Looks or Personality?

Because you would rather be physically attracted to them, rather than being attracted to them for things other than solely being beautiful. I'd much rather have someone who was average, and had a great personality and intelligen, than someone who's hot like barbie, and stupid as rocks, and a ***** to boot... Looks are not everything. Yes, even average people have these traits too, but they can be weeded out. I am more likely to approach someone who is not giving off the 'I am better than everyone' vibe than one who is not.

I don't recall saying looks was all I cared about. Matter of fact I think I said looks starts the attraction then personality takes over 60/40 split.

Looks are about as useful as tits on a bull. I like my women physically strong, aggressive, and funny. Besides... everyone gets old and wrinkly... but nobody wants to be around a mean old person.

its always both...!

Personality - especially if she's hot!

I need both...looks alone seem shallow, but personality rules looks.

looks...I can hire actors if I wanted personality

You can hire actors if you want looks, too.

I don't think it's true that looks are the only thing that attract you to a stranger. Attraction is more complicated than that. I'm not Quasimodo or anything, but I'm not a 10, either -- and I get approached by men in public with a frequency I've never stopped finding surprising. I'm not dolled up at the time -- if I'm out shopping or running errands, it's jeans or sweats, and usually no makeup. I'm not a supermodel. I'm not thin. But that doesn't seem to matter. I can only assume that it's something about the way I carry myself. And that's a product more of my personality than my looks.

I've been around guys who -- if I were judging solely by objective looks -- wouldn't garner a second glance but who, for some reason I couldn't quite explain, have absolutely floored me from the start. It's like they walked around in a warm cloud of sexiness that enveloped my senses. A mischievous smile, a certain rumble in the voice, a wicked sense of humor, a sharp mind, a certain charismatic energy -- any or all of these things can be incredibly attractive. And the more I knew them, the more attractive they became.

Conversely, a guy -- even one who is incredibly good-looking -- who comes off as cocky, self-obsessed, or shallow actually physically repulses me. It's like I can smell it on them.

When I say I want personality rather than looks, I'm not lying. But it's not because I discount attractiveness as a necessary component -- it's because personality can be incredibly sexy!

Personality...but luckily I didn't have to choose--husband has both! :drinker:

I was just thinking yesterday about how not only is my husband incredibly kind and also intelligent, but he is also handsome. Both are conducive to a happy life together.

both ....why settle for less....

I am more on personality but there has to be that attraction too. But if someone can make me laugh and smile...