WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2014
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Brenda, my heart goes out to you and your daughter.
:brokenheart: She has a wonderful mom, to love her so much. I’m sure you will do the right thing for her. I’m guessing though that she doesn’t even know what that is. Just being there will mean a lot. Sending hugs.
Barbie, please let Jake know he has my sympathy. It’s got to be hard to see someone you love in pain. Sending hugs to you and Jake too.
Alison, I hope you’re feeling better.
Beth, I’m with you and cheering you on as you get back on track. :flowerforyou: My last “slip” was 50 pounds. I am still working my way back to where I was. 10 pounds is workable. Now is the absolute best time to work on it.
The thing that’s kind of funny (in a sad kind of way) is that eating off track makes us feel worse, not better. :huh: We may feel happier when we’re actually taking that bite, but feeling worse follows immediately :huh: :frown: :huh:
We can do this!
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Sylvia and everyone who has had problems with dogs fighting, I urge you to run, not walk, to your nearest pet store or, better and cheaper yet, Amazon, and get some citronella spray. It’s amazing how a harmless spray that smells fine to us will take the nastiness right out of fighting dogs.
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Heather, I hope your trip is wonderful! I’m excited for you.
My DD has gone to Reno to help my niece while her DH is in the hospital, still recovering from pneumonia. (It's been two weeks now.) I took my DGDs and two of their friends to school. I actually got there early. I think DD was so worried that I’d drive too slowly and be late that she told me a way-too-early time. :laugh:
My poor DGDs were tired this morning. They really didn’t even eat their breakfasts but took extra with them in their lunches. My DSIL doesn’t do a good job of getting them to bed on time the night before when DD is gone.
Oh well. :ohwell: What can I say? Not much, I’m glad to report!! Actually, I didn’t say a word. By far the best approach. They’ll recover and his and my relationship will stay intact.
My two DGDs can be whippersnappers but I love them.
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Hello Lovely Ladies,
Today I did strength training for upper body then treadmill. I have housework today so not a lot of time.
Barbie, adding my condolences for the loss of Jake's brother.
Brenda, you have a lot of good advice here for your daughter. I agree with Barbie, just be there for her.
Alison, I accepted your friend request. You can see Brian on my profile page. Just below my profile pic is the link to my photos.
Michele, making chocolate muffins later today or tomorrow.????
Hugs to all,
Cindy in OK0 -
Today's joke of the day:
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A man came home and was greeted by his wife dressed in a very sexy nightie. 'Tie me up,' she purred, 'and you can do anything you want.'
So he tied her up and went golfing.
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Brenda - I'm so sorry. It is so difficult to lose someone and when it happens suddenly I think it's much harder. As I'm sure you know, there aren't any easy or pat answers when someone is grieving. She will go through all of the phases of grief from being numb, angry, sadness-depression, guilt, etc. These are all normal and do not occur on a linear timeline. She will go from one to another and may revisit them again. Out of the blue, sadness will fall and she may cry at the drop of a hat or standing in line. Probably one thing she is unable or finding very hard to do at this time is make decisions so I wouldn't necessarily keep asking her what can you do, what does she need, what she is going to do next. She probably doesn't even know what she'll have for her next meal and it probably doesn't seem important to her. Don't be surprised if she snaps at you when you're trying to be helpful. You probably know all of this but sometimes when we're close to the situation we can end up feeling hurt because we're only trying to help. As far as the anniversaries, I think I would talk with my DH first and see if he has any thoughts. If you're not ones to have to celebrate on the actual day, maybe plan to do something at a later time and just have a quiet, private rememberance on your special day between the two of you. For her day, I think you have gotten some good ideas from the others. She may come to you and tell you how she plans on spending the day, maybe wants to be by herself, maybe with her parents, and maybe even with a close girlfriend if she has someone. My sister's husband passed at a young age from cancer. His birthday was a couple of months later and although she didn't tell anyone at the time, she sat on the floor of their walk-in closet and sobbed for hours while holding onto his clothes. She had felt she had to hold everything together for their 5 year old daughter and run the house, pay the bills, etc. It was the first time she could just release everything by herself. It is so hard to see those we love hurting and know there isn't a thing we can do to take it from them. We can only be there when they reach out. There is a website called www.grief.com that seems to have some good information. Also, there is a great program called GriefShare that many churches hold. It provides a great support group for people dealing with all types of loses.
Haven't posted much in September but I have read all. Put me in the group with those dealing with weight gain. I haven't just fallen off the wagon, it has run over me several times. So tired all of the time and eating everything in sight for extra energy. I have several dr. appointments I have to make. Been years for eyes, gynecologist, mammogram, general physical, and never for a colonoscopy. I really need to just make the appointments. One issue is they book so far out that it is hard to plan. The times I've had appointments, I've had to cancel due to illness, weather, or some other issue. I always find it funny when they ask if a certain date is good when it's 6 months out. Now, if they ask me if I can make Thursday I could say yes! :laugh:0 -
Hello to all: Doing somewhat better with the breathing although still on steroids and antibiotics. Went out to the stables yesterday thinking I might ride but was so out of breath after getting my horse out of the pasture that I decided not to. I will not quite make 100 miles this month, would have to walk nearly 10 miles today and tomorrow but not too far off the mark. I will have to make that a goal for October again. Eating is a little crazy with the antibiotics, cannot eat 2-3 hours before or after taking it. I have managed not to gain any weight with the steroids so far and I am almost done with them.
Katla - Sending healing wishes for your DH. I hate sitting in waiting rooms. It seems that there is nothing that is a really good distraction.
Barbie - Condolences to Jake.
Heather - Years ago my hair was thinning and my hairdresser suggested I take brewer's yeast. Apparently hair loss can be caused by an imbalance of B vitamins. I do not remember how long I took it but it solved the problem.
Mimi - I think when I am tired and stressed I default to eating to make myself feel temporarily better. Key work is temporary. I know that it is not a solution and I will eventually feel worse but for a tiny space of time I have put off dealing with it. Nothing to do but try again and hopefully come up with a new coping strategy.
Allison - Glad the party was a success. Take care of yourself now.
Healing angels to all who need them and congratulations to those with victories. Sue in SD0 -
Brenda, I've been trying t think of something to say that would help, but I just can't think of anything. It's is so sad. My very worst fear is losing my husband, so I don't know how anyone gets over it. Especially so young. I did find a site for a blog called Motorcycle Widow, where the woman blogs about her grief. I dont know if it would help to know that she isn't alone, but here is the link:
http://motorcyclewidow.wordpress.com/
Is there a grief support group in her area? They have one here but I only know that because I saw a poster at the grocery store. I really don't know what they do.
I'm sorry for you too, to see your child going through this. It must be agony.
Please let us know as time goes by how she is doing.
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evening ladies,
well I need advice from you retired nurses... left side bothering me, sorta like a I have a stitch in my side, and am bloated to beat the band, now ,mind you I can use the bathroom fine,both 1 and 2:blushing: .
I am worried that it could be my kidneys giving out on me.. I am stage 3 of 5 with Polycystic Kidney disease, and have been ok so far.but,I feel like one of the Macy's balloons,not gas either. going to try slimming tea tonight to see if that helps, if not will call and make a drs appt for weds, as I have to work all day tomorrow. well I will check in in the am
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Good early evening beautiful ladies:flowerforyou:
Brenda My heart goes out to you and your daughter:brokenheart: ! I have been there, my hubby died 16 years ago from a tragic accident. Kayak Kutie said everything I wanted to say. There is nothing you can do but be there for her for whatever she might need. Let her plan that day, she may want to be alone with her pain, or she may want to be with friends, or be with you. The last thing she needs pressure to try to please someone else. She may also want you to celebrate your anniversary, she may not want to be there, but I know if my parents had not celebrated their anniversary because of me, I would have felt so guilty for taking that away from them. My mom and dad were wonderful when my hubby died, they were there if I needed them, they left me alone when I just couldn`t handle being around people. My mother called me everyday just to say hello, I appreciated that more than words can say! I know it`s hard on you too, there is nothing worse than watching your child hurt! Just let her know you`re there for her! Wishing you all the best!!!
Barbie I`m sorry to hear about Jake`s brother, please send him my sympathy!!!
Alison Sounds like you need to see your Dr.!!! I`m not a nurse and I don`t know anything about Polycystic Kidney disease, but feeling as bloated as a Macy`s balloon is scary! I`m not so sure I would do that slimming tea either, not without checking with the Dr. first! Good luck my friend!
Heather Have a safe trip!!! I know you`ll have a grand time!
Beth So sorry your son is having migraine issues:sad: !
Cindy Brian is such a little handsome cutie !!!
I spent the weekend with my aunt , she is a little spitfire:smokin: , she tried to fix me up with a Dr. friend of hers:noway: , he`s 73, retired and in her words can take me anywhere I might like to go:laugh: . I love her dearly but that was a little much for me!
Hope everyone is having a wonderful night!
Hugs,
DeeDee back in dreary NC0 -
"Lesley in Tasmania ... happy to see that you are finally achieving the results you desired! How heavy of a statin were you on? I'm convinced they are no good for us but didn't realize they could disrupt metabolism".
I was on the top dose allowed and doctor wanted permission to go higher doh! His Intern was a girl who had done her Masters with me at peter mac.She hardly recognised me at size OZ 22, I was anOZ 12 when she left. She had been working in America and realised my skeletal muscles were lysing. My cholesterol was 12 mmol/L on the statins. She stopped me right there and then. I have been on Lipidil for 2 years, a non-statin, and cholesterol was 6.9 mmol/L last check
Well I was not hungry yesterday and my cals far too LOW at 1250 cals, and did 10,000 steps to boot.
Will be happier when I see dietition tomorrow, Wednesday, for more guidance.
Happy with Duromine and on 5th day now. Just a slight headache now and thirsty. Drank 3.5 L yesterday
Shopping today so better finish the shopping list.
Lesley in Tasmania0 -
Good eve.
sending prayers and hugs to Brenda and your daughter.
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Beth: You’re right that the basics work for weight management. My stationary bike is an important element in my system because it allows me to burn excess calories when I go over my allowed goal. The bike is in the garage and I can use it day or night, in any weather. That way I seldom go to sleep without “paying” for what I’ve eaten. Good luck getting back on track. A wii, jump rope or hand weights could be made to do a similar job for you if you don’t have a stationary bike. My bike is a street bike on a “trainer.”:flowerforyou:
Sylvia: I think you can claim several hundred calories for the effort and stress involved in breaking up a dogfight. Good luck getting the government to take one check for two different renewals. I love the golfing joke and will send it to a friend with a golfing husband.:laugh: :flowerforyou:
Heather: Safe travels! I hope you have a wonderful adventure and decent weather.:flowerforyou:
Brenda: I am so sorry for your daughter’s loss. I think Barbie has wonderful advice. Your daughter will need to work out her grief in her own way and on her timetable. Your patient acceptance of her feelings will be a comfort.:flowerforyou:
Mimi: You are a wise mother-in-law to withhold advice when your DSIL is in charge of the girls’ morning routine.:flowerforyou:
Sue in SD: Thank you for your kind thoughts. I will have my son waiting with me, and that is all I need. I didn’t want to wait alone. On another subject, I’ve found a riding instructor and will start lessons on 10/10. I’m looking forward to some quality time with a horse.:flowerforyou:
It is time for me to start dinner. We are expecting our son to arrive this evening, but I want dinner on time. If he’s here, great, and if he’s late, we’ll warm his up for him. We leave for the hospital before 5 am tomorrow morning and hope to be home tomorrow afternoon.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
September Goals:
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!0 -
I thought my computer said the thread was closed, but there was no link to the continuation. Maybe I'm the first poster!
I really want candy but am trying hard to persevere by reading posts, watching the Voice, and doing my physical therapy.0 -
Yay! I was number one in part three.
It doesn't take much to excite me. Back to PT.0 -
I never eat candy, but am staring at a jar of M&Ms right now!0
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Dr Katie - You were not the only one confused by the lack of a link to the new topic. There was not one there the first time I looked, either.
I'm pretty much here just to catch up reading and to mark my place.
Good night!
Carol in NC0 -
bumping in!
Gail, metro ATL0 -
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:flowerforyou: finishing off a really busy weekend, but all is well. I will be back another day to post. Just wanted to keep my spot.
Renny0 -
Hello Friends.
Barbie: My sympathy to you and Jake.
Michele: About the Audible version of "Brain Grain" -- it is 8 hours long! :noway: I am listening to it now and just trying to plow through it so I can move onto another book. The anecdotes are good, but the technical explanations of gluten's effect on brain, inflamation of the gastro-intestinal system and a myriad of other symptoms are very hard to assimilate.
The author has a website with alot of the key resources and information: drpermutter.com. If you read everything there and still want more, then I'd get the book.
I'm glad to be home, back on my routine, feeling healthy again after a visit to the chiropractor. :drinker: :happy: :drinker: Next trip is next weekend to North Platte, Nebraska. Might squeeze in some antiquing while in the area.
Stay well, stay strong. We can do this.
Rori
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Did one segment of "10 Minute Solution Butt Lift" DVD, held my plank for 2 min 35 sec and then took the extremepump class. The plan for tomorrow is to do some incline intervals on the treadmill. Before going to the extremepump class I stopped at Lowe's Foods because they have the low sodiuim cottage cheese that I like
After going to the Y I have to go to the dentist and then we have a Newcomer board meeting.
Joyce - you had some wonderful suggestions for Brenda. You always have such great insight. Wonderful idea with the ornament
Alison - good idea to give your dad a membership to AAA
katla - to me, there are a lot of smokers in NC. But then again, to me there are a lot of smokers everywhere. But NC is known for growing tobacco. I guess not much else grows in this stupid red clay. To be honest, it wouldn't surprise me if they start growing pot once they see the tax revenue that Colorado is experiencing. Of course, sometimes they're so slow to do things, it might take them forever to do it. Who knows? When we first moved to NC about 7 years ago, we were really surprised to see that you could still smoke in restaurants! I think NC was one of the last strongholds. You can't anymore (thank goodness) I found the dijonnaise at WalMart. It's made by Hellman's. Sending good thoughts for your hubby
Beth - it must be so hard to watch your son in pain. Prayers for you both.
I went out to get the paper this morning and when I came in Vince was awake. He's NOT an earlybird at all, so that surprised me. He said that Loki had another seizure. Now this one was a bit atypical. For one thing, it happened in the morning, usually they are around dinnertime. Also, this one happened upstairs, usually he must feel them coming on and he heads downstairs. Sometimes he doesn't make it all the way, but you can tell he was trying to get downstairs.
Sylvia - what a dogfight you were in! Glad you weren't hurt worse. Great joke
Carol - I do hope those people buy your place. Keeping everything crossed for you. Breakstone is the only manufacturer that I know of that makes a low sodium cottage cheese. I used to be able to get it at WalMart, but they've evidentally discontinued it but now Lowe's carries it.
Barbie - I must have missed about Jake's brother. My deepest sympathies.
mimi - whenever I eat off track, I feel "yukky". You are so right. Then why do we do this to ourselves?
Sue in SD - congrats on not gaining weight on the steriods. What an accomplishment
Alison - I agree, you need to see a doctor.
Went to mahjongg tonight, maj'd once only. The gal whose house we usually have it at will be away so it'll be at my house for the next two weeks. Plus, the second week, the next day I'm hosting Rummikub here. Oh well...gonna get things out of the way.
Michele in NC0 -
:flowerforyou: I stayed away from the cashews that Jake bought for his friend and him to eat during the baseball game yesterday and then Jake sent the rest of the jar home with his friend so the danger passed. Today a woman celebrating her birthday brought bags of homemade chocolate peanut butter candy balls and offered them to everyone at the meeting. She was amazed when we declined them and couldn't understand anyone turning down a homemade sweet. later I hear someone say, "Oh, Martha, your ruined my diet". I am so glad I don't think that way anymore.
They cut down a huge tree (over 100 feet high) behind the house next door and I stood outside and watched in fascination while they did it.
Barbie from beautiful NW Washington
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Just popping ladies to say hi and am still on track lost almost 40 lbs. Doing the logging...thanks for all the kudos and support it is amazing !0
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Did all our shopping and bought a chicken pie and danish for lunch. Raining hard so came home to eat. OOPs did not mean lunch to be 710 cals. Will NOT do that again
Today's calories are 1932 after yesterdays low. Was going to have supper but NO cals left.
Printed all my meal and exercise sheets for the week for dietition tomorrow.
Good thing is NO headache today.
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Up early and about to have breakfast and get my exercising done.:bigsmile:
I sort of slept,- better than I feared. :drinker: DH had a pretty good night.
I hate this bit of the journey. Always feel better once I've dropped off the bags at the airport.
Will soon be across the pond and taking in all the sights and sounds of NYC.:happy:
Good luck DH of Katla! ! ! !
Heather, still in Hampshire UK
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morning ladies~
Katla is it you that hubby is going in for surgery? sorry I didnt write it down...hoping for the best and a speedy recovery
had my slimming tea last night and that took care of the bloating:blushing: but still feel like I have a stitch in my side..i am wondering if it might be my gall bladder? well if it doesnt go away will give the dr a jingle and schedule an appt. DH leaves thursday, and I get my alotted 20.00 cash weekly,so we was going to leave me 40.00 since he will be gone for 10 days, I am going to ask for 100.00 as I just want to have it on hand, and dont want to be without..I can use the debit card if needed,but have to get permmisson first.. he is anal about money.. which for us I guess is a good thing.
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Morning from sunny Gloucester, UK0
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