Gentlemen, its perfectly ok to comment on my weight loss!
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I am kinda mixed on my feelings.....I've lost around 60 pounds and yes it was nice people noticing, but then that's all they wanted to talk about, and there are better things to talk about than myself. yes I am proud of myself, but also still insecure.
Sometimes people are just curious as to how you do it....
I was at the beach the other day and two ladies started talking to me
They started complimenting me and asking me questions...
So I took the time to explain to them what I do and how I do it....
I think I enjoyed sharing information more with them, then I did getting the compliments.
Prolly cause I also feel a bit of insecurity myself....but that is something I am working on and dealing with.
Max, those girls were flirting with you. I wasn't even there and I'm sure of it.
Sigh, must I be a wingman for the entire world?
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I wish everyone i saw noticed my weight loss haha I worked hard for this and it feels good to have my efforts noticed. It puts a little pep in your step and just makes you feel good. So yes men comment away
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God I love this.
NOW YOU WOMEN KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO DATE YOU!
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So true
Dating women is like playing Russian Roulette....
Except there are 5 bullets in the revolver, not just one :laugh:
OP, you'll find there are lots of people on MFP that just comment to rip people apart, they don't actually care what the subject matter is. Try to ignore them :flowerforyou:
Well, at least women roulette sometimes gets you some. Totally worth the gamble.
Also, I don't see any real ripping apart just opinions and personal experiences with weight loss comments and reasons why some people might not comment
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Weight loss or not, you look great! Good for you!
This ^^
Weight loss or not, you just naturally look good! Congrats on the loss, though!
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Well, at least women roulette sometimes gets you some. Totally worth the gamble.
Also, I don't see any real ripping apart just opinions and personal experiences with weight loss comments and reasons why some people might not comment
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True lol :happy:
Pages 1 and 2 someone jumped on her back for speaking for all women, seemed harsh to me that's all wasn't trying to start an argument.0 -
I suspect it has a lot to do with your self confidence. I've been amazed how even the most trivial of things can affect people with very low self confidence and sometimes it feels like they're going out of their way to misconstrue innocuous comments as offensive/mean, even when the comment was meant to be complimentary or at worst constructive criticism. All that to say - I can see some people taking such comments negatively, but those same people would probably take a lot of other comments negatively as well.
In any event, you look great and to the people that feel bad when people try and compliment them, hopefully they get to a point where they're proud of their accomplishments and where they are today, rather than dwelling on negatives like how they looked in the past.
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Well, at least women roulette sometimes gets you some. Totally worth the gamble.
Also, I don't see any real ripping apart just opinions and personal experiences with weight loss comments and reasons why some people might not comment
True lol :happy:
Pages 1 and 2 someone jumped on her back for speaking for all women, seemed harsh to me that's all wasn't trying to start an argument.
Haha. Sometimes translating words comes out differently than the writers intent, too. I read it as kind of a womany blanket statement. But I knew what OP meant :laugh:
I tend to take all words as a grain of salt though. Or gif. Gifs are nice0 -
LOL
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I can see both sides. I have a large staff at work and it does get annoying to hear about it like every day. I appreciate the compliments, but still it gets a little out of hand sometimes.
But on the other side, the guys that I'm dating totally refuse to comment on it, probably because they don't want to imply that I was fat before. So basically, the people I want to hear it from don't say anything, and the people who's opinions I couldn't care less about won't shut up about it. lol LOL 0 -
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So basically, the people I want to hear it from don't say anything, and the people who's opinions I couldn't care less about won't shut up about it. lol
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Bottom line is this... WORKPLACE IS AN INAPPROPRIATE SETTING TO COMMENT ON ONE'S WEIGHT...
The exception would be if you are involved in a wellness related activity or event.
In a social setting, even if you don't like it, it's unfair to expect people to know whether or not a comment would be accepted as positive or negative. It would be best to be gracious and deflect if you don't like the comments, or embrace if you do.
For some, weight is a very personal issue... Let's face it, we lose weight for ourselves first and foremost. But, it is a very visual and outward facing display of yourself, so others are bound to notice. Hardly anyone would ever comment on weight loss with anything other than the best of intentions. With that in mind, it's best to simply be gracious in you reaction, and either leave the conversation or strut, depending on your preference.
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I also do not mind in the least if someone comments on my weight loss, for me it shows I have worked hard - and it is not only me that realise it!
I do appreciate it if someone compliments me on the loss! - It is not measuring my self-worth as some have implied - it is simply knowing that it is not only me seeing the results 0 -
IT'S A TRAP!0
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Wow. Ok...
One of my reasons for losing weight is for vain reasons. For the compliments. I've spent years and years hiding. Using my kids to take the attention off of me (aww look how big -my daughter- has gotten, so cute!!) ... so I would distract from the 'wow look how big Krista's gotten' ...
The "so much weight lost" argument.. yes, I have lost a lot, because I weighed a lot. I know this, they know this.. why dance around it? That's what you're here for, isn't it?
I do agree though, there's been an increase of people asking if I am losing intentionally. But it's not done in an insensitive way. "hey, you've lost weight. Are you trying?" "you betcha!" "well great, congratulations!" .. typical conversation.
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Its all a roll of the dice, just suggest knowing the person before you compliment, some people just look at the negative in everything.0
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Max, those girls were flirting with you. I wasn't even there and I'm sure of it.
Sigh, must I be a wingman for the entire world?
Srs???
No they weren't.
Well if they were, they got bored to tears then, cause I talked about nutrition and training. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Damn, I am a F**king idiot
Sigh.. I could slap you. But you'd crush me immediately after.
Women were talking to you at the beach about how great your body looked. That's basically one step shy of handing you a "Would You Like To Have The Sex" card.
And you gave them a speech about stronglifts and hitting your macros...
YOU'RE WASTING YOUR BODY! Let me take it out for a spin, just for a day! I'd have more questionable strange than a person would know what to do with. And I'd be sure to give it back right when it starts to burn where you pee...
^^This. C'mon, Max. That's flirting 101.0 -
OP - you look great. This has been an interesting read. I for one love it when people notice and take it as a compliment. The best part is when they asked me what diet i am on and I tell them I'm not on a diet but I do work my *kitten* off st the gym and I don't eat like a pig.0
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Max, those girls were flirting with you. I wasn't even there and I'm sure of it.
Sigh, must I be a wingman for the entire world?
Srs???
No they weren't.
Well if they were, they got bored to tears then, cause I talked about nutrition and training. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Damn, I am a F**king idiot
Sigh.. I could slap you. But you'd crush me immediately after.
Women were talking to you at the beach about how great your body looked. That's basically one step shy of handing you a "Would You Like To Have The Sex" card.
And you gave them a speech about stronglifts and hitting your macros...
YOU'RE WASTING YOUR BODY! Let me take it out for a spin, just for a day! I'd have more questionable strange than a person would know what to do with. And I'd be sure to give it back right when it starts to burn where you pee...
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This conversation is priceless. If you guys need a judge on who is more attractive, just let me know.0 -
Max, those girls were flirting with you. I wasn't even there and I'm sure of it.
Sigh, must I be a wingman for the entire world?
Srs???
No they weren't.
Well if they were, they got bored to tears then, cause I talked about nutrition and training. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Damn, I am a F**king idiot
Sigh.. I could slap you. But you'd crush me immediately after.
Women were talking to you at the beach about how great your body looked. That's basically one step shy of handing you a "Would You Like To Have The Sex" card.
And you gave them a speech about stronglifts and hitting your macros...
YOU'RE WASTING YOUR BODY! Let me take it out for a spin, just for a day! I'd have more questionable strange than a person would know what to do with. And I'd be sure to give it back right when it starts to burn where you pee...
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Ugh...
I seriously need a book on women or something.....
I have no idea.
Don't want to come off as cocky and arrogant.....and just responded to what they were asking me....so that is why I talked about that....
And you are right, that is exactly what I talked about with them. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
So stupid. :grumble: :grumble: :grumble: :grumble:0 -
I don't mind it as long as it's not a constant thing. Some people like to really obsess over it and make comments constantly. THAT I don't like because then it becomes kind of uncomfortable and annoying.
thats called a hater! lol0 -
this thread is funny
i personally think its kind of a bittersweet feeling. its good to know people are noticing so i know im doing well but its kind of an uncomfortable conversation when it comes up most times, im not the best at accepting compliments about my appearance without coming off awkward. or leads to "oh i wish i could lose weight" and then i have to decide on whether i take the chance of telling them how to do it properly and end up having a 10 minute conversation with them explaining how im wrong, or to immediately change the subject. either way i feel like i get trapped into sounding like a d*ckwad0 -
I have noticed that in Britain, instead of directly complementing a person on their weight loss, many people will say something akin to: "You look well". It doesn't hurt those who don't like comments, yet it is encouraging and complementary to those who do.0
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IT'S A TRAP!
I JUST DIED LAUGHING!!!0 -
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I have noticed that in Britain, instead of directly complementing a person on their weight loss, many people will say something akin to: "You look well". It doesn't hurt those who don't like comments, yet it is encouraging and complementary to those who do.
But they teach you guys "Tact:101" in primary school. We get Here Comes Honey Boo-Boo on the freaking Learning Channel.0 -
Max, those girls were flirting with you. I wasn't even there and I'm sure of it.
Sigh, must I be a wingman for the entire world?
Srs???
No they weren't.
Well if they were, they got bored to tears then, cause I talked about nutrition and training. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Damn, I am a F**king idiot
Sigh.. I could slap you. But you'd crush me immediately after.
Women were talking to you at the beach about how great your body looked. That's basically one step shy of handing you a "Would You Like To Have The Sex" card.
And you gave them a speech about stronglifts and hitting your macros...
YOU'RE WASTING YOUR BODY! Let me take it out for a spin, just for a day! I'd have more questionable strange than a person would know what to do with. And I'd be sure to give it back right when it starts to burn where you pee...
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This conversation is priceless. If you guys need a judge on who is more attractive, just let me know.
At this point, I just need u to educate me. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Cause apparently I am pretty stinking dense in this area.0 -
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This conversation is priceless. If you guys need a judge on who is more attractive, just let me know.
Oh HELL no! I'm not setting myself up for that crushing defeat. The man looks like the Greeks carved him from marble!
BUT... I know how to talk to girls. So I do just fine for myself. Now I'll see about helping big man learn how to strut.
I am a wingman to the world. An everyman's Barney Stinson. And my work is never done.
Max my boy, I'm gonna teach you how to live.
Good, I will take the education at this point.....I need it0 -
this thread is funny
i personally think its kind of a bittersweet feeling. its good to know people are noticing so i know im doing well but its kind of an uncomfortable conversation when it comes up most times, im not the best at accepting compliments about my appearance without coming off awkward. or leads to "oh i wish i could lose weight" and then i have to decide on whether i take the chance of telling them how to do it properly and end up having a 10 minute conversation with them explaining how im wrong, or to immediately change the subject. either way i feel like i get trapped into sounding like a d*ckwad
^^This!
I can take a compliment.
It's the natural next statement that causes problems "How'd you do it?"
"I went Paleo...."
"I read an article that Paleo is a fad/doesn't work/illogical/etc..."
"Than don't do it." (shrug)0 -
Max, those girls were flirting with you. I wasn't even there and I'm sure of it.
Sigh, must I be a wingman for the entire world?
Srs???
No they weren't.
Well if they were, they got bored to tears then, cause I talked about nutrition and training. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Damn, I am a F**king idiot
Sigh.. I could slap you. But you'd crush me immediately after.
Women were talking to you at the beach about how great your body looked. That's basically one step shy of handing you a "Would You Like To Have The Sex" card.
And you gave them a speech about stronglifts and hitting your macros...
YOU'RE WASTING YOUR BODY! Let me take it out for a spin, just for a day! I'd have more questionable strange than a person would know what to do with. And I'd be sure to give it back right when it starts to burn where you pee...
:laugh:
This conversation is priceless. If you guys need a judge on who is more attractive, just let me know.
At this point, I just need u to educate me. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Cause apparently I am pretty stinking dense in this area.
I blame the women. If a man started talking strong lifts and macros, I'd probably tell him to hush and look pretty.
But first lesson for next time: "Thanks ladies. You two are so beautiful that this might be the best compliment I've ever gotten."
Happy ending isn't guaranteed, but the odds go way up.0
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