If someone was to go onto your profile....

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  • Samerah12
    Samerah12 Posts: 610 Member
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?

    Because that's how a lot of men mean it.

    I'd be flattered if it was just left at that but I've had one person on here push it in a creepy way and I had to unfriend him.
  • nsciambi
    nsciambi Posts: 70 Member
    "Pretty" doesn't have a sexual connotation. "Hot," "smokin," "sexy," etc. do.
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?
  • FaeFae
    FaeFae Posts: 243 Member
    you are right this isnt a dating site however its full of people that know what we are going through and are here to cheer us on and help make us feel confident. We all need to love ourselves first before anything else! Its nice to hear someone tell me im hot or im beautiful....these people can see how much i weigh by my ticker and they dont care! They see my personality through my posts, my motivation, my downfalls and they see the beauty beneath the fat....

    its flattering hun!!! take it as a compliment!!
  • adfranks
    adfranks Posts: 161 Member
    I think it would be nice to hear, but I don't think of myself as attractive at all, so I would blush and say "Thanks!"
  • Sumo813
    Sumo813 Posts: 566 Member
    and call you hot (or anything along those lines) would you be offended, or flattered? I know there are some of you that get that a lot anyway, but I have run into some people that don't like it...I know this isn't a dating site, but it is nice to here sometimes! :)

    Were*

    Definitely an ego booster for me. ;) But some do certainly take offense to being hit on. To each their own.
  • JEK717
    JEK717 Posts: 1,497
    Who wouldn't like it. Most people would be flattered.

    Some people:blushing: though so it might make them uncomfortable(Like me:smile: )...still like it though!
  • KootenayGal
    KootenayGal Posts: 21
    I would take it as a compliment as well...they are always nice to hear!!!
  • katie9730
    katie9730 Posts: 24
    at this point i would still question their visual acuity.

    Haha! Same here.
  • Egger29
    Egger29 Posts: 14,741 Member
    Just to clarify...are we talking about the comment coming from someone of the Opposite or Same Sex? LOL!

    Had to throw that out there. ;-)
  • liveinbliss
    liveinbliss Posts: 108 Member
    Totally take it as a compliment! Cat calls and whistles are good too :)
  • poedunk65
    poedunk65 Posts: 1,336 Member
    As a guy i do aometimes tell ladeis that, but it deos sometimes get taken the wrong way, so i have changed the comment to a more subtle comment.

    Also as a guy i would NEVER take being called hot the wrong way!!!...LMAO
  • Hedone
    Hedone Posts: 92
    Would be flattered for sure, been a long time since i heard that lol
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?

    I love receiving compliments. Ulterior motives or not. :laugh: :wink:
  • SunLovin1
    SunLovin1 Posts: 682 Member
    At my age, you never get tired of hearing it! :happy:
  • rebelontherun
    rebelontherun Posts: 192 Member
    I wouldn't be offended unless they started acting creepy afterwards, messaging me weird stuff all the time and whatnot.
  • Daisy374
    Daisy374 Posts: 539 Member
    I feel flattered.. I work hard at they gym and it makes me feel like I am doing something right :)

    You can call me pretty, sexy, or hot! :bigsmile:
  • VixFit2011
    VixFit2011 Posts: 663 Member
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?

    It's the newer generations....myself I like the old fashioned ways of compliments and being treated like a lady.
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    A couple compliments here and there are great.
    But when someone starts being a creep in messages about it;
    that's when it's just not okay.
  • legacysh
    legacysh Posts: 464
    You know, you can look at it two ways... Take the compliment for what it is and let it fill your bucket so to speak. The person is only seeing a picture of you and likes what they see and wants you to know your attractive. No harm no foul! You don't have to respond. On the other hand, if you are looking for something more personal, its a door open to someone who has something in common with you if you are interested. it doesnt have to be icky!
  • Celo24
    Celo24 Posts: 566 Member
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?

    Because that's how a lot of men mean it.

    I'd be flattered if it was just left at that but I've had one person on here push it in a creepy way and I had to unfriend him.

    But why do some women automatically assume that a compliment is meant with an ulterior motive in mind? Kinda seems like guilty until proven innocent. I have a lot of female friends and I am very happily married. I enjoy giving compliments as much as I enjoy receiving them and I'm not going to quit dishing them out to my deserving friends.
  • Sonofabiscuit2
    Sonofabiscuit2 Posts: 323 Member
    I recently complimented a woman on her pic here, but prefaced it with I'm not trying to be creepy. I haven't received a real compliment since I was a teenager and my son's mother said I reminded her of Tom Cruise, 20 years ago. Of course she wasn't my son's mom then so I assume it was just flirting.
  • mamijujuphat
    mamijujuphat Posts: 407 Member
    I'd be flattered. But I'm married.

    Married not dead...though....:wink:
  • DonM46
    DonM46 Posts: 772 Member
    "Pretty" doesn't have a sexual connotation. "Hot," "smokin," "sexy," etc. do.
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?
    So, If I were to say,
    "You're pretty, but not 'hot', 'sexy', or 'smoking',"
    That would still be a compliment?????
    Sure doesn't sound like one.
    Consequently, it sound like us guys just need to keep compliments to ourselves.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    Since all hawaiians look alike, i figure they thought they were messaging Don Ho
  • mamijujuphat
    mamijujuphat Posts: 407 Member
    I'd be flattered too...but I guess it depends how they say it...if you're working your *kitten* off...& you get compliments of how you look just take 'em kindly...it doesn't necessarily mean more than just a form of flattery..& as a woman if I get compliments from another woman I'll still feel flattered
  • darkrider42
    darkrider42 Posts: 5,441 Member
    My thoughts on RECEIVING compliments ... I've suffered from a poor self-image most of my life so any compliments I get are very much appreciated. I don't have anyone IRL that ever gives me any compliments or encouragement so.... again, I welcome any and all positive feedback. :flowerforyou: :love: :blushing: :smooched:

    On GIVING compliments: I'm very conscious of who I say what to, how well I know them and how they might perceive it. Being an *cough*older*cough* man, I am conscious of using words like 'sexy' or 'hot' to females young enough to be my daughter unless we know each other well enough that no offense will be taken or I will be viewed as 'creepy'. I don't now if it helps to point out that you're merely trying to compliment someone and that you're not hitting on them, but maybe...?

    So in my mind, it all just really depends. Just like with anything, "know your audience" before you say something. Don't assume it will be well-received. Don't say it unless you're *sure* it'll be OK.

    And now my blanket disclaimer, if I say anything to you, my wonderful MFPeeps -- best in all of MFPeepdom, about how great/hot/sexy/amazing/fabulous you look, please know that I mean NO OFFENSE whatsoever, I'm merely complimenting you and not hitting on you. Unless that's something you might be interested in...? :bigsmile: JUST KIDDING!. :laugh:

    Peace. :flowerforyou:
  • Karleyyy
    Karleyyy Posts: 857
    "Pretty" doesn't have a sexual connotation. "Hot," "smokin," "sexy," etc. do.
    Why do people, women especially, refuse to take a compliment without thinking there must be an ulterior motive.
    I'm 64. When I tell a lady that I think she's pretty, that's all I mean.
    Over the last decade or so, some women connote sexual meaning to that.
    Why?
    So, If I were to say,
    "You're pretty, but not 'hot', 'sexy', or 'smoking',"
    That would still be a compliment?????
    Sure doesn't sound like one.
    Consequently, it sound like us guys just need to keep compliments to ourselves.

    No, that isn't it at all. I get what they are saying about how it could come off as creepy, but it wouldn't necessarily need to be said.
  • Johnnyswife
    Johnnyswife Posts: 1,447 Member
    If its a straight up compliment, I say thank you and do a happy dance in my head. If they are acting like a creeper and adding other stuff, than I go for the taser.

    Let me say, everyone on here is lovely, beautiful, handsome, hot, pretty, cute. Pick which one you like. :flowerforyou:
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    I'd be flattered too...but I guess it depends how they say it...if you're working your *kitten* off...& you get compliments of how you look just take 'em kindly...it doesn't necessarily mean more than just a form of flattery..& as a woman if I get compliments from another woman I'll still feel flattered


    I value my compliments from women even more.
    Sometimes I feel like life can be one big competition to be hotter than the next girl.
    But when they tell me I look good, it feels great!
  • NobodyKnows
    NobodyKnows Posts: 764 Member
    I think giving and receiving compliments are great.
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