MFP without friends

Congrats on getting active. I know that can be the worst part (I'm struggling with it too). I am finding that I let other things get in the way, so I just push off taking care of myself. For example, there are so many times I'd rather just crawl into bed for a nap or slam back four beers rather than work out.

I'm working on getting better at these things.

L.

Good job on getting back to trying to get healthy. Its a one day at a time kind of thing. I just started incorporating walking 2-3 miles every other day. I would love to get back to running but I am not sure my back and knee would appreciate it.

The social aspect is the main reason I'm on here all the time, the healthy stuff is simply a result of it. Congrats on your decision to break out of the mold.

Congrats on getting active. I know that can be the worst part (I'm struggling with it too). I am finding that I let other things get in the way, so I just push off taking care of myself. For example, there are so many times I'd rather just crawl into bed for a nap or slam back four beers rather than work out.

I'm working on getting better at these things.

L.

haha! Sounds like me!

The social side is a slippery slope. Some people end up ONLY socializing and not actually dieting or working out.

MFP... a place where you can be totally narcissistic and justify it in the name of weight loss and fitness.

yet...


something about that keeps me rather motivated.

coming from another diet plan that had an almost useless community i definitely see better results with people watching and a place to ramble on and on about the stuff my already thin friends dont care about and my overweight friends dont want to hear because it makes them feel uncomfortable.

if i dont talk about it... i lose my motivation.

i love to use the words i and me on this site. moreso than any other. i i i i i. its all about meeeeee.

The social side is a slippery slope. Some people end up ONLY socializing and not actually dieting or working out.

WHO would do this?? People are SICK. Sick, I say.

The social side is a slippery slope. Some people end up ONLY socializing and not actually dieting or working out.

this place helped me socialize while I exercise. I love assisted body weight calisthenics and "zumba"!!

Sounds like you and I have very similar goals. FR sent. I'm not extremely active on the forums though.

First, great job on getting on track to a healthier life! It's alwasy easier if you have friends to support and enmcourage you, not to mention hold you accountable.

For me, dropping the weight just took committment and a desire not to feel like crap anymore. I had gotten to the point where I was considered obese, and even though I was still fairly active, I felt like crap constantly. My health started to suffer as did my attitude and happiness.

So in order to try to get healthier, I started watching what I ate MUCH more closely. I was SHOCKED at how much I was actually eating. I had fooled myself into thinking that I wasn't eating all that much, just a bite or two of this and that, but boy did it add up!

Once I started eating single servings of things, that were and actual serving size, not just eyeballed, I started losing weight. I got a digital scale and some measuring tools, and carefully portioned out everything I ate. Once I started doing that the weight really started coming off and I felt better quickly, which made me feel better about myself, which made me want to be more active. Vicious cycle huh? lol

I still eat the foods I love, I just eat alot less of them, and I try to make the foods I cook healthier by cutting fat, sodium, carbs,and calories wherever possible. It isn't about denying yourself everything, it's about actually living a life you can be happy with.

Now I've dropped 65+ pounds on my way to a "normal" weight for my height. I'm no longer considered obese and am closing in on a normal BMI. I'd like to be there by Christmas, but I know it takes time to take it off just like it took time to put it on. But I'm going to get there.

I have noticed MUCH more definition of the muscles in my arms and legs, as well as a significant change in my overall body shape... which definitly does NOT suck. I don't want to look like a body builder either, but definition is nice.

I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

Hi there, aedreana here. I don't send friend requests but I accept friend requests sent my way. You are welcome to read my profile and if you decide you'd want me as a friend, please feel free to send a friend request to me. P.S. My profile contains valuable information as to what kind of stuff to be on guard against on the forums. There is a clique on here that thinks that they own the forums.

Profile states that she is "the voice of reason."

FR sent!!!!!!!

that is a gross understatement... she is "the unofficial, self-appointed voice of reason"

I read the word "clique" at least 5 times in her profile and it was mentioned again in this post...

I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

You do realize this is a fitness site right? That means people other than those who are looking to lose weight are more than welcome here. Have you considered counseling? (genuinely asking because there seems to be some issues and maybe a therapist might be better suited than on this guy's thread).

I don't think it's sad that you don't have friends on here. I think it's awesome. As soon as you add some "friends," you'll find out that they post about their lives all of the time. Like ALL of the time. So many details. I came here for some encouragement and to encourage others in return, not learn every little detail about their life (isn't that what twitter and/or facebook is for? I ask b/c I don't have accounts). Seriously, I don't intend offense when I say that. But we know each other in imaginary land (the internet) and I doubt I'll ever meet one of my "friends" in real life or write them a sincere letter or have a phone conversation or go anywhere beyond sarcastic remarks about sex spreadsheets or food porn or whatever, and that doesn't really qualify as a satisfying relationship to me.

So get those friends, if you want. Don't be surprised if you start removing some of them after 3-6 months because you aren't the kind of person who is on here to be uber-social. If you are, then fill out that profile, load some humorous pictures of yourself, begin posting snarky comments on the forums and make some "friends." Works for some, not for me.

Mini-rant: why do people who are already cut and muscular and hot go on this site and flirt and post themselves shirtless or in a bikini? You've already WON! Go to facebook and do the online flirting / dating thing that I hear everyone else does there, not here. I thought this site was for fatties like me who want encouragement to get healthier, not to be social or flaunt my abs.

This thread has it all now.

Wow.