A comment about your weight that still bothers you...

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dustyhockeymom
dustyhockeymom Posts: 537 Member
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I have been thinking about my goals as I make this journey and I have decided that one is going to be based on a comment that was made to me over 20 years ago. When I was a teenager, I had just started to gain weight and my step-mother (enough said) told me that I couldn't wear my hair short because it made my head look too small in proportion to my body. I really liked myself with short hair, but I have never forgotten that. It has always come to my mind when I think about cutting my hair. Its amazing to me to think that I have been so impacted by that one remark. So I think when I reach my goal weight I am going to get a cute short sassy haircut!
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  • deb968
    deb968 Posts: 144 Member
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    Why wait! Do it now!
  • daniellejg
    daniellejg Posts: 97
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    Good for you! Work it!
  • rosey808
    rosey808 Posts: 91 Member
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    I'm sorry she said that to you. it's amazing the comments we take with us. Sadly it's usually the bad ones.
    So a cute sassy short haircut is another motivator for you ;)
  • lindsaylove07
    lindsaylove07 Posts: 444 Member
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    "You can't be a cheerleader, Linds, I'm almost positive they don't have uniforms in your size, besides, how are you going to get your body to jump all that weight?"

    My lovely mother told me this
  • sarahwright01
    sarahwright01 Posts: 229 Member
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    A friends mom told me that "If you keep eating like that you will become as big as a house!". I gained a bunch of weight since then, but the picture that threw me into my diet , i looked as big as a house...sooo....i keep that in mind when I can't stop eating!! It makes me choose healthier optins.
  • lfbarrett
    lfbarrett Posts: 8 Member
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    don't let her have that power over you!!! and besides you have changed so much in 20+ years....you're gonna look awesome with some cute sassy haircut....rock it!
  • godroxmysox
    godroxmysox Posts: 1,491 Member
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    Why wait! Do it now!

    ABSOLUTELY; DO IT!!!!


    A couple Easters ago, my aunt said, "Ashley, you've put on weight". Thanks, nice of you to notice....she's a paranoid skitzophrenic, so I didn't take it too seriously, but I still remember it and probably always will.
  • That_Girl
    That_Girl Posts: 1,324 Member
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    When I was 12, my mom said she was embarrassed to be seen with me. I look at old pics and I wasn't even that big just chubby. This spiraled me into an eating disorder and I lost 40 pounds....then she was happy to go out with me.

    She still comments on my weight.
  • ChantalD75
    ChantalD75 Posts: 680 Member
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    I have had a comment said to me when I was younger and it stuck with me till this day... worse part came from my dad.... :o(
  • Niceven
    Niceven Posts: 25 Member
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    "You would be so pretty if you were thinner." My mom, god bless her, meant to say that I'm pretty now, but I would be prettier. Unfortunately, even though my rational mind knew what she meant to say, my emotional mind freaked.
  • jennyb31
    jennyb31 Posts: 166 Member
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    Its funny that you posted this because I will always remember boys calling me bubble butt, of course now I wish I had the bubble, but it has always stuck to me. And someone once told me I looked good from the waist up, the waist down is what needed work.......
  • FunRun08
    FunRun08 Posts: 203 Member
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    I have had a lot of comment made about my weight, and I wish I could forget them but I can't. However last night I was looking at my arms and realized I have visible tricep muscles. I recalled that my dad used to pinch the back of my arms and call me bingo arms. He meant it as a joke I think but he didn't realize how hurtful it was for me. Bingo arms no more!!
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
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    Go for it. If you hate it it'll grow back.
  • krise31
    krise31 Posts: 53 Member
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    How about "you would be pretty if you lost 30 lbs" fun stuff :grumble:
  • SharronSmith
    SharronSmith Posts: 3
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    don't wait do it now!! :o)
  • cdthom
    cdthom Posts: 108 Member
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    I remember when I was 7 my grandma was sitting beside me and grabbed my leg and said how cute they look like sausages in those tights . Now I was only about 15 pounds over weight when I was little but it has stayed with me to this day everyone in my family is thin or at least normal as far as weight goes i have always been the big one and i am finally going to join them in this one day at a time getting closer to my goals
  • MissGeorgiaPeachy
    MissGeorgiaPeachy Posts: 313 Member
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    Good for you! I agree with the posts above... why wait?! Do it now! :D

    My own grandmother once told me, "Nobody will ever love you if you're fat." I'm engaged now and he tells me daily that he doesn't care if I gain 5000 pounds, lose all my hair, get covered in boils or sport a hump, he'll still love me. ^_^

    You can do it and you'll be fabulous!
  • udallmom101
    udallmom101 Posts: 564 Member
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    The one that has me really trying to refocus was when an ex-boyfriend saw me and he said, " I guess all Stay at Home Mom's are bound to not have the time to be fit and healthy." HA!!! What an A@$!
  • hpsnickers1
    hpsnickers1 Posts: 2,783 Member
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    It really amazes me that MOMs will say this to their kids. My mom never made those comments (I was never really fat but I was chunky and always had a big belly because I ate nothing but sugar). My dad on the other hand like to pick on my about my belly - and this was during puberty! He was always overweight.

    Now he's on dialysis and one of the reasons I am here.
  • mommy3x
    mommy3x Posts: 46 Member
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    Do NOT wait! Do it now, consider it one huge step in personal acceptance. Keep working towards your goal, but you are more than your weight! Good luck on your journey!!! :smile:

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