Fat Shaming

solaceowl
solaceowl Posts: 53 Member
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How do you feel about fat shaming? And would you defend someone who being bullied for being fat?
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  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,240 Member
    I think it's an a*hole thing to do, and yes I would.
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    How do you feel about fat shaming? And would you defend someone who being bullied for being fat?

    I am ashamed that I'm fat.

    ETA - I've defended others for less.
  • whovian67
    whovian67 Posts: 608 Member
    I think it's horrible. I have met many parents that do this to their kids even and it really F's them up.. I would defend someone being bullied by anyone....
  • BlondeButtercup127
    BlondeButtercup127 Posts: 750 Member
    I think it's an a*hole thing to do, and yes I would.

    This.
  • ksolksol
    ksolksol Posts: 194 Member
    All of us -- fat, thin, in between -- deserve to live in our bodies without harassment. Period.
  • Supertact
    Supertact Posts: 466 Member
    I fat shame.

    I'm allowed.
  • Mygsds
    Mygsds Posts: 1,564 Member
    Without question, yes
  • Beckboo0912
    Beckboo0912 Posts: 447 Member
    Fat shaming is horrid, any kind of shaming is. When it became ok to talk to/about someone like that, well, I'm not sure. I would defend anyone who was being demeaned in that way.
  • 6ftamazon
    6ftamazon Posts: 340 Member
    All of us -- fat, thin, in between -- deserve to live in our bodies without harassment. Period.

    This x10000
    Just because someone is fat (or thin or short or tall or whatever else) doesn't mean they don't deserve kindness and respect. We are all humans with feelings.
  • fitfreakymom
    fitfreakymom Posts: 1,400 Member
    Yes
  • RonnieLodge
    RonnieLodge Posts: 665 Member
    How do you feel about fat shaming? And would you defend someone who being bullied for being fat?

    Ugh, I hate that term.

    Bullying is bullying and in my definition bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively impose domination over others.

    But the doctor telling you you are fat is not bullying. The vast majority of them do not want to have to repeatedly tell people that.

    People staring at an overweight or obese person out in public is not bullying - depending on where you are, a woman wearing a burqua or a man covered in tattoos, with bright pink hair and numerous facial piercings will get stared at by others.

    People expressing concern that their equipment is not designed to deal with obese individuals (i.e. a dentist concerned their chair may break, a dr not being concerned about needing numerous people & specialized equipment to move one patient) is not bullying.

    But yes, I have been known to step in when people are being bullied.

    But even that term gets overused these days too. It seems to some individuals, every time you mention something they don't want to hear they will claim they are being bullied.
  • iKapuniai
    iKapuniai Posts: 594 Member
    I would seriously kick some major @$$, without hesitation.

    My little sister was fat shamed all throughout elementary and most of high school before she dropped out because she was so ashamed of herself. She was over 300lbs and is now at 140lbs, but now she struggles with borderline anorexia. She cannot force herself to eat any more than about 600 calories a day and she is still very ashamed of her body that is now covered in loose skin, though she is very beautiful. She is afraid of food and cries when she feels she's eaten too much, even when she's barely eaten.

    Fat shaming is extremely hurtful. It's not just words, it can have such an extreme affect/impact on a persons life, and it shouldn't be taken lightly. I'm so thankful that my husband is extremely in shape and athletic, and now so is my son, so I don't ever have to worry about him growing up to be like me, or my sister.
  • 6ftamazon
    6ftamazon Posts: 340 Member
    How do you feel about fat shaming? And would you defend someone who being bullied for being fat?

    Ugh, I hate that term.

    Bullying is bullying and in my definition bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively impose domination over others.

    But the doctor telling you you are fat is not bullying. The vast majority of them do not want to have to repeatedly tell people that.

    People staring at an overweight or obese person out in public is not bullying - depending on where you are, a woman wearing a burqua or a man covered in tattoos, with bright pink hair and numerous facial piercings will get stared at by others.

    People expressing concern that their equipment is not designed to deal with obese individuals (i.e. a dentist concerned their chair may break, a dr not being concerned about needing numerous people & specialized equipment to move one patient) is not bullying.

    But yes, I have been known to step in when people are being bullied.

    But even that term gets overused these days too. It seems to some individuals, every time you mention something they don't want to hear they will claim they are being bullied.

    I don't consider any of that fat shaming.

    To me, fat shaming is focusing on a persons fat, rather than who they are and insulting them because of it. This is fat shaming:

    http://www.returnofkings.com/19498/fat-shaming-week-was-a-corpulent-success
  • Branstin
    Branstin Posts: 2,320 Member
    Fat shaming is done my *kitten* wipes and it states more about them than the fat person. Even though I feel people have it within themselves to lose weight, there are many reasons people become fat. Yes, I would tell an *kitten* wipe to go screw-off someplace.
  • cwoyto123
    cwoyto123 Posts: 308
    Well I don't think it's right to make fun of someone for being fat, but you should not comfort them nor pity them for being fat - which is of course a self inflicted, very preventable condition.
  • Kevalicious99
    Kevalicious99 Posts: 1,131 Member
    I used to be fat .. and hated it. I would never wish anyone to be fat if they did not want to be .. our society is just too mean and being fat is not a pretty thing in this world.
  • xLexa
    xLexa Posts: 482 Member
    It is all about respect, Respect for each other as human beings regardless of age, race, size, belief etc etc, No-one should be shamed. We should try to encourage positivity and support, and yes sometimes a little bit of tough love. Which you can still do respectfully!
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    All of us -- fat, thin, in between -- deserve to live in our bodies without harassment. Period.
    Agreed.
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    How do you feel about fat shaming? And would you defend someone who being bullied for being fat?

    What do you mean by bullied? If refusing to put the arm rest up on an airplane so the fat person beside you can overflow into your seat, then yes! I'm a bully.
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    I've been through fat shaming, skinny shaming and fit/muscle shaming. Everyone gets it. I actually get it MORE now that I'm in shape.
  • psych101
    psych101 Posts: 1,842 Member
    I've been through fat shaming, skinny shaming and fit/muscle shaming. Everyone gets it. I actually get it MORE now that I'm in shape.


    :flowerforyou: and :heart:


    Bullying is never ok.
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    How do you feel about fat shaming? And would you defend someone who being bullied for being fat?

    What do you mean by bullied? If refusing to put the arm rest up on an airplane so the fat person beside you can overflow into your seat, then yes! I'm a bully.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kupi4ST707U
  • mom2_4gr8kids
    mom2_4gr8kids Posts: 74
    In a second. I would defend anyone getting bullied for anything. There's just no reason for it.
  • michikade
    michikade Posts: 313 Member
    It's terribly wrong and I would defend someone 100%.

    I've seen what it can do to people, even when they aren't overweight.

    Case in point: a close friend of mine growing up was around 125 at 5'3" and her MOTHER told her she needed to lose weight because she thought that my friend's size 6 clothes were "far too large." My friend acted like it wasn't a big deal, but when she decided she wanted to work out to gain some muscle definition, she started counting calories, obsessing about them and ended up trying to have a net of 0 every day. Luckily, my friend realized what was going on before it became a full blown ED.

    Everyone deserves to be respected. If someone you love needs a "come to Jesus" talk about an issue they're having, there are much, MUCH better ways to handle it than by shaming them.
  • RonnieLodge
    RonnieLodge Posts: 665 Member

    I don't consider any of that fat shaming.

    To me, fat shaming is focusing on a persons fat, rather than who they are and insulting them because of it.

    So basically, if they weren't fat, the focus would be one having big ears/ a big nose/ big boobs or something?

    Why does it need to be called anything but bullying?
  • Left4Good
    Left4Good Posts: 304
    I think its wrong for anyone to be bullied for any reason. Fat, skinny, black, white, gay, straight, christian, atheist, american, russian, etc. If anyone is bullied for any reason its wrong and i stand up for them. I have been bullied all my life, i know how it feels and it makes you feel like **** and leaves you scarred for life. No one should be bullied at all. Period end of story.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    i think quite a bit of what's being called fat shaming isnt actually fat shaming so much as people being reminded that they are some logistical consequences to them being larger. the airplane seat is a good example. i mean seriously, if you need 2 seats then you pay for 2 seats.

    as for defending someone for being bullied, then yeah. i have done so in the past and more than likely would so so again

    How do you feel about fat shaming? And would you defend someone who being bullied for being fat?

    What do you mean by bullied? If refusing to put the arm rest up on an airplane so the fat person beside you can overflow into your seat, then yes! I'm a bully.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kupi4ST707U

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  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    i fail to see the point of creating the OP. what, was she expecting a bunch of people on the other side of the equation standing up loud and proud in defense of fat shaming?



    other topics the OP might consider posting the next time she's bored:

    "Do you think we should bring back slavery in the United States?" [ ] Yes [ ] No

    "Are you a fan of the cold blooded murdering of complete strangers [ ] Yes [ ] No [ ] You mean if I can get away with it?

    "Puppies: Do you think people should eat them?" [ ] Yes [ ] No [ ] With enough hot sauce
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  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    Honestly, I think this topic is a bit of a dead horse

    at least it's not another ":sad: my boobs are too big and smack me in the face when i run i can't find a bra anywhere" thread.

    i give the OP an a for basically adding in the would you become captain save-a-fatty

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