rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

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  • Nouurann
    Nouurann Posts: 183 Member
    When I was 13, this boy told me every guy in the school looks at me with disgust because I was so fat. I cried for days and faked sick for a week. Then later at 16, that same guy asked me on a date because by then I was thin, and pretty and stuff, and I told him that I still remember that, and that I literally hated him for it because words never hurt like that before, and he said "well you turned out hot, that was probably the boost you needed"
  • KameHameHaaaa
    KameHameHaaaa Posts: 837 Member
    I've already contributed to this thread once with the picture of the whale my coworkers drew depicting me =/ But I've had a bad day, and I feel better when I vent on these forums. So I'll throw in some more crap that's happened to me over the years just to get it off my chest.

    1) Age 9, homeschooled, overweight with short hair and meeting public schooled friends after school at the bus stop. A girl leans out the bus window and goes "Hey are you a boy or a girl?" and I go "Uhh a girl" , only 9 and thinking it should be obvious. Her response? "Did you say a hippopotamus???" Bus drives away with all the kids laughing at me

    2) Never picked for anything (dodgeball, three legged race etc) during youth group at church. The church youth leader usually ended up pairing me with one of the kids with disabilities. They were always very nice.

    3) Always cornered in the back hall of my old karate school by classmates who were all male and older than me. Poking my fat and saying things like "At least she has boobs" to which one of their friends would laugh and go "Boobs don't count if you're a fat***"... I was only 11 and only girl in the class

    4) Being an overweight pre-teen then an obese teen, hiding my rolls under guys clothing and usually had a short haircut. Only people (even at church) wouldn't just call me fat now, they started saying things like I was going to hell because I was "obviously a *kitten*"

    5) Having some random stranger sitting at the bar where I used to work say very loudly when I walked by "D***! Look at that huge b**** !!!"

    6) Having all my younger sisters tell me that they just prayed they "wouldn't end up like me when they were older"

    7) Having friends and coworkers I thought I was close to, tell me things like "I really really like you. I just can't do the whole fat girl thing though."

    8) Having my brother, who I've always considered my closest friend, pull a chair out for me "like a gentleman" at a birthday party with a bunch of mutual friends around... only to yell "TIMBER!!" as I sat down. None of our friends laughed or even smiled and I think he knew right away when he saw my face what he did was wrong. I got up right away, ran home crying.

    9) When the girl my ex cheated on me with sent me a text saying "I would've told you to your face what was going on but I was afraid you were going to eat me". Well I got that b**** back by facebooking her husband who was currently deployed, telling him the situation. Days later I got another text from her cursing me out and just saying psycho things because he was threatening to divorce her, she said she was going to kidnap me and throw me into a woodchipper!! All I said was "karma is a b**** , lumberjack" and that was that.

    There have been LOTS of these situations but those stick out the most. Nowadays I just remind myself that if someone is treating me sh**** that there is something wrong with THEM, not me. Normal people don't go around treating people that way.
  • TheLadyBane
    TheLadyBane Posts: 299 Member
    Nowadays I just remind myself that if someone is treating me sh**** that there is something wrong with THEM, not me. Normal people don't go around treating people that way.

    Agreed. I've always been pretty good about not taking unkind words to heart. The flaw is with them, not me.
  • PennyVonDread
    PennyVonDread Posts: 432 Member
    I was wearing a bikini top and shorts when I went to visit family and my mom asked me "Are you really going to walk around with your belly hanging out?"

    Um. My body fat is 20%. I'm a runner. There is nothing "hanging" anywhere. I don't have rock hard abs, but I definitely don't have "hanging" anything and I think I have every right to wear whatever I want out in 90 degree whether as long as my reproductive bits are covered up.

    I'm not sure if it was jealousy or what, but I never forgot just rolling my eyes and walking away.
    I hear you. I run marathons, but even at my very lightest--even if I weighed 105 pounds my family would say that--and not out of jealousy, but because its considered inappropriate to wear to a family gathering. I wouldn't dare dress like that with my grandma and older family members around--i know better than that. They would tell me to dress like a lady or that "a woman is more desirable with something left to the imagination." I don't think it's an insult, just a more conservative way of thinking, esp. If you're around family and older folks. There's a time and a place for everything and appropriate dress for every occasion (now I sound like my mother) :-)

    Nope. Agency over my own body always for one, I don't change for my conservative family members, they can walk right on out of my life if they can't handle clothing. And two, the comment was inappropriate infinitely more than my attire for the occasion was. The comment was very unlike my family, who got over dictating how my sister and I dress after we refused to surrender our gothic preferences, even though it made their "Christian" friends uncomfortable. They've adjusted to bustiers and microminis, so a bikini really isn't an offense. Also, for some reason, it was my body she disapproved of, even though I'm the only family member with a BMI in the healthy range. The icing on the cake- it was a bikini she had freaking bought for me. I just noped right on out of that room.
  • YukiAsuna
    YukiAsuna Posts: 12 Member
    Last year I sat next to a woman on the train on my way to work and she called me a "fat skunk". (No idea why.. I wasn't even sitting close to her and there was a lot of space between us). I cried all the way to work.

    One of my 5 year old students asked if I was having a baby. (Not pregnant). It was hard to explain to them that I was just fat.

    My ex (whom I was with for 7 years.. and I was overweight when we met.. we both were actually) eventually dumped me because friends he met at college teased him that he was into "those" kind of girls. He denied it was the reason but I knew it was one of the reasons. He only dated really fit and incredibly skinny girls after me.
  • kittenkris
    kittenkris Posts: 112
    My brother got home from being away for 2 years when I was 15. My mom said " isn't she cute?". His reply was " yeah, but she needs to loose about 20 pounds. I was about 165 and 5'10". He was 175 and 6'4". Freakishly skinny at the time.....
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    bump - more stories please.
  • LowCarbHighFatNat
    LowCarbHighFatNat Posts: 50 Member
    I got a 7 day pass to LAFitness Monday. Of course you have to sit and talk with a customer service rep for a few minutes. He said "I used to be chubby too....."
  • EmmieBaby
    EmmieBaby Posts: 1,235 Member
    not really words but some construction guys where making pig sounds and oinking when I walked by this morning, made me crave bacon
  • adorable_aly
    adorable_aly Posts: 398 Member
    'How do you stay so skinny when you eat all that ****?!'

    Doesn't sound so bad out of context, but I was having some comfort eating issues at the time because of exam stress and it made me really self-conscious of what I was eating :(
  • Tara_238
    Tara_238 Posts: 70 Member
    I was 7 months pregnant with my first child and my grandmother told me I was getting fat and my then boyfriend was going to leave me. Since then we have been married for 9 years and we have 3 beautiful children. It is sad to think since then I have gained another 40+ pounds. Scared to think what she would say now.
  • Keevy333
    Keevy333 Posts: 32 Member
    When I wasn't focused on a lifestyle change and losing I heard a lot of rude things, mostly being called pregnant and being told i need to learn to "push away from the table" when they found out I wasn't.

    But what shocked me was the comments after I started losing.

    Someone said to me after losing about 30 pounds "Wow, you can tell you're losing weight. Instead of you being one big roll you now have boobs and then a belly!"

    I also had a gift card to Victoria's Secret and I told someone I was saving it for when I lost weight. They said "Why would you do that when you're just gonna gain it all back again?"

    Oh... and about a week ago someone asked how much I had lost so far.... I said nearly 60 pounds. They said "Wow! Awesome. Someone asked me if you were pregnant the other day!"

    Now that I think about it, all the after losing comments were made by the same family. Jealous jerks I think!
  • court_fritch26
    court_fritch26 Posts: 297 Member
    So my 15 year old sister is 5'9" and thin, while I am 5'1" and curvy with a slight chub. This past weekend we went on a trip with our family. While shopping a lady came up to me and said "Oh your friend is so gorgeous." I said, "Oh I know, she is actually my sister." She proceeded to look me up and down, and said "Huh, that's surprising. You really wouldn't think so. Funny." While that sucked, it just echoed something a family friend had said to me, "It's so weird how you and your sister are so closely related when she looks like that, and you look like this."

    There is also the popular "Oh you're not THAT big"…thanks, that wasn't THAY offensive
  • orlandogirl97
    orlandogirl97 Posts: 30 Member
    So my 15 year old sister is 5'9" and thin, while I am 5'1" and curvy with a slight chub. This past weekend we went on a trip with our family. While shopping a lady came up to me and said "Oh your friend is so gorgeous." I said, "Oh I know, she is actually my sister." She proceeded to look me up and down, and said "Huh, that's surprising. You really wouldn't think so. Funny." While that sucked, it just echoed something a family friend had said to me, "It's so weird how you and your sister are so closely related when she looks like that, and you look like this."

    There is also the popular "Oh you're not THAT big"…thanks, that wasn't THAY offensive

    Look how pretty you are! Don't listen to them.
  • KimiSteinbach
    KimiSteinbach Posts: 224 Member
    It really isn't fair for parents to comment on the kid's weight when they supply the crap and don't monitor where and how much each kid eats!

    I don't bring crap into the house now and it's so much easier to resist. My "first line of defense" is to keep it out of the house.
  • Icoza87
    Icoza87 Posts: 111 Member
    This isn't the rudest thing I've ever heard, but ti's the one weighing on me right now.... My mother-in-law to be and I were looking at pictures of wedding dresses and I was showing her the styles I like and she says to be "Yeah, you have ALOT of work to do before you can wear those dresses."
  • luzdelua
    luzdelua Posts: 88 Member
    After losing 25 pounds... A dude I was dating: "Just imagine how sexy you'd look if you lost a bit more weight. I'd actually get jealous of others looking at you."

    I never spoke to him again.
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    After losing 25 pounds... A dude I was dating: "Just imagine how sexy you'd look if you lost a bit more weight. I'd actually get jealous of others looking at you."

    I never spoke to him again.

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  • WildcatDeLalune
    WildcatDeLalune Posts: 74 Member
    Back when I initially lost 85lbs, my neighbor invited me over to "fix her computer." She locked me in the house and insisted on telling me how unhealthy I was, how I was likely abusing drugs to get to thin, how clearly I had something "dark in my soul" and how I needed God to help me, and how she wouldn't let me leave until I ate a piece of cake. And then I'm pretty sure she tried to get me to have sex with her.

    O__O. ... Woah..
  • MamaPochy
    MamaPochy Posts: 8
    Eating dinner and my father said I was fat and I should stop eating. Keep in mind.. I was 10 years old.

    I'm so sorry that this happened. I know how you feel but know you are worth so much more than that.
  • Flyingfree83
    Flyingfree83 Posts: 60 Member
    Who's your friend
  • isamann
    isamann Posts: 16 Member
    'How do you stay so skinny when you eat all that ****?!'

    Doesn't sound so bad out of context, but I was having some comfort eating issues at the time because of exam stress and it made me really self-conscious of what I was eating :(

    Yes, I get that sometimes. People wonder how I stay so skinny and eat a buffet. They think they aren't being rude, but it does make you self conscious. Some people, myself included, have a really difficult time gaining weight
  • 6ftamazon
    6ftamazon Posts: 340 Member
    Last week a guy at the gym told me that if I was 40 pounds thinner, he'd be all over me.
    My ex told me that he would only take me out in public if I lost weight...yeah one of the many reasons he's my ex.
  • "You're big!!" ...8 wks. after I'd given birth.
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  • petrulak
    petrulak Posts: 56 Member
    when is your due date was the rudest; I wasn't pregnant.
  • suzreen
    suzreen Posts: 2,455 Member
    I got asked once when my baby was due (I was not pregnant) and what was even more insulting it was from a woman with a full on beard...

    I've gotten asked this more than once, and it just SUCKS!!!! One time I was out shopping, feeling like I looked pretty good, and had hidden the gut, and then was told how cute I looked pregnant by a saleslady. Talk about your balloon suddenly deflating!
  • suzreen
    suzreen Posts: 2,455 Member
    When I wasn't focused on a lifestyle change and losing I heard a lot of rude things, mostly being called pregnant and being told i need to learn to "push away from the table" when they found out I wasn't.

    But what shocked me was the comments after I started losing.

    Someone said to me after losing about 30 pounds "Wow, you can tell you're losing weight. Instead of you being one big roll you now have boobs and then a belly!"

    I also had a gift card to Victoria's Secret and I told someone I was saving it for when I lost weight. They said "Why would you do that when you're just gonna gain it all back again?"

    Oh... and about a week ago someone asked how much I had lost so far.... I said nearly 60 pounds. They said "Wow! Awesome. Someone asked me if you were pregnant the other day!"

    Now that I think about it, all the after losing comments were made by the same family. Jealous jerks I think!

    I think they are some REAL JERKS!!! Wow, those are some super rude comments!!! Good for you, though, ignore it and keep on keepin on!
  • 6ftamazon
    6ftamazon Posts: 340 Member
    when is your due date was the rudest; I wasn't pregnant.

    I've been asked that. Actually I still get asked that and I've been asked that when I was at a size 8-10. And I actually don't carry my weight in my stomach. I think it's just people's ignorance.
  • MoonOverMyHammies7
    MoonOverMyHammies7 Posts: 585 Member
    You need to push yourself away from the table.

    Your Butt is getting big said by someone who does not have a butt ( I like my Curves thank you)

    Someone very close to me was describing her ex boyfriends new girl friend. " Oh my she is big, like your size"

    I kinda ask for this one but I was talking about what I was doing to loose weight and my professor said well give your self time you have a baby. My response Ya he is 2.
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