invisible to Visible. How's the attention you're getting?

Actually, in my case, I feel I have gone from visible to invisible. As a 419 pound fat man, people visibly reacted with disgust whenever I walked into a room.

Now I've lost weight, I am passed over as a "normal" person. I am invisible, in the background. Nobody reacts to me at all.

IT'S GREAT!

FTW

I totally agree with FTW.

I've gone from visible to invisible, I used to get abuse from kids in the street and people would look down at me when I was 321lb - nowadays I walk in the room and I don't even get a raised eyebrow, kids no longer shout abuse at me when I walk down the road, the only attention I get is the odd vehicle horn when walking, usually I'm wearing leggings and a Tshirt, listening to my headphones so I hardly notice it - but I do sometimes wave out to the driver lol

It's great, I love being "normal" I love being largely ignored, I love not getting noticed and yes I do get better service than I did when I was 321lb.... Also when I order food, I no longer get disgusted looks, which is great, I no longer have to feel guilty for eating in public..... IT'S FANTASTIC

xXx

I agree with most all of the above but when it comes to ordering food, I now feel the opposite kind of judgment sometimes. The other night I took my mom out to a chain steakhouse and could feel the server totally mental eye-rolling me when I ordered double broccoli as my side item(s) for example. I live in an area where obesity and mass consumption of BBQ, fried food, etc, is looked upon as normal and I actually feel more judgment now when it comes to some of this stuff...kind of like I am being a poor sport by ordering something healthier. I think it has gotten a lot worse as I approach a healthy weight, because when I was at the beginning of my 134 lb loss people would give me a pity smile or even say "Ooooh you're being good!" and they seemed genuinely positive. Now I guess I'm becoming "normal" so it's annoying or obnoxious to get stuff from the light menu?!

No matter what I weigh I'm always invisible.

I think maybe my experience is strange, but what I've noticed is that while at almost 250 lbs I was kind of imposing (even at 5'4"), I am far less so at 199ish. Which means that people tend to feel far more comfortable getting all up in my space on public transit. I actually hate this. But! Happy about other things.

Well I get more attention too now - even after a moderate 20 pound loss only.
:-)

Good for the most part, except when I don't want to be noticed.

I think maybe my experience is strange, but what I've noticed is that while at almost 250 lbs I was kind of imposing (even at 5'4"), I am far less so at 199ish. Which means that people tend to feel far more comfortable getting all up in my space on public transit. I actually hate this. But! Happy about other things.

Same experience here...I spoke about it a little earlier in the thread. I was so used to kind of "claiming space" with my body and now I feel like I can't. It's so weird! I still feel "big" as a person in general, I am 5'8" 173 lb with long limbs but I feel like I can't save a seat next to me anymore or claim a circle of space in line at the post office...the person behind me will now stand like 10 inches from me instead of 2 feet away. People randomly touch me or get close to me too - not scary creepers, but say, the female clerk in a store where I'm shopping - and I am not used to that either.

Good advice.

I get a lot more looks and to be honest it makes me uncomfortable. I also feel more of a need to make myself look my best...but that is a me issue and has nothing to do with anyone else.

I think maybe my experience is strange, but what I've noticed is that while at almost 250 lbs I was kind of imposing (even at 5'4"), I am far less so at 199ish. Which means that people tend to feel far more comfortable getting all up in my space on public transit. I actually hate this. But! Happy about other things.

Same experience here...I spoke about it a little earlier in the thread. I was so used to kind of "claiming space" with my body and now I feel like I can't. It's so weird! I still feel "big" as a person in general, I am 5'8" 173 lb with long limbs but I feel like I can't save a seat next to me anymore or claim a circle of space in line at the post office...the person behind me will now stand like 10 inches from me instead of 2 feet away. People randomly touch me or get close to me too - not scary creepers, but say, the female clerk in a store where I'm shopping - and I am not used to that either.

I've noticed that lately too. There was a guy in line behind me at the coffee shop last week, and he just wouldn't back up, until I turned sideways and smiled at him. Then I think he got that he was totally in my personal space bubble.

I'm probably going to have the most bizarre answer. It makes me extremely angry. Even at 400lbs, I was a very confident person. Granted, when I was that heavy, I didn't *see* myself as that heavy. I always fixed myself up nicely, no matter what size I was-- I wore clothes that were fashionable and flattering for my body size, always tried to have my hair fixed nicely, and did my makeup. Since I've lost weight, I get ungodly amounts of messages from people (mostly men) I went to high school with, telling me how I grew up to be so beautiful, or how I look so good since the last time they saw me, blah, blah, blah. I know I *should* take that as a compliment, but I can't help but think they're nothing but shallow SOB's. That I've always been beautiful (yeah, that's quite vain of me), but it's not all about looks and/or size. I didn't just "grow up to be beautiful"- AKA: you've lost weight, I either always was beautiful, or I never was, it didn't just *happen*.

Being the good southerner I am, I always thank them for their kind compliments, then usually do my best to avoid friend request or don't speak to them any more.

I probably am a horrible human being for this one, but for people who didn't seem to know you were alive, or give you the time of day, to all of a sudden be coming out of the woodworks, it's really annoying for me. Strangers, I don't mind so much, but people I *in a knew* it REALLY irks me.