WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2014

Mimi - I think you need a bit of the motto from The Happiness Project. Barbie and I both find it very helpful. I have made it my goal and motto for the year. It has changed my life more than anything.

DON'T LET THE PERFECT BE THE ENEMY OF THE GOOD.

The saying comes from Voltaire who got it from someone else.

Life doesn't have to be black or white. Most of us just muddle along doing the best we can. One meal, one mouthful, one day is not going to make any difference in the long run. It is the general direction that counts, over the long term.
Yesterdsy I went way over my calories for lunch. I then ate too much cheese for my snack. A few years ago that would have destryed me and I would have spent the rest of the day pigging out. Yesterday I managed to come in 1 calorie under. Even if I hadn't it wouldn't have been the end of the world.
Too high an expectation of yourself leads to shame and self reproach and then to giving up. Self compassion and laughing at oneself leads to resilience and giving it another go. No one is perfect and there is nothing wrong with enjoying yourself at a party. Especially if you kept the overall calories down. I would count that as a huge NSV! Congratulations!
You are doing so well and it is so great to have a forum like this where you can put it out there. Yesterday I only managed becsuse I confessed on here in time and that helped me pull myself together. We need each other.
My very best wishes to you. Be kind to yourself.

Lots of love Heather UK

I lurked a bit but don't think I checked in today. Lots of action around here. Glad to read that most are following their path, or finding their way back.

Took Aaron out to a trail I haven't been to in a while to bike earlier today. Forgot how much I love it. Have to go back this weekend without him so I can enjoy, and ride much longer than we did today, it without the whining and complaining.

I did a sneak weigh in this morning and it looks like I'm going to hit my goal for Monday (keeping fingers crossed).

To the newer posters who are finding that all the effort in the world is not resulting in weight loss, it's the story of my past 4+ years. I am only losing VERY SLOWLY right now because I'm sticking around 1,200 calories (which I've done before without success) and following a plan of high protein and low carbs that is majorly "real" food (the Pure Protein bar has been my friend a little more than it should have over the past 6 weeks). There are days that that I eat 1,400-1,500 but it's usually when I burned a lot of exercise calories that day. Sadly, there are still plenty of times that I feel "unsatisfied" but the truth of the matter is that we have to choose between change and sacrifice to lose weight and eating what we feel like deserve and not....at least some of us anyhow.

Zumba again tomorrow morning and I think I'll hit the pool for a bit after. Have a couple of orders to get out and am feeling the school shopping and the need to get all the rest of the summer stuff in before it's too late pressure squeeze in on me.

Wishing everyone a great night.

xo- Gloria in Metro Detroit

Did 50 minutes of the Biggest Loser Power Sculpt DVD today. Tomorrow I'm planning to do Gilad's Step and Tone DVD.

Anne - one of the things that impressed me when we went to Switzerland was how they have an area specifically for bikes right at the train station. They discourage the use of automobiles, if we took the car to the food store you had to pay to get into the parking lot. The downside is if you buy a lot, it's hard to haul it all home. But then again, they didn't have a freezer so you really couldn't buy a whole lot. When my kids were little, I'd let them eat at fast food chains, but it was maybe once/month if that much.

Renny - so glad about your mom, but I'm sure if she'd passed away you would have let us know. Even better that she's now in better spirits. I'm sure it's so hard being so far away. I don't see anything at all wrong with turkey and mango. That reminds me that I have some mango in my freezer, but I want to finish up the fresh fruit first, that'll go bad long before the frozen fruit will

Like I mentioned before, I haven't bought any ice cream FOR ME this entire summer. The frozen grapes are sufficing. They're better for me, anyway.

Cindy781 - which movie did you see? Go to the less expensive matinees, huh? We have a theater here that just raised their prices to $3. You can bet that's where we go lots. What do you mean you don't take good photos? Awesome tummy pics!

Sylvia - remember when your way of knowing when to go home for dinner was when the street lights came on it was time for dinner?

Pam - You go girl! I agree with katla, maybe swimming?

katla - to me, anything sweetened with aspartame had such an awful aftertaste that I'd avoid it. Right now, I avoid as much as possible any artificial sweetener. Unfortunately, many things sweetened with sucralose also have that potassium sulfame (I think that's how it's spelled) in it which was rated very low. But you can find some items with just the sucralose in it.

Christina - I did the Power Sculpt DVD today, too!!! Which parts do you do?

lbtewksbury - I know where Okeechobee is! We have a condo in Titusville

Exercised, then took Vince for his colonoscopy. Did some crocheting while I was waiting for him. He really wanted something to eat (that I can fully understand) so we went to Subway. He wanted to go to Five Guys but even the nurse said that he should introduce food back into his system slowly, that Five Guys probably isn't the best choice right now. Came home and went in the pool for a bit, then did a little food shopping so I'd have the things for dinner tomorrow. Made an apple struesel cake for tomorrow and have the chicken thighs marinating in the refrig. Tomorrow I'll exercise and then probably clean the house (just vacuum and a few other little things), make the fruit compote. Oh, and vacuum the spa.

Michele in NC

I had so much fun tonight. Went to my friend's house for painting night. We did abstracts tonight, and it was really fun.

Michele, we lived out in the country. No street lights. We sort of watched the sky to see where the sun was. It worked pretty well. When it was at a certain point we knew it was time to go home. My dad and grandpa could be out in the field working and always made it home for lunch on time, and never had a watch. They could tell time by the sun. Of course, when they started having daylight savings time, all bets were off.

Anne, it's amazing how much more bicycles are used in Europe. We went to Sweden a few years ago and at the train station we were stunned at the number of bicycles parked there. Not many cars, but a million bicycles.

Hubby and I were cleaning out the cabinets in the laundry room Saturday, and he found a whole pile of shoulder pads that I had removed from my blouses years ago. (That cabinet has not been sorted in about 17 years, during the shoulder pad and big hair era.) Must have been 15 pairs. Hubby was very confused. He thought they were used to stuff in bras. Made me laugh.

Good night ladies!

Sylvia

Sylvia

Where are the pics of your paintings? I do some sculpture. I am trying to post some, but the system rejects most of them.

Anne

Oops yes a typo, was 10,020 steps Wednesday and 10,402 steps Thursday. I am aiming for 10,000 steps a day at the moment.
Today I am walking the doggy after lunch of Marions Kitchen Thai green prawn curry. Plus I have cleaned house and seasoled the garden.Hyacinths, daffodils starting to bloom. Bluebells and iris coming up to.
Rang Aurora electric as my meter has plopped over to 10281 and will not accept on-line to check usage. The man was VER helpful and worked it out to $630 to date. Just 2 weeks left and calculated to about $708 and I have already paid $400 by BPay. Not too bad. He also told me cost of electric gone DOWN since 01 July but he calculated on highest rate. He said should be OK next time I check thank goodness.
Lesley in Tasmania

Hi guys, didn't post yesterday. I think it was a first!!!

Cindy, what is the secret to you tummy???? We all want to know.

Christna, someitimnes we take the compliments our husbands give us, as small as they may be. To us they are BIG/

I to had the run of the neighborhood when I was young. Being the preachers kid, everyone knew me and i felt safe. My daughter now lives on a small dead end street and he youngest gets up in the morning, gets herself breakfast and goes outside. They play all day long and she often comes home at supper time. She is often invited into other homes for lunch. They know she keeps a lot of the kids company during the day and kind of runs her own preschool!!! She is 7. But they congregate infront of her house and do a lot of things. They wouldn't have been able to do that in their trailer. I am so grateful that the bank forevlosed on them. God knows what He is doing!!!!

I am babysitting my laptop while I am in my office. I am noticing more and more ads being blocked by my adblock. So I am running a complete scan tonight and I think it is going to take several hours. Well I am getting a lot of steps in going from my office to the living room and back. I just hope it helps. Hopefully by Christmas I will have a new laptop, maybe an apple!!!

I had a senior moment today. My sister is having an injection into her sacro-iliac joint and asked me to take her. I have to stay there during the procedure and drive her home. Well I thought it was today. I drove over there, got there early because I want her to play the piano and help me practice for my trio at church coming up. No answer. A long time ago she had given me the keys to her house so I reluctantly used them. I looked the whole house, she was not there and so called her husband at work. He says the appointment is tomorrow. As I am getting ready to leave she drives up and is quite scared that some one is n her house. She didn't recognize my car! So I go back tomorrow again. But i did get to practice on her piano. I have a piano keyboard on my mini iPad but it's not very big so I can't get all three parts of the trio.

Time to run into the living room again!

Joyce,Indiana

Happy Friday Everyone!:flowerforyou:

This has been a long week! Glad to be back at work!

Our mini-vacations resulted in two melt downs with various children – so far 3 of 6 are not speaking to us “ever again”!:explode: We decided that was alright - we had more than enough of them and their craziness.:mad: I figure we’ll have a vacation from those 3 for a few months – then they will be back!:noway:

Last Tuesday on my morning walk with Storm, I saw one of my neighbors daughter walking their dog about a block away. She was headed to her driveway when her dog (about 50 pounds) decided that he wanted to attack Storm (100 pounds) and pulled out of his collar. Unfortunately, the dog was running downhill and my leg stopped his run and then a dog fight ensued. I came away with a terribly bruised leg from knee to ankle and torn soft tissue in my foot.:sad: I was home for the rest of the week. Storm had a very small bite. The other dog didn’t make out quite as well. Anyway, since me nor Storm needed to go to the hospital or vet, and the daughter was so young I had a nice talk with her mother and called it a day. The SO, who heard the dog fight down the block and came in the car to pick-up me and Storm was the most upset. Monday night the neighbor came over just to make sure I was alright. Her stopping by made me feel better. The SO said she just came to see if I was going to sue her.:huh: I really didn’t feel a need to sue her cause stuff will happen. I did make sure that I stressed to her the need to have control of your dog and that perhaps her daughter wasn’t the best person to walk the dog.

I’m spending my weekend cleaning the house. There is a watermelon festival on Sunday I want to attend if it’s not raining.
Have a great weekend everyone!:happy:

Tere in Richmond VA

Sadly, there are still plenty of times that I feel "unsatisfied" but the truth of the matter is that we have to choose between change and sacrifice to lose weight and eating what we feel like deserve and not....at least some of us anyhow.



xo- Gloria in Metro Detroit
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Yes, I often feel "unsatisfied" with 1200 calories, but I keep trying to remind myself that the sacrifices will be worth the accomplished goal. It may take longer than I had hoped, but when I remember my choice is either just forget it and gain more weight and be less fit OR stay the course and reap the reward. I also keep remembering a mantra I heard years ago (from Weight Watchers, I think), "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels." I may not end up "skinny", but if I'm trim and fit, that will be great!

Christina

Glad there is a board here for those 50+. I think there is definitely a difference between dieting at 30 and at 50+. I'm from New Jersey, USA. (No, I don't know any of the NJ Housewives, though I used to live close to that area - LOL!) I'm 54, and now starting out the biggest weight loss challenge of my life. I'm not sad or depressed or anything like that. I learned years ago to separate my emotional well being from my physical ups and downs. But this is def a challenge. I am not as concerned with losing it as much as maintaining it after. (After eons of yo-yo dieting) However, I also know to start out one step at a time, breaking it all down into smaller, more manageable parcels. So, I am happy to be joining this group. Hope I can contribute. Cheers!

Good afternoon!

I received a phone call this morning from one of my closest friends with distressing news. I am upset and helpless so please send good vibes our way!

I have been stalled in the weight loss department since February. I've been doing research on TDEE and discovered that, according to at least one site, that I probably reached my ideal weight at that point due to my estimated body fat percentage. Although the scale didn't show the number I was looking for, I was actually not displeased with my size other than firming up some jiggly parts. Since then, I've gained 7-10 lbs (depending on the day) and, according to every TDEE and BMR chart I can find, I am eating less than my BMR every day. Everything I read indicates that this may have caused my hormones and metabolism to be out of whack, therefore causing the weight loss to stall. It scares the bejeezus out of me to think about eating my TDEE (or even 15% below TDEE) because it is so much higher than what I'm eating now. I'm not sure if it is a just bunch of nonsense or if the idea of eating at the calorie goal of the TDEE of the weight I want to be makes sense. I had planned to maintain for about six months instead of losing to let my body "reset", but ended up not (at least, not on purpose :bigsmile: ). I'm thinking I made a mistake by not increasing my calories to maintenance level for a while and am wondering if I should do so now. And, for those of you doing successful maintenance, do you eat back all of your exercise calories? Do any of you use TDEE in your calorie planning? I know that we usually provide lots of support to each other for all kinds of things instead of "dieting" advice, but this is one of those things I'd really like your input on. This is the first time I've been this frustrated in over a year on this journey! Even though I've had some misses over the past few months, for probably at least 90% of the time, I've been on target. I'm so confused!!

I'm off to get a few things done before grabbing a quick lunch, visiting with my therapist (the timing of that appointment was serendipitous!), and going to see potential new homes. The phone call has shaken me so that I'm not quite as excited about the house hunting as I was just because I'm upset.

Have a great remainder of the day!

Carol in NC

Wow you miss a day and look how the pages add up! Holy cats! Well it’s Friday and not only that, it’s the last Friday of my official summer vacation. Sob sob sob. Actually next week is shut down week but I plan to go in three days. Since no one will be there I can get a lot of work done for once. I am, as usual, way behind where I wanted to be at the end of summer, but without distractions, I can get caught up.

I too have had a bad start to August. I have not been exercising and have been eating off plan. I’m getting as lazy as the cats. Hopefully a structured week will help put some structure back in my life! There have been lots of crazy eating nights and god-knows what else going on around here. I just totally lack motivation.

Lesley so sorry the visit did not go well, but you and hubby did a good thing by asking her to leave. Now you’ll get back on track

Michele: love the magnet! Your pictures are grand. Do you hire out???

Kim: wow what a menu! Sounds wonderful

Patty: I agree…activity brings more activity and energy. Maybe that’s what’s wrong with me….no activity leads to no motivation~

Sylvia: it is so wrong to manipulate children the way the ex is doing. I hope that gets resolved soon

Rita; wow thanks for giving us so much to thing about!

Carol: good job on the personal best stepping!

Jane; I might have missed it; what’s the latest on your house search

Katla: a free day! I’d waste it wondering what to do! LOL

Vicki: thank you for sharing! I’m glad it all worked out for you. I just worry because intellectually she is 14 and will not improve over that; she has reached her potential and really believes this child will meet all her needs Sad

Tere: welcome back!

Hubby is wearing the fitbit I got him for his birthday…he’s getting about 2000 steps a day, so just like me, he’ll make a goal of adding 500 steps and work on that for a week, then Hopefully go up again.

Sorry this is so hit and miss. Many interruptions. I have enjoyed the posts about food and gmo's. Need to get the grocery shopping done. Welcome to all the new ladies. Take care all, Meg from cloudy Omaha

Happy Friday beautiful ladies.:happy: I am working my 8 hour shift and then I am off the weekend. Have a going away BBQ tomorrow afternoon for DGS that is leaving for college next week. Going to take 2 DGDs and both GGS with us. DEXDIL will not invite my son so I will take the girls. I will be glad when DGS is at college then him and DS can hopefully work out a relentionship. I have learned to keep my mouth shut or she will not let us see him either. :mad: My doctors appointment yesterday went well. He did add another pill for my moods and told me the one I was taking does make you want to eat. I said it would of been nice if I's known that. Anyway he added this new one to go with it. So will see if that helps and levels my moods out. He was very happy with my blood work and my weight. He told me the weight I lost is great and I may not lose much more. I thought WHAT????. Also told me my body is getting used to the exercise so it will be slow going. I know it is slow going but I want it to go down not up. Alway I don't go back to him for 6 months.

Diane--I download my pictures to Walgreens. Then I can order prints, but they are saved to that site under my name and only can be acessed by my password.

Jane--Keeping you in our prayers for a house that is just right for you. I just don't understand some people, They must not want to rent the place very bad if not calling you back. My DBIL that has been staying with us is house hunting so DSIL can move up here. So do you have a date that you have to be moved out by?

Sylvia--I understand about DH and the grandchildren. My DH is good with the little ones and they know he will spoil them.:smooched:

Renny--Glad things worked out so you could be with DD and the new baby. Glad to hear your mom is stable.

Got myself a new pair of Nebraska Husker ear rings today in the gift shop. I enjoy wearing them on game days. Also got acouple Husker and hunting things for DGS dorm room for the party tomorrow. Got a watermelon last evening at Sam's and DH thinks he wants to crave it speical so will see how that goes. I am going to make some devil eggs to take also.

Tere--So glad you were not hurt bad.

Carol--Prayers to you and your friend. Hope it all works out for the best.

Patti--you can do this. One day at a time-One step at a time. Remember you are not in this alone.

Well it is trying to rain out and I am walking home from work in about 40 minutes. I like walking in the rain if not real hard. Hope you have a good day and a better tomorrow.
Blessings, Vicki GI NE

Good afternoon beautiful ladies:flowerforyou:

I've been reading all the posts, just have had zero time to comment:grumble: !

Carol I'm so glad you made that call!!!! Sending good thoughts to you and your friend!!! I've been up and down 3 to 4 pounds for over a year now, it's so annoying:explode: !!!! I just use the calories MFP gives me, sometimes I would eat some of the exercise cals back and sometimes not. For the past few months I've not been logging my food, just eating mindfully (most of the time), and my weight is still the same, I'm just thankful I'm not gaining. My Dr. told me to keep on doing what I'm doing. I hope you find someone here who does the TDEE, and can answer your question! Stay dry this weekend, looks like we're in for some major rain fall:frown: .

Cindy You look marvelous!!!! My tummy is totally jealous:blushing: , it sure wishes it looked like yours!

Katla Sending good wishes to DH on surgery:flowerforyou: !!! Hope the timing of that and new baby on the way works out! Are you driving to be with DD or flying? Hope you have an enjoyable lunch with DSIL!!!

Michele Awesome pics!!!! Look at all that river rock:noway: ! You and Vince have done a fantastic job!!

Barbie How many performances do you usually do in a year? I know you have one at a fair, and put on a show at the assisted living home. Are you enjoying your time without Jake?

Meg I really feel like I've not had summer vacation !!! it seems like yesterday we were all complaining ( or a least I was:embarassed: ) about the cold weather. I can't believe it's August already:noway: . I am ready however to have my routine back to normal!

Mimi I love that you're still signing with SVQ .

Jane Martin Keeping everything crossed you find just the perfect place:flowerforyou: !

Rita Hope the Dr. appt. goes well, and hope you're feeling much better soon:flowerforyou: !

Tere So good to see you again!!! Glad you didn't get hurt any more than you did:flowerforyou: !!!

Welcome to everyone new:flowerforyou: !!! This is a wonderful thread filled with wonderful supportive women!!! Come in often and chat away!!!

Painters are finishing up in the house today:bigsmile: . That means next week I will have my house back....they will still be here but outside!!! Then the next week I'm having a crew come in to wash the windows inside and out and clean my chandeliers :bigsmile: . Then I should be totally finished!!! I've been doing this reno since March:noway: ....it will be so nice to have everything completely done!!!!

Have a wonderful day ladies!!! Drink your water:drinker: :drinker: :drinker: !!!

Hugs,
DeeDee in soggy NC

Im Baaaaaaack!!!
The laptop is working, will see for how long, and if it stays working....
hope you all have been ok, I will apologize in advance because I didnt go back and read everything.. but will start from here..
I have missed you all so very much..
all is pretty well here, except my heel is starting to give me issues again.. might end up parking my butt on the recumbent bike for cardio, I have been doing well with eating and exercising for the last few days. but the scale isnt moving,,, it will eventually I know..
I know some of you saw the new profile picture...
this is one of me and one of our local meteorologists.. really nice guy.. I posted it to facebook. and got so many complements ,I was:blushing:
I have been feeling very plump, and really other than my fat belly roll, I am in better shape.. wish I could just chop it off...
DH is leaving for Watkins Glen early tomorrow morning and I am on my own for the weekend.. I have to work tomorrow until noon, then come home take care of the dogs, go visit DFIL and then for a walk on a trail..
then I am taking myself to Whole Foods and walk around and check stuff out..
dont know if I had told you that DFIL ended up in the hospital overnight with a UTI , he was threatening and cursing at th staff down there.. much better and back at the convelecent home on antibiotics...
will check in before work tomorrow .. hope I didnt miss anything good:bigsmile: