Insults

When I was pregnant this last time, I gained a lot of weight and unknowingly had pre-E.

A woman at work (old and fat and ugly) grabbed my arm (I was 8.5 months pregnant) and said, "You are getting FAT!"

Thankfully, I am older now and I no longer cry with this crap. I simply smiled my evil smile and said, "Well, I'm pregnant-- what's your excuse?" Then I walked away leaving her to gossip with the other fat cows.

Wow, I thought it was just MY dad & no one else really had to deal with this from parents (at the least the mean, non-helpful digs).
My dad has told me, "You could be so pretty if you weren't so fat"...."You better lose weight, you're getting mighty chubby" (that was in high school when i weighed 126 lbs. @ 5'4")... "You better lose weight, no man wants to sleep with a woman who reminds him of his grandmother", and last time I saw him he poked me in the stomach & said, "Better go on a diet".
No kidding, really? Thanks for pointing out the obvious, Dad. Naturally he is super skinny, my brother is super skinny , and no one has my back except my hubby & daughter.
My ex- step mother told me at age 18 she could hook me up with a guy from prision, 'cause they like 'girls built like you'. (I weighed 155 at this point)!
I was asked once if I was pregnant, I replied, "Nope, just fat!". At least that way they have no idea how humiliated you are & THEY sort of feel like a creep. When I was pregnant, two biotchy little teeny-boppers stood behind me in line at the grocery store & commented how they hated how fat people smell! I was too embarrassed & sick to say anything back.

The worst was when my hubby was in the hospital. He just happened to be in the room with a woman he used to work with. she'd met me years before, came to our baby shower. Well, when I'd left she asked "was I the same wife"?! then my hubby had to explain away my weight gain (true, i AM fat. I was about 232 at the time).
i'm just glad I didn't hear that one to my face. I think it would have truly crushed me. I wasn't even recognizable?! :9

Then there's all the "fun" stuff like people commenting on what you buy at the store or order to eat, as if it's their business. Just 'cause THEY don't approve. Or, how about how guys drop the door on you? Or let you push your own car out of the intersection when it's raining & it breaks down? That's always fun too.
Gosh, this thread really brough up some real HURT. But, you know what? Someday those same people will likely attempt to treat you differently when you lose the weight. I say screw them. They can shove it. I am still the SAME me inside. And you still hurt me!

unacceptable. i would get rid of him. you dont deserve that.


butr to answer your question -upon being at a restaurant with an ex, our sickly thin skanky waitress he thought was hot- "see she has a perfect body. thats what i like' we ended things shortly after.

When I was a child celabrating my birthday. My Uncle asked what I was weighing in at and did I really want that piece of cake? Pretty much ruined birthdays for me.

That wasn't very nice. I hope he isn't like that all the time. He is supposed to be on your side.

After I had my daughter (like a month after) my mom said, "Are you going to lose the weight?" I said, I hope so. O_o Then she said, "Good, because you want to look like H's girlfriend and not his mother."

:laugh: She really is a bane to my self esteem, isn't she? Holy crap.

It makes me sad to hear so many people have been insulted by those that should support them - family and partners

I have struggled with my weight since I was about 9 and just started going through puberty (yes, ridiculously early, I know). My sister has had the same troubles. My mother's way of 'helping' and 'encouraging' is by being cruel and insulting.
'I really wish you would just control yourself and lose weight'
'Why do I have to get stuck with fat kids? I was never fat'
'All you do is stuff your face, you're such a pig'
And the most hurtful 'The other ladies at work were showing pictures of their kids today. I don't keep pictures to show them because I'm ashamed my daughters are so fat'

Yeah, she's a *****. My sister has it worse than me, mum has put her on shake diets and everything for the last 2 years (she's just turned 15). But then she'll go and buy a ton of crap food, her excuse being 'well, what if I want to eat something like that? I'm not the fat one remember'.

Now that I am losing weight, she's been making nice comments, but at the same time I can tell she's thinking 'yeah, she still needs to lose a hell of a lot more'. I am working on not caring about her opinion at all anymore. Whatever it is, it seems to be toxic. Thank God for my wonderful boyfriend who loves me and supports me, even though he does like big girls.

When I was a kid I was always very thin and when I turned 18 I just kind of blew up and gained a bunch of weight. Well it was the holidays and my uncle was visiting from out of town and when he walked in the house and seen me the first thing he said was "wow your HUGE!" and I was already really deperessed about my weight that it just hurt me so much. Family is not supposed to do that.

Whenever i lose weight i can guarantee that when my mom notices she will say "oh you're losing weight i better start dieting i can't have you being thinner than me". She always made me feel like it's a competition and she has to look better than me for some reason. I have my own children now and i would never make a derogatory comment about their appearance. I talk to them about health and nutrition and encourage them to be healthy and i am overjoyed that my daughter is prettier than i ever was and i will always tell her she is beautiful. I tell my sons that they are handsome too, the only way to instill confidence in children is to tell them how wonderful they are and to encourage them in their endeavours.

I also just wanted to say that reaching your goal weight will not neccesarily mean an end to all mean comments and automatically make life perfect. Some people thrive on putting other people down and if they can't say something bad about your weight they will find something else to pick on. To anyone who feels that reaching a certain weight will 'fix' everything i'm sorry to say this but it wont. Negative people will be negative no matter what you weigh. This is something i have to deal with too, we must focus on appreciating who we are and the good that we do and not let bad minded people bring us down.

Years ago I joined weightwatchers and slimmed down to a size 8 weighing 114lbs (I am 152cm tall), I came out of class really excited because I had got to my goal weight got in the car and told my then husband I had got to goal weight... his response was "You could still do with losing at least 7lbs". He also sat in a pub with me and our friends once and told them all his ex wife looked better naked than I did. Needless to say he is now my ex husband. On the day I left him he made a comment about how it was unfair that my new husband would be getting me thin and he never did - at the time I left I was a size 10 and quite fit.

Ironically far from getting me thin new hubby and I were so happy in the beginning just being together we stopped going to the gym etc and ate badly and both put on weight, but he tells me every day he loves me and I am gorgeous and he is sooo proud of my current weight loss.

As much as it is a throwaway comment, you still need to ask yourself if he's worth having around. Sometimes my boyfriend and I will joke about my tubby thighs or tummy but for the most part he's very vocal about his support and what he likes. Sure he'll comment about how "hot" some skinny girl is and mention that he'd love to see me in short shorts (I shudder at the very thought), yet, I know he loves me for who I am -- we've been together for a while and I've been too-skinny, average and "big" with him. The other day when we were enjoying some "alone time" he mentioned that what I'm doing at the gym is really working for me. It really made my day.

i saw my dad at christmas after 6 months to a year of not seeing him and he whispered am i pregnant as i have put on a lot of weight.

Wow these are some really horrible insults,what are people thinking when they say that kind of stuff.what comes around goes around.keep your chins up !!!!