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    • Posts: 119 Member
      Truth be told, the guys that were going to stare without the shirt will probably stare with the shirt anyways.
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      Well, using my own marriage as an example, sometimes it comes down to me thinking, "Is this worth having a fight over?" If he asked me nicely to wear something over my bra, then yeah, I would do it because I love him, and I don't need to start a revolution over whether or not I can go shirtless out of the house. Not that important to me.

      Now if he had a history of being a controlling insecure freak, then my actions and words might be different.

      Wanting to change careers to be a stripper, taking up a recreational drug habit, or buying a GM car are all things to have arguments about. This is not.
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      She said why. It's very hot. I live in Florida. I get it.


      Proof that people don't read the full topic before needing to respond lol
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      Wanting to change careers to be a stripper, taking up a recreational drug habit, or buying a GM car are all things to have arguments about. This is not.

      Definitely agree! I pick my battles. I'd rather win the remote war!
    • Posts: 5,922 Member
      I really, really do not understand what is so scandalous about a sports bra, or exposed midriff for that matter.
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      exactly
    • Posts: 625 Member
      I really, really do not understand what is so scandalous about a sports bra, or exposed midriff for that matter.

      Exactly!

      My bikinis show more skin than my sport bras.... If I can wear a bikini at the beach, in public, I sure as hell can run in a sport bra.
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      Put on a shirt. If my husband felt strongly enough to mention it, it bothers him. I would take his feelings into account. He would do the same for me. It's not about being controlling. It's about taking your spouses sensibilities into account. I'm rather surprised at the vehemence by some people over a simple request.

      ETA: when I ventured into the topic I was expecting a question about bench shirts :smile:
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      Is a sports bra or even a bikini appropriate to wear as you run through your neighborhood? It's more than just the hubby we are talking here. Do you have a Homeowner Association that frowns upon barely clothed ladies or men running through the neighborhood? Do you have a hyper conservative mother in the neighborhood that will cause trouble cause you exposed your body to their young 8 year old boy as you jogged by their house? Just something more to think about. Carry on as you feel comfortable. :-)
    • Posts: 2,833 Member
      I really, really do not understand what is so scandalous about a sports bra, or exposed midriff for that matter.




      I wouldn't say it's scandalous, but it will get you looked at, and some people are okay with that, and others, like me, really don't want to be stared at by strangers. I was out walking once on a local country dirt road in shorts and a tank top and two guys in a panel van slowed waaaay down and stared at me... woods both sides, no houses nearby. I did not like that at all. Never went walking that way again.
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      Wear it girl!! Show off those abs and get a tan while keeping cool!!
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      I wouldn't say it's scandalous, but it will get you looked at, and some people are okay with that, and others, like me, really don't want to be stared at by strangers. I was out walking once on a local country dirt road in shorts and a tank top and two guys in a panel van slowed waaaay down and stared at me... woods both sides, no houses nearby. I did not like that at all. Never went walking that way again.

      Don't get out of your house then. Ever.
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      I wouldn't say it's scandalous, but it will get you looked at, and some people are okay with that, and others, like me, really don't want to be stared at by strangers. I was out walking once on a local country dirt road in shorts and a tank top and two guys in a panel van slowed waaaay down and stared at me... woods both sides, no houses nearby. I did not like that at all. Never went walking that way again.
      That's fair enough, and a matter of personal comfort and confidence. I just don't see why people are so upset about seeing other people dressed as such.
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      I wouldn't say it's scandalous, but it will get you looked at, and some people are okay with that, and others, like me, really don't want to be stared at by strangers. I was out walking once on a local country dirt road in shorts and a tank top and two guys in a panel van slowed waaaay down and stared at me... woods both sides, no houses nearby. I did not like that at all. Never went walking that way again.

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      Put on a shirt. If my husband felt strongly enough to mention it, it bothers him. I would take his feelings into account. He would do the same for me. It's not about being controlling. It's about taking your spouses sensibilities into account. I'm rather surprised at the vehemence by some people over a simple request.

      ETA: when I ventured into the topic I was expecting a question about bench shirts :smile:

      Wow. I was reading this thread despairing for society when I finally came across your post. Nice, polite, and considerate. Thank you.

      When you are in a relationship you're supposed to care what the other thinks. No wonder why the divorce rate is so high. It's not just about you guys. Especially if you're married you're supposed to be a union, a couple. :flowerforyou:

      EDIT: Oh and OP... I grew up in FL. Lived there for 17 years. It is hot yes, but wearing clothing will actually be cooler than having bare skin. It shades your skin. I suggest buying some shirts made from appropriate wicking material. Running around in a sports bra will most likely make you cook more. And the sun damage too...
    • Posts: 625 Member
      Is a sports bra or even a bikini appropriate to wear as you run through your neighborhood? It's more than just the hubby we are talking here. Do you have a Homeowner Association that frowns upon barely clothed ladies or men running through the neighborhood? Do you have a hyper conservative mother in the neighborhood that will cause trouble cause you exposed your body to their young 8 year old boy as you jogged by their house? Just something more to think about. Carry on as you feel comfortable. :-)

      First, I would never move somewhere with a dress code. This is the most ridiculous thing I've read all day.
      Second, the FAT conservative mom (because in my mind she is a sad jealous overweight women) should be happy that her son his seeing people exercising and shouldn't waste her energy on some random women she doesn't know running in a sport bra.

      Don't tell me this is offensive:

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    • Posts: 170 Member
      Sports bra seems perfectly reasonable to me. You should respect your husband's feelings enough to hear him out, but then he should respect your decision.

      Great response. I agree.
    • Posts: 712 Member
      Its summertime! All clothing is optional!
    • Posts: 1,326 Member
      Why do you feel that you need to work out in just a bra?
      So she gets looks from guys (and some gals I suppose).
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      Truth be told, the guys that were going to stare without the shirt will probably stare with the shirt anyways.

      ^^^ truth. i always start out with a tank top on, but around mile 2 it gets torn the eff off because it's sticking to me and I start feeling slimy. I get just as many stares with the shirt vs without it.
    • Posts: 1,326 Member
      ...and lets not forget.........the woman is telling the man what and what not to wear more often than vice versa so what comes around, goes around
    • Posts: 333 Member
      Depends on the sports bra. Some are practically tank tops. Others are practically thin belts.
      Tank top'ish bra- fine
      thin belt'ish bra - not fine
    • Posts: 308 Member
      Is a sports bra or even a bikini appropriate to wear as you run through your neighborhood? It's more than just the hubby we are talking here. Do you have a Homeowner Association that frowns upon barely clothed ladies or men running through the neighborhood? Do you have a hyper conservative mother in the neighborhood that will cause trouble cause you exposed your body to their young 8 year old boy as you jogged by their house? Just something more to think about. Carry on as you feel comfortable. :-)

      This is the most ridiculous thing I've read all day. WTF? Heeding to what nosey neighbors might say or complain about is not a solution to any problem. In fact, it perpetuates the problem. Second - unless a decision made directly impacts their everyday life, you (i.e. people at large) should not give a flying f*** about what others think about the decisions you make -- especially if its regarding something positive you're doing with your life, like exercising on a regular basis.
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      So she gets looks from guys (and some gals I suppose).

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      Insecure guys are insecure for a reason... usually hiding stuff. Same with biblethumpers.

      :huh: Careful there, your prejudice is showing.

      OP, I would be concerned in a sketchy neighbourhood, but I would be ok running in a sports bra provided it was giving me good coverage and my belly weren't as flubby as it is right now. I prefer a tank over and high waisted yoga capris to compress the loose skin so it doesnt hurt, and also to hide it.
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      Don't get out of your house then. Ever.




      Don't be ridiculous. The fact is, I did NOT feel safe, and that lonely stretch of dirt road was not a safe place.
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      Don't be ridiculous. The fact is, I did NOT feel safe, and that lonely stretch of dirt road was not a safe place.

      I was referencing that part:

      ''... really don't want to be stared at by strangers''
    • Posts: 528 Member
      I understand the husbands point of view I don't think it makes him a bad person, I think people are jumping the gun a little. Some people have different ideas what's acceptable in a relationship. I personally wouldn't have a problem with it, but even if I did, I would accept it, make my feelings clear and move on from it.

      I wont lie though, when I go out in a sports bra I do get stares.
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      :huh: Careful there, your prejudice is showing.

      OP, I would be concerned in a sketchy neighbourhood, but I would be ok running in a sports bra provided it was giving me good coverage and my belly weren't as flubby as it is right now. I prefer a tank over and high waisted yoga capris to compress the loose skin so it doesnt hurt, and also to hide it.

      Showing? Heck I'm waving the flag here lol
    • Posts: 16,769 Member
      I say do whatever makes YOU comfortable. But living in Florida, I often find it is more comfortable to be a bit more covered up and not expose as much skin to the sun. In fact something with a short sleeve in a good moisture-wicking fabric can be even better than a tank, since it also keeps more sun off my chest and shoulders.
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