Being hit on/flirted with?

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How could anybody not like it. Gives you a boost and bounce in your step.

OK...let me put it this way....You are at work. A big guy starts talking to you and complimenting your outfit. Ok right?...he comes by your desk a lot that day..compliments your hair, your eyes etc...and then asks you for lunch. You make it clear "thanks, but I don't go that way", Guy looks pissed, but walks away. After work, you notice this guy in the parking lot. He's checking you out. Hes bigger and you heard he's a professional MMA figher on the weekends.

Still liking it? Does it feel kind of scary and threatening yet?

See...that's the problem. men don't see a problem with "flirting" because most have never experienced a scary flirter who won't take no for an answer, and has the ability to physically overpower and hurt you if they choose. Almost all women have experienced that. THAT is why many of us are wary of flirting. If men could take no for an answer and leave us alone...then we'd be more relaxed with it.

there is a difference between good fun flirting and OTT stalking and you can't possible put those into the same basket.

If people did not flirt then nobody would get together and no action would happen

I agree, but there is a time and place for it, and if the person does not flirt back, stop for petes sake!

Agree. but the way it was worded was taken to the extreme. Not every approach is going to lead to a gorilla stalking you in the carpark and overpowering you to submit.

I don't know how bad it gets in the US but usually here in OZ guys understand that thanks but no means just that.

There are creepy people and people that keep it toned down and it feels like a compliment..either way as a married woman it's almost always crossing a line that they are doing it in the first place..

you never know how someone feels about themselves, I sometimes take it as they are picking on me (even if they aren't) just because I am insecure, even after losing weight.
I am in no way "sexy" and even when people compliment me and tell me how "skinny" i am, I say thank you but my first initial reaction is taking it as they are only trying to make me feel better, or actually thinking the opposite.

An example of some creeps I deal with every day since I lost my weight:
I work in a bakery and work on cakes in the front window,
I get guys that stare in through the window and kiss the window or lick the window then wink and waggle their eyebrows (they aren't even looking at the cake. (I always hope that they were doing it because of the cake.. I wasn't that lucky )
I got a guy last week that told me I "was the most delicious looking thing in the bakery"
and I get guys that compliment my chest tattoo as an excuse to stare at my chest and try looking down my shirt...
I also get flirtatious disgusting questions asking me if I have any tats in private areas...friggin idiots..

^^those are the things that men should never do in my opinion...

Brittany, do they know you're married? I think half the time a guy hits on someone, it's to give a sincere compliment. The other half...they're gauging interest to see if she's into him. I give plenty of compliments to women I know who are in a relationship/married whom I'm not interested in.

I can usually tell the difference between a guy complimenting me and isn't interested or the creeps I listed. the guys complimenting me don't bother me as much, I never said I thought every single guy that flirts with me wants me. lol I was only trying to give some examples of the gross ones.
I live in a really small town, most of my customers are regulars and know I am married. I'm not sure if the creeps know, most likely not but I still have a wedding/engagement ring that is easily visible. I couldn't expect EVERYONE to know I am though.

I figured I would only mention the disgusting behavior so if there is a guy reading this that does the same, he might realize that most women don't really like that kind of behavior.

also, that not every woman may be confident enough to take it as a compliment, it might only make them feel more insecure.

I completely understand what you are saying though!!

Just cause its Friday....

personally I love cat calls, rapey eyes, flirting from women! I say bring it on!

No one every really flirts with me so idk lmao

How is it possible that no one flirts with you? I would be tempted and I'm a straight woman :laugh:

Never really experienced it but im sure id like it, if i wasnt so oblivious and noticed it.

Is it wrong everyone who keeps mentioning cat calling makes me think of peter from family guy interrupting all the "Hey baby" with "YOU SUCK!"

No one every really flirts with me so idk lmao

How is it possible that no one flirts with you? I would be tempted and I'm a straight woman :laugh:

Idk, they just really don't lol And back at you;) haha

As long as they don't get creepier than me, I have no issues with it.

I would agree with this =P

As long as they don't get creepier than me, I have no issues with it.

I would agree with this =P

I'm not sure how I feel about this gif. I can't stop watching, yet it gives me a little anxiety..lol

So you're saying that women don't like to be motorboated by random guys in public settings?

exactly lol :laugh:

crazy right?

guys in my town seem to think that is as common as a handshake..

I don't realize that I am being hit on or flirted with half of the time

It has never happened to me in all of my 40 years and probably never will. Eventually, you feel really ashamed of yourself for not having what it takes to provoke a positive like that.

I don't mind it unless it:

A.) is by a much older and/or unattractive creeper -- especially if said creeper is a co-worker.

or B.) if it's not genuine -- just someone trying to snag anything.

It all comes down to delivery and tact, though. Some of the most touching compliments were from old men that weren't making the compliment for any benefit to themselves, just a genuine observation that they'd thought to share with me.