Office Treats - Not cool Rant
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Hi! I'm the OP and have responded about three pages back. Just want to say again that you were all right. Some of you used supportive words and others were quite harsh. I took both types of comments and came to the conclusion that it's in my hands. I can make the decision to eat the snacks or not. Even the ridiculous amounts of "get a grip" comments are helpful. So thanks. I needed that kick in the pants. *whispers* Can it please stop now *huddles in corner with arms protecting head"?
I like you. If you need any MFP friends let me know. You've got this.
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:flowerforyou:Hi! I'm the OP and have responded about three pages back. Just want to say again that you were all right. Some of you used supportive words and others were quite harsh. I took both types of comments and came to the conclusion that it's in my hands. I can make the decision to eat the snacks or not. Even the ridiculous amounts of "get a grip" comments are helpful. So thanks. I needed that kick in the pants. *whispers* Can it please stop now *huddles in corner with arms protecting head"?
Frank gets the message delivered in an efficient manner. Rude isn't cool but I may or may not be blunt at times. I can speak for myself only, but I have a deep desire to help people find their paths to strong minds and personal balance in general.0 -
Not to sound like a 12-step poster but "own your own program". Are you bringing your healthy snacks to the office. If you have something at your desk worth looking forward to it will be easier to walk past. Try the emerald dark chocolate peanut butter or cinnamon almonds. They are delightful and good for you. It is up to you to stay in the safe zone with your eating, no one else. My coworkers know I watch my food, so they bring it in but don't offer it to me verbally. It's a struggle but finding balance can't be the responsibility of others.:flowerforyou:
Honestly this.^
Hubby's paleo and we are going to a party this weekend where there will likely be a bunch of things he chooses not to eat. So I'm gonna buy a deviled eggs taker for 3 bucks at Party City and make some deviled eggs to take so I can be sure there is at least one thing he can eat. I plan to top half with crumbled bacons, half with cayenne pepper, and half with tomato slices. Then another half I'm gonna leave plain. If I have time I might chop some chives for another half. I know I went way over on halves here but I never claimed to be a math genius.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Seems like it adds up to me!0 -
Hi! I'm the OP and have responded about three pages back. Just want to say again that you were all right. Some of you used supportive words and others were quite harsh. I took both types of comments and came to the conclusion that it's in my hands. I can make the decision to eat the snacks or not. Even the ridiculous amounts of "get a grip" comments are helpful. So thanks. I needed that kick in the pants. *whispers* Can it please stop now *huddles in corner with arms protecting head"?
I like you. If you need any MFP friends let me know. You've got this.
Yes Please0 -
Not to sound like a 12-step poster but "own your own program". Are you bringing your healthy snacks to the office. If you have something at your desk worth looking forward to it will be easier to walk past. Try the emerald dark chocolate peanut butter or cinnamon almonds. They are delightful and good for you. It is up to you to stay in the safe zone with your eating, no one else. My coworkers know I watch my food, so they bring it in but don't offer it to me verbally. It's a struggle but finding balance can't be the responsibility of others.:flowerforyou:
Honestly this.^
Hubby's paleo and we are going to a party this weekend where there will likely be a bunch of things he chooses not to eat. So I'm gonna buy a deviled eggs taker for 3 bucks at Party City and make some deviled eggs to take so I can be sure there is at least one thing he can eat. I plan to top half with crumbled bacons, half with cayenne pepper, and half with tomato slices. Then another half I'm gonna leave plain. If I have time I might chop some chives for another half. I know I went way over on halves here but I never claimed to be a math genius.
I had a coworker who made deviled eggs for every party function and she was THE HERO of the office. EVERYONE raved about those deviled eggs and they were always the very first thing gone. I am in full support of anyone who brings deviled eggs to an office party, I miss working in that office because I miss those eggs!0 -
As the original poster, this was my favorite response so far!! Seriously funny. :laugh:
You have my respect for playing along and not getting all "you guys are mean" on us. It's a calorie counting website, we are all b!tchy.
QFT
OP, I'm glad you brought this up, the reactions are much harsher than I would have expected. I also feel like there are too many unhealthy treats peddled to us at work. Many social interactions in our culture revolve around food, and in general we can see the evidence of those unhealthy habits by the heavily increasing numbers of obese people in America. I'm not saying that office treats are the cause of our obesity epidemic, don't pin that on me. But it's worth noting that the OP has been consistently chastised for her lack of willpower and poor relationship with food (not that Im claiming the OP does). And yet our entire culture has an unhealthy relationship with food. Healthy, fit people are the exception, not the norm.
Office politics are tricky, I hate saying no to people (it's a product of my upbringing and a personality trait, I'm working on it), I'd rather avoid the break room and eat at my desk than have to field questions about the lunch I brought from home, and/or avoid the high fives for my healthy lunch.
I would agree that willpower is a learned behavior, and only practice can improve it. I love the suggestion about having a bowl of fruit, be the change you want to see in the world.
Also I would say that the highly negative response stems from a culture that is too focused on the individual, the idea that if we fail, we have only ourselves to blame. Theres no social accountability. If willpower is a learned behavior, then the opposite is true as well. What is our culture/society teaching children about health and fitness? Not enough obviously.
Tl; dr, I have an unpopular opinion.0 -
Perfect timing on this thread as my department just rolled out a bunch of ice cream and other 'hump day' treats. Lol.
Me, I couldn't care less, whatever makes people happy. I actually kind of like having that stuff waved in my face and then not eating any. It's a great way to show myself I'm committed to changing certain poor eating habits and it's not like I don't regularly leave room to have the kinds of snacks/treats I like when I want them (for example, beer).0 -
Hi! I'm the OP and have responded about three pages back. Just want to say again that you were all right. Some of you used supportive words and others were quite harsh. I took both types of comments and came to the conclusion that it's in my hands. I can make the decision to eat the snacks or not. Even the ridiculous amounts of "get a grip" comments are helpful. So thanks. I needed that kick in the pants. *whispers* Can it please stop now *huddles in corner with arms protecting head"?
Then you, mam, are awesome for seeing through alot of the sarcasm and seeing that we're all just trying to help you along. If you need some encouragement (constructive), I'd be more than happy to do that. 0 -
Hi! I'm the OP and have responded about three pages back. Just want to say again that you were all right. Some of you used supportive words and others were quite harsh. I took both types of comments and came to the conclusion that it's in my hands. I can make the decision to eat the snacks or not. Even the ridiculous amounts of "get a grip" comments are helpful. So thanks. I needed that kick in the pants. *whispers* Can it please stop now *huddles in corner with arms protecting head"?
Glad to see your toddler moment has passed.
The thread probably won't stop though. Sorry. :flowerforyou:0 -
Hi again - OP here. I got a lot of "it's not all about you" comments which really bugged me. I just got a very nice note from someone that made me really think about the real reason I posted my rant and made me realize why the comments bugged me. My whole thought process comes from the fact that if i knew that someone in my office was working really hard to stay away from treats, I personally wouldn't bring them in and make it harder for them. They don't want it and I don't need it. It is my personality not to be the person that makes anything harder for another person. So sometimes it boggles my mind that others don't think the same way and I just can't understand. So that's where it came from.
But like other comments said, I can't change other people's behaviors (which I actually tell my husband all the time about his mother) so I need to change mind. Thank you for the reminder.0 -
Hi! I'm the OP and have responded about three pages back. Just want to say again that you were all right. Some of you used supportive words and others were quite harsh. I took both types of comments and came to the conclusion that it's in my hands. I can make the decision to eat the snacks or not. Even the ridiculous amounts of "get a grip" comments are helpful. So thanks. I needed that kick in the pants. *whispers* Can it please stop now *huddles in corner with arms protecting head"?
Glad to see your toddler moment has passed.
The thread probably won't stop though. Sorry. :flowerforyou:
You are probably right.0 -
um.
Are they bringing it to your desk??
I mean- that's the only way I could see they are being cruel.
I got no further than this.
Someone did this to me once. When I opted to avoid the office pot luck, she insisted I come try the food. When I told her again that I didn't wish to participate, she brought the food to my desk.
Ugh.0 -
Hi! I'm the OP and have responded about three pages back. Just want to say again that you were all right. Some of you used supportive words and others were quite harsh. I took both types of comments and came to the conclusion that it's in my hands. I can make the decision to eat the snacks or not. Even the ridiculous amounts of "get a grip" comments are helpful. So thanks. I needed that kick in the pants. *whispers* Can it please stop now *huddles in corner with arms protecting head"?
Glad to see your toddler moment has passed.
The thread probably won't stop though. Sorry. :flowerforyou:
You are probably right.
You'll do alright.
You survived- you learned- you're game for some fun. The thread will roll and there will be more comments- but you seem amicable- so I suspect it will be all well and good.
Congrats on making it through the first MFP ring of flaming grow up fire death thread.
just kidding. :flowerforyou:
it's okay- it CAN be hard- but we are here to help- even if it's not in the way you thought LOL. You'll be fine.I got no further than this.
Someone did this to me once. When I opted to avoid the office pot luck, she insisted I come try the food. When I told her again that I didn't wish to participate, she brought the food to my desk.
Ugh.
I'd have words for someone who did that- i hope you learned her her lesson quickly.0 -
I agree we all need to have some self control, however I can relate to this being frustrating. My office is similar due to the fact that the amount of junk food around on a daily basis is excessive. Also I'm going to note here that there are a large amount of people in my office that are obese/overweight. Hmmmmm a correlation here??? Sitting all day AND eating junk food that is readily available on a daily bases= extra lbs. Agreed, we are all adults and we have to control ourselves, however I'm always asking my co workers why we have to have massive amount of candy/donuts/junk food at the office on every day?
How about brining in some fruit once and a while for a treat? Which has been done here in my office before, but the fruit just sits and the candy gets eaten!!!!
Anyway it's a free office and I agree people should be able to bring in a treat. I'm just saying that if your office is like mine I'm telling you it's WAY WAY too excessive. At my desk now I can litterally at any time any given day have my choice of 5 kinds of candy or donuts.. Do I eat it every day?? NO, but I do "fall off the wagon" more frequently than I'd like=)0 -
Hi again - OP here. I got a lot of "it's not all about you" comments which really bugged me. I just got a very nice note from someone that made me really think about the real reason I posted my rant and made me realize why the comments bugged me. My whole thought process comes from the fact that if i knew that someone in my office was working really hard to stay away from treats, I personally wouldn't bring them in and make it harder for them. They don't want it and I don't need it. It is my personality not to be the person that makes anything harder for another person. So sometimes it boggles my mind that others don't think the same way and I just can't understand. So that's where it came from.
But like other comments said, I can't change other people's behaviors (which I actually tell my husband all the time about his mother) so I need to change mind. Thank you for the reminder.
Well here's the thing. How commonplace is it for people to bring treats into the office? Honestly, I don't believe that there is one person in your office that is concerned enough with your weight loss to intentionally sabotage you. That's still that thinking that someone else is to blame for your lack of self-control. You have to quit thinking like that. Your coworkers are living their lives.
Even if there is someone there that wants you to fail, then they aren't really interested in keeping you fat, but to get a reaction out of you. And you're giving it to them.
ETA - Odds are that if you already asked them not to do it, then they did intentionally do it just to piss you off. Still... you let it piss you off, and you didn't have to.0 -
Hi again - OP here. I got a lot of "it's not all about you" comments which really bugged me. I just got a very nice note from someone that made me really think about the real reason I posted my rant and made me realize why the comments bugged me. My whole thought process comes from the fact that if i knew that someone in my office was working really hard to stay away from treats, I personally wouldn't bring them in and make it harder for them. They don't want it and I don't need it. It is my personality not to be the person that makes anything harder for another person. So sometimes it boggles my mind that others don't think the same way and I just can't understand. So that's where it came from.
But like other comments said, I can't change other people's behaviors (which I actually tell my husband all the time about his mother) so I need to change mind. Thank you for the reminder.
You are one cool chick :flowerforyou:0 -
I notoriously have no will power. Why do people want to tempt me??
It's the other way 'round - you're asking the world to cater to you.
What gives you that right?0 -
OP has admitted defeat and is waving the white flag/ cowering in a corner.
Can we leave her alone now? LOL0 -
I'm sure that 7 pages in, it's all been said and done, but I have one question for you OP....
DO you really poop nutmeg?0 -
lol why are you stealing your co-workers' candy?0
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OMG reading this post sounds like I wrote it! lol.
My office has a candy dish in the lobby. I have to pass it everytime I go to the copy machine/fax and whenever I need to leave or meet a client. Its in my face.
I asked my boss to buy peppermint patties instead cause I hate those. But he likes them and is trying to lose weight too. So he said he would rather me get fat than him. He is only sort of joking.
My self control is thin as well. Gum helps ALOT. So maybe try that? Or start taking the candy every time you walk by and immediately putting your 'share' in the trash can. Better to waste than to waist! lol. I know, I know, that's kinda mean knowing someone spent their money on it, but hey, maybe you will feel guilty for taking so many and ditching them that you wont take more to eat.
Convince yourself someone sneezed on them.
Pick up the platter of cookies, walk them around to everyone with napkins so everyone can take one, then ask if they want anymore. When they say no, put them in the trash (or the Fridge, they never taste as good when they have been in the fridge)0 -
i can TOTALLY relate! sweets have always been my downfall. i'm pretty sure i have a legitimate sugar addiction. it's really frustrating people bringing in cookies, donuts, and the like. i don't ask people not to bring it 'cause i mean other people in the office aren't watching what they eat. but oh, it is so hard to avoid. just adding in that i struggle with this too.0
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Hi again - OP here. I got a lot of "it's not all about you" comments which really bugged me. I just got a very nice note from someone that made me really think about the real reason I posted my rant and made me realize why the comments bugged me. My whole thought process comes from the fact that if i knew that someone in my office was working really hard to stay away from treats, I personally wouldn't bring them in and make it harder for them. They don't want it and I don't need it. It is my personality not to be the person that makes anything harder for another person. So sometimes it boggles my mind that others don't think the same way and I just can't understand. So that's where it came from.
But like other comments said, I can't change other people's behaviors (which I actually tell my husband all the time about his mother) so I need to change mind. Thank you for the reminder.
Unless you're in a very small office, this just isn't feasible, IMO. Do you keep up with who is quitting smoking? Or drinking? Divorcing? You get my idea. Just being you, doing what you do (happy marriage, happy hour, smoke break, etc) may hurt other people - but that hurt is on them (unless you're going out of your way to be a jerk, which I highly doubt). It's nice to try to be aware and accommodating to other people, but if you expect the same treatment, you're going to be let down.0 -
Oh, I also want to say that I really wish I had sparkly poop. That would be awesome.
You can.
Well done, by the way....0 -
OP has admitted defeat and is waving the white flag/ cowering in a corner.
Can we leave her alone now? LOL
:flowerforyou:0 -
Hi! I'm the OP and have responded about three pages back. Just want to say again that you were all right. Some of you used supportive words and others were quite harsh. I took both types of comments and came to the conclusion that it's in my hands. I can make the decision to eat the snacks or not. Even the ridiculous amounts of "get a grip" comments are helpful. So thanks. I needed that kick in the pants. *whispers* Can it please stop now *huddles in corner with arms protecting head"?
I was all ready to make a very frank reply until I read this. I like you. Thanks for being a good sport and not getting all defensive and pointing fingers and jumping up and down screaming, "You people are so mean!"
You'll do fine here on MFP.0 -
My office is always full of cakes biscuits and we even have a tuck shop!
Its my choice to eat healthy and its my choice if I decide to eat whats there (which I don't) I am the one who is dieting not everybody else in my office so why should they suffer??
To get anywhere with weightloss you need willpower and be able to say no.
Good luck going forward0 -
I found it very difficult to overcome office treat temptation when I was losing my weight. However, now that I am all fit and sexy I just sit at my desk and smile smugly while the pigs feed at the trough... That is all. *Note: I got and still get nasty comments about how I don't eat (like they couldn't see my healthy snacks -OR- that I was eating 5-6x per day) or that I work out too much. Sorry, not sorry that my healthier lifestyle makes you feel insecure
Charming.
Off to feed like a pig at a trough.....0 -
Hi again - OP here. I got a lot of "it's not all about you" comments which really bugged me. I just got a very nice note from someone that made me really think about the real reason I posted my rant and made me realize why the comments bugged me. My whole thought process comes from the fact that if i knew that someone in my office was working really hard to stay away from treats, I personally wouldn't bring them in and make it harder for them. They don't want it and I don't need it. It is my personality not to be the person that makes anything harder for another person. So sometimes it boggles my mind that others don't think the same way and I just can't understand. So that's where it came from.
But like other comments said, I can't change other people's behaviors (which I actually tell my husband all the time about his mother) so I need to change mind. Thank you for the reminder.
Well here's the thing. How commonplace is it for people to bring treats into the office? Honestly, I don't believe that there is one person in your office that is concerned enough with your weight loss to intentionally sabotage you. That's still that thinking that someone else is to blame for your lack of self-control. You have to quit thinking like that. Your coworkers are living their lives.
Even if there is someone there that wants you to fail, then they aren't really interested in keeping you fat, but to get a reaction out of you. And you're giving it to them.
ETA - Odds are that if you already asked them not to do it, then they did intentionally do it just to piss you off. Still... you let it piss you off, and you didn't have to.
So I never once in a million years thought that anyone did it on purpose to make things harder for me. Maybe I am naive. And it is every day. I think there are at least three people that have huge buckets that they fill weekly. One even has a pumpkin bucket from halloween.0 -
I found it very difficult to overcome office treat temptation when I was losing my weight. However, now that I am all fit and sexy I just sit at my desk and smile smugly while the pigs feed at the trough... That is all. *Note: I got and still get nasty comments about how I don't eat (like they couldn't see my healthy snacks -OR- that I was eating 5-6x per day) or that I work out too much. Sorry, not sorry that my healthier lifestyle makes you feel insecure
Charming.
Off to feed like a pig at a trough.....
Can I join? I brought home a whole pizza last night from my office we could rejoice in its lovelies. I won't even use my hands.0
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