Is it norm to watch porn?

chani8
chani8 Posts: 946 Member
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I'm having a discussion with some girl friends, one who recently found out her DH watched porn when she was out of town.

First of all, do you think it's normal, healthy s-xual behavior to watch porn?

What about for a married person (without the spouse's presence)?

If you found out your spouse was watching porn without you, what would you do?
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  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    It is fine, You aren't touching another, Just a bit of fantasy.
  • shmerek
    shmerek Posts: 963 Member
    Nothing wrong with pron
  • dinadeee
    dinadeee Posts: 217 Member
    100%
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    I saw an article about a study.... the study never actually happened. The scientists were looking to compare men who watched porn with men who didn't watch porn. They set out to get volunteers for the study. They hit a problem. That problem was that they couldn't find any male volunteers for the "men who don't watch porn" group - because they couldn't find any men who didn't watch porn. So the study never happened and they had to conclude that all men watch porn.

    Is that proof that men who don't watch porn don't exist? No. But it does show that they are hard to find.

    From a marriage point of view, probably best for you to enjoy it together. But if he's watching it alone I don't see it as that big a deal to be honest. If a husband was unwilling to share it at all then that might be something to be concerned about.
  • lemonsnlove
    lemonsnlove Posts: 200
    Yup, sure is.
  • cakebatter07
    cakebatter07 Posts: 814 Member
    Yeah it's definitely normal to watch porn. I'm single, but I watch porn. Not too frequently, but I do.

    If I was married, as long as my spouse is honest and open about it, then it would be okay.
  • chloeealicee
    chloeealicee Posts: 204 Member
    100% normal, in my opinion if you don't allow your partner to watch it you are an incredibly unreasonable person. It's perfectly normal for people of both sexes to watch it.
  • Loraluvs
    Loraluvs Posts: 50 Member
    Watching some right now
  • shmerek
    shmerek Posts: 963 Member
    If a dude/chick wants to whack off by him/herself to porn I don't think he/she needs to tell his/her partner. You don't need to share absolutely everything.
  • RhineDHP
    RhineDHP Posts: 1,025 Member
    As long as it's not getting in the way of your normal intimate life, I'd say,


    WATCH ALL TEH PR0NS!


    haha.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    If a dude/chick wants to whack off by him/herself to porn I don't think he/she needs to tell his/her partner. You don't need to share absolutely everything.

    yeah but if your partner wants to join in, they don't necessarily need to join in every time, but why would someone not want them to join in sometimes?
  • Eastern_Echo23
    Eastern_Echo23 Posts: 198 Member
    how do these types of messages get on the forum? I would say that it isn't... but then again i don't watch it so i couldn't tell you very much about it
  • BootCampC
    BootCampC Posts: 689 Member
    WHAT! someone doesn't watch porn you say?
  • lewoldt
    lewoldt Posts: 630 Member
    If a dude/chick wants to whack off by him/herself to porn I don't think he/she needs to tell his/her partner. You don't need to share absolutely everything.

    yeah but if your partner wants to join in, they don't necessarily need to join in every time, but why would someone not want them to join in sometimes?

    truth
  • workout_ninja
    workout_ninja Posts: 524 Member
    i know my hubby watches porn, he knows I watch porn. Its always when the other one is out of the house. I really dont see anything wrong with it tbh. Never understood the women who have major problems with it. Its harmless
  • kwb87
    kwb87 Posts: 70 Member
    I don't think being married/in a relationship/single makes any difference. Watching porn/*kitten* is very healthy and helps people to understand what stimulates them. This in turn can help relationships.

    I don't see anything wrong in watching porn without your partner. I would be surprised and perhaps even confused if I found out my partner had not watched any porn alone since we had been together.

    Some couples might want to watch porn together or tell each other about what they've been watching, others might prefer to keep this to themselves, either way I think this is normally very healthy.
  • mruntidy
    mruntidy Posts: 1,015 Member
    It's absolutely fine

    My HR department didn't seem to agree though
  • poedunk65
    poedunk65 Posts: 1,336 Member
    Everythin in moderation. As long as it doesn't take the place of dealing in a relationship it is ok. Besides where do you thin us guys learn all of our moves, LMAO
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Normal is subjective.
  • glenmchale
    glenmchale Posts: 1,307 Member
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    healthy is the word i'd use, also better not to hide it just be open and share it
  • bunnypanther
    bunnypanther Posts: 110
    Its fine!

    I know my OH watches porn. He knows I do. Sometimes we watch it together.

    He lives 50 miles away so only see each other at weekends so I'd be kinda shocked if he didn't "scratch the itch" by himself sometimes. I do.
  • AglaeaC
    AglaeaC Posts: 1,974 Member
    Of course it's normal. I wouldn't want him to fantasize about the woman in the movie when he's having sex with me, but other than that whatever. I think it's normal not to suppress urges, so why shouldn't he or she think the same?

    In general when talking about personal preferences, I'd be very careful how I put my words. I would talk about me, myself, and I, rather than go in general terms as well as chuck a "normal" in there. If you've never watched porn, maybe see for yourself without arriving in the moment riding on a high horse. And maybe read a bit (there's looots of stuff on the internet) about various ways people find sexual harmony. Finally, if it's not for you, keep it at "Yeah, I get that others find something arousing, but that particular thing isn't my cup of tea; I have other cups of tea" and you'll offend nobody. If you didn't get it yet, I was referring to kink and other stuff that is perfectly normal for some people; expand your horizons, it's healthy.
  • BlueAngelChar
    BlueAngelChar Posts: 1,364 Member
    I must be a perv cause I watch it regularly and enjoy it! :love: :laugh: :wink:
  • tennisdude2004
    tennisdude2004 Posts: 5,609 Member
    I watch it, but normally only for the award winning acting and amazing plot lines.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    .
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,211 Member
    I watch it, hub watches it, sometimes we watch together, but rarely (not because we don't want to, just don't need it IYKWIM :wink: )

    I've never ever got relationships where one gets upset that the other watches porn...
  • ProfessorOwl
    ProfessorOwl Posts: 312 Member
    As long as it's not getting in the way of your normal intimate life, I'd say,


    WATCH ALL TEH PR0NS!


    haha.

    I agree. As long as watching it doesn't interfere or take the place of sex with your SO, not a darn thing wrong with it.

    I hope it's nothing too terrible. It's the closest thing to sex I've had in years!
  • RllyGudTweetr
    RllyGudTweetr Posts: 2,019 Member
    It seems to me that being concerned that your SO is watching porn is basically 'being concerned that your SO self-serves.' Given the oft-repeated line that 95% of people do that, with 5% of people being liars, this concern seems silly to me.
  • blueboxgeek
    blueboxgeek Posts: 574 Member
    I have absolutely no problem with porn and know my hubby doesn't either. I know he watches it on occassions and so do I, we will sometimes watch together.

    I think the issue comes when one person keeps it a secret. It's not like you have to 'fess up every time you watch it, but talking about it and both agreeing that it is ok is something that should be done.

    I have also known people become addicted to it, actually watching that much of it that it had a negative impact on their relationship. But that is way above just watching it some while wife is out of town.
  • blueboxgeek
    blueboxgeek Posts: 574 Member
    I watch it, but normally only for the award winning acting and amazing plot lines.

    There is some very high class acting skills :)
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