightloss, but I know at least for me I would prefer if people kept their thoughts to themselves. Something to keep in mind before you go commenting away-not everyone enjoys it!
    • Posts: 514 Member
      Actually, I know I am in the minority, but I hate when someone comments on my weight loss. People commenting on how much weight I had loss was the reason I stopped losing weight the first time around. In a time of weakness I actually contemplated intentionally regaining the weight to get people to get off my back and leave me alone.

      wow, this makes me sad for you
    • Posts: 514 Member
      Not always true! I went back to my old college for a 5k race this past year, and saw a bunch of my old teammates from the crew team I was on. At anafterparty later that night one of the guys decided in the middle of a conversation with a large group of old friends and new acquaintances to stop the conversation and announce loudly-everyone look at her--seriously she's lost sooo much weight.

      No one said anything, there was a long awkward silence, and it just made me feel ridiculously uncomfortable and got me thinking about how bad I had looked before, not feeling great about my loss and improvements in fitness. Usually I can take a compliment, but having a spotlight put on me in front of this large group just made me feel so uncomfortable.

      Some people may get discouraged if people *don't* comment on their weightloss, but I know at least for me I would prefer if people kept their thoughts to themselves. Something to keep in mind before you go commenting away-not everyone enjoys it!

      I would've owned it and strutted around and taken pride in my weight loss. I guess everyone handles things differently.
    • Posts: 122 Member
      Weight loss or not, you look great! Good for you!
    • Posts: 467 Member
      Some do, some don't. I hate when people talk about any weight loss. Half the time I haven't lost anything, but it always has me wondering, what if the weight loss was due to illness like my weight gain has been? I have a friend who is very ill and has consistently been losing weight. At that point it's not a cause for celebration, but something very painful to deal with. Or what if the person has relapsed in an eating disorder? Wouldn't it be an encouragement for them to continue down that path?

      And then I think on the flip side, would I want people to comment on weight gain? If commenting on weight loss is fine, why isn't the reverse true? I hated the comments when I gained weight. I have metabolic issues I'm being treated for, and gained weight out of nowhere. It was something out of my control. Add an injury to it, and we all know where that goes. I hate how people would point out how fat I had gotten. I wouldn't wish anyone felt that bad, no matter if it was due to weight gain or weight loss. So in my opinion, not ok to comment ever unless she's fishing for it.
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      wow, this makes me sad for you


      OP, good for you for being proud of your weight loss, but you are the one who started the thread by speaking for half the population on the planet. You have no right to give a snarky response to someone who simply expressed that she doesn't fall under your blanket statement.

      Anyway, congrats on your weight loss.
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      OP, good for you for being proud of your weight loss, but you are the one who started the thread by speaking for half the population on the planet. You have no right to give a snarky response to someone who simply expressed that she doesn't fall under your blanket statement.

      Anyway, congrats on your weight loss.

      but you have a right to reprimand me? Same difference:huh:

      thats how I feel. It IS sad if someone is that insecure they would rather gain weight. Thats my opinion.
    • Posts: 480 Member
      I agree 110%. Love to know the hard work is paying off!
    • Posts: 18,901 Member
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      but you have a right to reprimand me? Same difference:huh:

      thats how I feel. It IS sad if someone is that insecure they would rather gain weight. Thats my opinion.

      Yup, that's how YOU feel. so:
      Men, trust me, no woman will ever be offended for commenting on a weight loss:)
      please feel free to comment away!!!

      isn't really accurate is it? In the space of a very short time you have proof that a lot of women mind if someone comments on their weight loss...
    • Posts: 514 Member
      geez, bunch of kill joys

      USUALLY, if someone is working out and working hard, they don't have any problems with people commenting on weight loss. This is how all the women in my life feel and every woman I have ever met feel as well.
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      but you have a right to reprimand me? Same difference:huh:

      thats how I feel. It IS sad if someone is that insecure they would rather gain weight. Thats my opinion.


      I didn't start a thread speaking for all women. You did, and then you gave attitude to people who expressed an opinion different from your own. And "same difference" is an oxymoron.
    • Posts: 1,639 Member
      I suspect it has a lot to do with your self confidence. I've been amazed how even the most trivial of things can affect people with very low self confidence and sometimes it feels like they're going out of their way to misconstrue innocuous comments as offensive/mean, even when the comment was meant to be complimentary or at worst constructive criticism. All that to say - I can see some people taking such comments negatively, but those same people would probably take a lot of other comments negatively as well.

      In any event, you look great and to the people that feel bad when people try and compliment them, hopefully they get to a point where they're proud of their accomplishments and where they are today, rather than dwelling on negatives like how they looked in the past.
    • Posts: 386 Member
      geez, bunch of kill joys

      USUALLY, if someone is working out and working hard, they don't have any problems with people commenting on weight loss. This is how all the women in my life feel and every woman I have ever met feel as well.

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      Actually, I know I am in the minority, but I hate when someone comments on my weight loss. People commenting on how much weight I had loss was the reason I stopped losing weight the first time around. In a time of weakness I actually contemplated intentionally regaining the weight to get people to get off my back and leave me alone.

      You are not alone. When I was younger I lost A LOT of weight (60-ish pounds?) all on my own with pure willpower and determination, (always very proud of 13 year old me). When I was down to 115-120 I FELT great and looked great in the mirror but my family and my friend CONSTANTLY commented on how "skinny" I was and how "little" I was and when I would cuddle with my friend she called me "boney"... All these comments got to me and I gained around 30 pounds.

      (If it matters, my family and friend at the time were all overweight... so maybe, I dunno, that could mean something towards the comments on my figure.)

      I'm a lot older now and what people say matters less. I just can't wait to shed all the pounds I've gained and feel awesome no matter what people say!
    • Posts: 514 Member
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      I didn't start a thread speaking for all women. You did, and then you gave attitude to people who expressed an opinion different from your own. And "same difference" is an oxymoron.

      ok, thank you have a good day
      please carry on
    • Posts: 4,301 Member
      Okay, so this thread is on page one, and somebody with 34 responses in 3 YEARS comes in to a thread complains, and its off to the races with the nitpicking. WTF folks? Look at this way, what is being said which is positive? Who is posting something positive? If someone notices your weight loss I would think this is a positive. Sweet Jesus people, lighten up!
    • Posts: 300 Member
      geez, bunch of kill joys

      USUALLY, if someone is working out and working hard, they don't have any problems with people commenting on weight loss. This is how all the women in my life feel and every woman I have ever met feel as well.

      So what, your anecdotal evidence is supposed to set the standard for all women, and the women expressing differing opinions in this thread must be the anomalies? Could not be, perhaps, an association bias, in which you spend time with people who are similar to yourself and therefore react similarly?

      The internet is full of so many people from so many backgrounds, you're going to be repeatedly disappointed if you look for everyone to be similar to yourself. Embrace the differences, they're what make people interesting.
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      So what, your anecdotal evidence is supposed to set the standard for all women, and the women expressing differing opinions in this thread must be the anomalies? Could not be, perhaps, an association bias, in which you spend time with people who are similar to yourself and therefore react similarly?

      The internet is full of so many people from so many backgrounds, you're going to be repeatedly disappointed if you look for everyone to be similar to yourself. Embrace the differences, they're what make people interesting.


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    • Posts: 8,927 Member
      One time someone I didn't recall knowing came up to me and was gushing about how much weight I had lost. I kept trying to tell him he must be confusing me with someone else and that I had definitely not lost any weight (I had been the same weight since I was 16). It was weird.
    • Posts: 2,019 Member
      Male coworker of mine said to me the other day "wow, you really are losing weight!, I dont know if thats appropriate or not to say, but I can tell you are losing weight"

      Men, trust me, no woman will ever be offended for commenting on a weight loss:)
      please feel free to comment away!!!
      Two different HR departments at former jobs of mine disagree with you, sadly.
    • Posts: 1,524 Member
      One time someone I didn't recall knowing came up to me and was gushing about how much weight I had lost. I kept trying to tell him he must be confusing me with someone else and that I had definitely not lost any weight (I had been the same weight since I was 16). It was weird.

      Nonono....Every woman in the world is happy to hear that she's losing weight, all the time, no exceptions!.
    • Posts: 2,640 Member
      Congratz on your loss.

      I, personally, don't like it. I had a guy at work approach me and actually ask what was wrong with me. Like, acting like I was sick. I told him I just lost weight and he asked me why. I would take no one noticing over a single comment like that. I did this for me and I can see positive comments as a good feeling but I get annoying comments 9/10.
    • Posts: 8,927 Member
      Congratz on your loss.

      I, personally, don't like it. I had a guy at work approach me and actually ask what was wrong with me. Like, acting like I was sick. I told him I just lost weight and he asked me why. I would take no one noticing over a single comment like that. I did this for me and I can see positive comments as a good feeling but I get annoying comments 9/10.

      Someone said to me, "I noticed that you lost weight, which I thought was weird because i never thought you needed to, but I didn't want to say anything in case you were sick."
    • Posts: 264 Member
      I can see both sides. I have a large staff at work and it does get annoying to hear about it like every day. I appreciate the compliments, but still it gets a little out of hand sometimes.
      But on the other side, the guys that I'm dating totally refuse to comment on it, probably because they don't want to imply that I was fat before. So basically, the people I want to hear it from don't say anything, and the people who's opinions I couldn't care less about won't shut up about it. lol
    • Posts: 1,179 Member
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      Two different HR departments at former jobs of mine disagree with you, sadly.

      Agreed. As a manager I'm not allowed to comment about anything to do with a persons appearance unless it is safety related. There are a couple of women in my department who are dieting and exercising and doing really well. I would really like to congratulate them and tell them how good they are doing but sadly I can't.
    • Posts: 1,524 Member
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      Agreed. As a manager I'm not allowed to comment about anything to do with a persons appearance unless it is safety related. There are a couple of women in my department who are dieting and exercising and doing really well. I would really like to congratulate them and tell them how good they are doing but sadly I can't.

      Yes, how sad that there are policies in place to protect an individual's right to privacy regarding their own body.
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