rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?
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Some men in the grocery store called me a whale and burst out laughing. Keep in mind I am 5'4" and weighed 130 at the time (which is a bmi of 22.3...so not even close to overweight really). Our culture is f****** ridiculous these days in regards to the size people expect women to be. Somehow even healthy is not good enough.0
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I just thought of another one, worse than the other I posted. I was walking home from work several years back and a guy drove by in a truck and yelled out the window, "lay off the cheese burgers" I was devastated as I had been walking home from work for weeks (3 miles) and watching my food.0
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oh my gosh I feel so sorry for so many of you people on here! I can't believe how cruel some people are, I thought I'd been given crap in my life about my weight but what I've experienced barely even counts as an insult in comparison.0
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Lots of pregnancy assumption stories on this thread! I have told my husband sooooo many times you NEVER, EVER, NEVER ask a woman about being pregnant unless she has specifically told you she is! One of my worst comments is actually the opposite- I was working out at Curves, 7 months pregnant and chatting about baby things with some of the other ladies who were working out too when one commented, "Are you SURE you are pregnant? Like REALLY sure it's not just fat?" And she was totally serious, too. I laugh about it now, and maybe it was the preggo hormones but I was so hurt!!
I hate to admit it but one time I made the mistake of assuming a woman was pregnant. I was working door at my exercise class, she came in as a new student, and I very politely said in your condition you probably don't want to do this certain exercise.
She was skinny everywhere else except the front of her tummy. So honest mistakes can happen, with no ill will intent. After that very embarrassing episode I will never mention pregnancy until they tell me they're pregnant.0 -
One of my husband’s friend and his girlfriend came to visit and I had not seen her in two years. We went to the beach together and while there she stood next to me and was looking at my midsection. The she goes “Wait is that?” Then proceeded to touch the muscle that runs on the side of the abs which was popping out because of the position I was in, then she wipes her hand as if I had dirtied it. I laughed out loud and walked away but it does sting when some people say I’m looking less and less feminine because of muscle.
I heard comments growing up from people close to me about what I ate all the time even though I was never overweight. The minute I lost the fat and started gaining muscle all of the sudden I went to the extreme and will soon look like a man. Screw people! Most just want to put others down because of the insecurities they have about themselves.0 -
A few months ago I moved out to live with my boyfriend and his family.
A month ago I go visit my sister. She sees my belly and goes "I see they're feeding you well!" and points at me.
I just brushed it off but when I got home I was obsessing over that comment and it made me so despressed.
I know it wasn't incredibly rude, and it's not like she had cruel intentions (she is my sister after all), but it still hurt.
The next day, I decided to change my diet and my exercise habits and here I am now. :happy:0 -
When i was pregnant i was having my 12 week scan and it was done by a trainee who was being supervised. They put the probe on my belly and the supervisor told the trainee to turn the strength of the machine up because i was a lot larger than the average lady and with all my excess stomach fat they wouldn't get a good picture. They were talking like i wasn't even in the room. That really ruined the experience for me.0
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"No one will ever hire you because you're so big they'll be afraid you'll keel over from a heart attack."0
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My story isn't as bad as some in here, but at the time it hurt a lot.
I was always very slim, was 49kgs (108lb) when I feel pregnant with our twins (am 5'2"). That pregnancy stretched me out so badly....throw in a c-section and my poor tummy was a saggy baggy mess. I gained a huge amount of weight (31.5kg, 69lb) but lost all but 10kg (22lb) of it straight away.
After baby #3 was born I was in the same position weight wise but feeling pretty good about myself, after all my body had produced 3 good size babies in 21 months!!
Until we visited the husbands grandparents when #3 was 6mths old. The very first thing his grandmother said to me was "are you pregnant again?"
No hello, good to see you.....just stared at my stomach and blurted that out.
Turns out she is actually just a self-centered woman who has to be better than everyone else....and what better way to undermine a person than call them fat in an underhanded way!!
She recently told my sister in law (who is the same height and current weight as me) that she (Nana) was much slimmer then her (SIL):grumble:0 -
The rudest thing would have to be a toss up of when I was about 13 and starting to explore cropped tanks, I wasn't a fat kid, I didn't have a flat stomach but I was beautiful, and both my mother and my uncle made comments about how I needed to stop eating, which I did...hello eating disorders
The other thing would be a doctor when I was about the same age jiggling my belly around (really I was not that big at all) and telling me that I was quite the chubby kid, after an operation on my stomach which they had filled my stomach with air to see better.
I have had more than that when I actually got big, but those are some of the worse ones.0 -
I once got called a fat *kitten* in high school by the thinnest dude in class and just replied to him: Don't blame me if your parents are too poor to buy food
and the whole class was like BUUUUURRRRNN 1 -
Upon entering my Uncles home after 20 yrs of not seeing him, his first remark was "I see you are making enough money for food!"
I was at my heaviest and almost didn't go to his 80th because of my weight. To walk in hear my mother (this is her brother and could be twins in personality) was quite a shock.
I recovered quickly to enjoy the day. I was glad I let that remark go because he went on to brag about how well I had done in life for the rest of the day0 -
When I was around 15, my brother told me I'd be pretty if I lost weight. Around that same time, my dad told me looked disgusting and like I was pregnant. I was 20 lbs. over my goal weight at that time. They both have always been super anti-fat and I felt that all my life.
Of course, both of them and my sister could always eat whatever they wanted, never exercised, and were skinny as rails. My Mom's been overweight my entire life and my dad treated her like crap too.
As a teenager, their comments and looks killed me. Now, I don't give a rat's *kitten*.0 -
After I had had my first child, my mother-in-law, who was actually obese, commented that the jeans skirt I had on made me look like I had a "Big caboose." I weighed about 125-130 at the time and wore a size 8. At the time, I think she was actually transferring her own insecurities to me.0
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When I first started trying online dating I had a date with this really attractive guy. Things were going well, and then at the end of the date he looked at me and said, "We're going back to my place right? I only wanted to go on this date because you were fat and probably desperate to get laid. I just need to get laid, so after tonight I won't be contracting you." So when I asked him why he thought I was desperate for attention he said, "Fat girls never get any attention from attractive guys like me. So when a guy like me pays attention to them, they'll do anything. Fatties are the best because you can string them along just by giving them a little bit of attention." I promptly asked for the check, paid for my dinner and said, "I'm taking myself home because I know how to treat myself right, unlike you. And I'll probably do a better job at it." That was the night I started my weight loss program, I saw him after I dropped fifty pounds and he said he'd love to date me now I was skinnier. I told him no way.0
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Nothing when I was heavy, but when I lost 50lbs my brother-in-law said "Wow you lost alot of weight! You used to be fat as a cow."0
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3-4 months ago I had to have two surgeries in a 3 week period. Went to visit family after I got back on my feet again, about 6 weeks ago. My grandmother-in-law says to me, with all the in-law family there "I see you didn't lose any fat after you had the surgeries". Granted she's almost 90 so has likely lost the filter on what's ok to say or not. Even though I had lost 30+ lbs by that point, it still hurt, especially with everyone there to overhear it.0
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What a bi***! I think I would have said, "better fat than insensitive".0
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Got set up on a date and we were texting a few days before hand. Told the guy I was a bit too curvey and he's like I love curves. Met on the date and he's says your not curvey your fat and walked off0
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You are not pregnant, are you?0
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Lately I have to say being called "skinny" dammit I am not skinny and don't want to be called it because its toatly against what I am aiming for. I am sure they mean it as a compliment but ... that means bones showing to me and that is gross. I am going for healthy and fit with some muscles.
Its rude to blurt out anything related to physical attributes in my opinion. I don't go calling people sickly or fat or comment on their outfit choice for the day, etc. But hey people need mouth filters a lot.0 -
This is a great topic to vent. I have a naturally plump face. When I gain weight, unfortunately, it shows in my face first. I am 5'3" and was in the 110-115 range in my teens and even when I was in the high end of the range, people would comment on me putting on weight, and it was really hard just staying in that range. I ate almost nothing.
In my 20's, when I started my career, I was less active and less conscientious of my diet, and went up to 135. My boss commented often on me needing to lose weight, so I went on a diet. When I reached 125, she told me I was looking good and was almost there.
Ideal weight for 5'3" female is usually given as 107-135, but I have always received negative comments when I exceed 115.
I had a doctor when I was in early 20's ask me when I weighed in at 120 if this was my normal weight and then proceed to tell me that i needed to watch my diet and exercise.
When I was 32, between the births of my two sons, I joined weight watchers and went down to 125, which was my goal weight. The weight watchers leader suggested I reset my goal lower.
After a while, you start feeling like expectations are unrealistic. I kinda gave up. Now I'm much higher than any of these weights. Trying to focus on my own good health now.
Meanest thing ever said to me : I bet if you lost weight, you would have a small chest.
I know every single one of these people were wrong in what they said to me, but amazing how unrealistic people's expectations can be.0 -
My Dad had a GF when I was in High School who, despite being larger than me, kept telling me to lose the weight or else no one would love me. Thankfully, I had the presence of mind at the time to tell her that if a man or woman didn't want to date me as a heavy person, I'd not want to date them if I were thin. She was so skeevy and off her rocker, I was actually not offended by it, which is rather shocking as I was pretty thin-skinned back then. Thank GOD her little digs didn't get to me; I had a bad enough relationship with food as it was.
Probably the one that actually hurt was this woman who hung in my group of friends as the GF of one of our friends; she kept using my weight as a baseline against other people's fatness. "Oh, she HUGE! She's larger than YOU!" And it wasn't that she said this, it was that she thought it was funny and that I was the only one to call her out on it.
Oddly, people comment more about the POTENTIAL of me getting (*GASP*) fat. "Don't eat that! You'll get fat!" Which isn't hurtful, just annoying as I end up giving my "no bad foods, just bad amounts. Moderation is my homeboy" speech. LOL0 -
I got more crap after losing the weight than when I was heavier.0
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We have to pick just one? lol0
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When I was teen my younger sister had modeling aspirations.
I was out with my mom one night and we ran into an acquaintance of hers who ran a modeling agency.
He politely asked if I was the daughter who was interested in modeling.
As I was responding with no that would be my sister he gave me a super slow up and down once over and said with a sneer
" well you certainly are ........ Tall enough"
luckily I responded with a catty
and not nearly vapid enough
then walked away.
nit that models are all vapid but I had to say something0 -
My dad told me i looked like a sick LA model on heroin yesterday so yeah, that was fun0
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When I was teen my younger sister had modeling aspirations.
I was out with my mom one night and we ran into an acquaintance of hers who ran a modeling agency.
He politely asked if I was the daughter who was interested in modeling.
As I was responding with no that would be my sister he gave me a super slow up and down once over and said with a sneer
" well you certainly are ........ Tall enough"
luckily I responded with a catty
and not nearly vapid enough
then walked away.
nit that models are all vapid but I had to say something
He probably wasn't smart enough to understand what vapid meant.0 -
One time I went into a store, shopping for some things for my daughter. I was looking at jeans, and the sales person came over to me and told me they did not carry any clothing in the store in my size. It was basically an invitation to leave. "We don't want anyone your size in our store.". It was pretty clear.
Shrug...The stuff was cheap and ugly anyway. I went to Nordstroms, asked for a personal shopper, told him my daughter's size, and we picked out several outfits with accessories for her. He was pleasant to work with, and I am sure he was happy with his commission.
Snooty is as snooty does.
I have also had a few issues with personal trainers, their attitude was that I was too fat to work with, one wanted to only work with me at a certain time, I think he did not want to be seen with me. Another treated me like her personal project, like she was going to fix me and make me thin. My goal was an exercise routine. Not a diet coach, she wanted to weigh me every week, and verbally abused me if I had not stayed on her regimen. No more money for her.
You have to really maintain high self esteem when dealing with people who treat you badly. I have had people ignore me, glaze their eyes when looking at me, and act like I was the problem.0 -
I was 11 and at my friends and her brother (who i'd never even talked to before) said "if you keep eating so much you'll get fat."... I was just a small amount off being underweight. I'm now 35 and that comment has stuck with me.0
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