STOP ATTACKING OP's!!! NOW!

Gee thanks, OP. You will DEFINITELY change the internet with that little soapbox speech. :huh: Get over yourself.

You need to get off your high horse and get over yourself. You are very arrogant without proper justification.

Well, that wasn't very nice, MissBear. But then, as he wasn't the OP, I suppose your comment was okay?

Invariably in these threads, the OP tends to become ruder than anyone else posting. Yet, they rarely see what they, themselves, are doing.

Hating requires an underlying feeling of jealousy. I'm not really seeing or reading anything to be jealous of.

So...

I want to take this as a perfect example of someone disagreeing with me but doing so in a RESPECTFUL manner. He disagrees but he doesn't have to belittle me, the OP in the process. Kudos. SOMEONE is an adult here

Um...they implied that there is nothing you provide being worth jealousy: ie you posess nothing or provide nothing of value. That is pretry much the definition of belittlement.

I wouldn't recommend holding up that particular post as an example of disagreement without insult.

... and you had to ruin it for everyone.

It's the way that the post was written I suppose, it was written without having to call names, take cheap shots, or just be evil. If its his opinion that I have nothing to be jealous of, then he has a right to that opinion. I'm talking more so about bullying in a different sense I guess. Grr it's hard to communicate this late at night. I'm sleepy!

Its a good thing you're pretty OP. :flowerforyou:

:blushing: :blushing: :blushing: :flowerforyou:

::facepalm::

*COUGH COUGH COUGH COUGH*

Sorry sorry, I will retire my position as pointer of the bleedingly obvious ironic posts

Whoever battles with monsters had better see that it does not turn him into a monster. And if you gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you.
Friedrich Nietzsche

I think there are a lot of people on here that respond inappropriately to people's questions or concerns. It's one thing to give someone advice or an opinion. It's another thing to give advice with a condescending flair. I see that A LOT on here, usually from people that make it really really obvious (at least to the veteran forum user) they're trying to see if they can get a rise out of the OP. And, once they do, the OP's original concern becomes moot...

For example, saw a guy tell someone to "Be a big girl and make grown up choices" in response to her cry for help/advice. Seriously, you could have said the exact same thing but phrased it appropriately.

In any case, people's responses don't bother me simply because my job revolves around these kinds of things and I see it. Every. Day.
But for new people, shy, timid or scared people that feel they can more openly ask for help online....To be shut down like that? It's just not cool.

I don't think anything is wrong with telling anyone to "Be a big girl and make grown up choices." It is a blunt way of telling them to stop being childish and act responsible.

I think there are a lot of people on here that respond inappropriately to people's questions or concerns. It's one thing to give someone advice or an opinion. It's another thing to give advice with a condescending flair. I see that A LOT on here, usually from people that make it really really obvious (at least to the veteran forum user) they're trying to see if they can get a rise out of the OP. And, once they do, the OP's original concern becomes moot...

For example, saw a guy tell someone to "Be a big girl and make grown up choices" in response to her cry for help/advice. Seriously, you could have said the exact same thing but phrased it appropriately.

In any case, people's responses don't bother me simply because my job revolves around these kinds of things and I see it. Every. Day.
But for new people, shy, timid or scared people that feel they can more openly ask for help online....To be shut down like that? It's just not cool.

Some people do well with tough love - some don't. People don't have time to evaluate the emotional needs of each poster before responding.

I'm an incredibly sensitive person. It's just part of who I am. I've had to actively work to be objective about what people say to me - because it's on ME to interpret the responses - I can choose to read things in a negative or degrading way, or I can choose to recognize that the person is trying to help in their own way. There isn't a sarcasm font, or a tough love font or a I have to poop so I'm rushing this post font.

I've had crappy things said to me on here, and I've lashed out and gotten butthurt - all of that could have been avoided if I had viewed the exchange with a different attitude.

So yes, some people are jerks - but if you (general) are jerks back, you're just as guilty.

And if you're posting about how mean people are, then get mean back you're a guilty hypocrite.

I'm starting to get angry with the level of disrespect floating around on these message boards. I see posts and people go about making snide and rude remarks about the original poster and I thinks its very immature. There is always a way to have an opinion and not be rude or "throw shade" on the person who started the thread. Internet bullying is real, and all those insecure people who want to attack OP's need to seriously be checked on their dirty behavior. Please be respectful to everyone, even if you disagree with them. Period. If you can't do that then you need help.

But what else am I supposed to do at work?

My name is Linda and I joined in May. I saw my neighbor melt away, and had to find out how she did it. She told me about MyFitnessPal. Since I joined, I've lost 6 pounds, (25 days). That may not sound like a lot to some, but for me it is a lot. I had been working out for 4 months and hadn't lost one pound, and I'd been trying to lose ten pounds for two 1/2 years. I even tried weight watchers. So far this is a great program for me. I told my mom and she's lost 9 pounds! I am excited about finally losing the weight. In addition, I am not hungry, I never feel deprived and i eat what I want. I also like the sodium and fat tracker. If you plan meals ahead, you can make better decisions about what you eat. Too much salt, don't eat it, too much fat, don't eat it. I love it! But most important, I am excited about me being able to maintain the weight loss through the same program.

I'm starting to get angry with the level of disrespect floating around on these message boards. I see posts and people go about making snide and rude remarks about the original poster and I thinks its very immature. There is always a way to have an opinion and not be rude or "throw shade" on the person who started the thread. Internet bullying is real, and all those insecure people who want to attack OP's need to seriously be checked on their dirty behavior. Please be respectful to everyone, even if you disagree with them. Period. If you can't do that then you need help.

But what else am I supposed to do at work?

Derp_Diggler-- is it weird that I saw your profile picture and thought it was someone's bare buttocks?

Man, I'm getting old.

OP -- sorry, but I'm with the masses on this one. Yeah, there are snarky people on here-- but, as adults we can either not post so we don't catch the snark, or rise above it and look for the wisdom on the boards.

Our choice.