Mean people on MFP
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Interesting that two posters who have been consistently mean to me have posted on this thread!
I just really want to know why you're impersonating a professor by stealing his photo to use as your profile. I think others wonder the same.
OP - You can report them to the moderators, but that's about it. Don't engage, report, ignore and move on. On internet forums, you're always going to find people who offend you and people who are genuine douches, and you can't control how they act, only how you react.0 -
QueenBishOTUniverse wrote: »What's always amusing to me is what does and does not get strikes or now flags. In the previous system I had a warning and no strikes and the warning was for posting a thread that I thought was hysterical but I knew when I posted it I would get dinged for it, I did it anyways, because it was funny. But I never got in trouble for my responses to other users in the forums.
With the new system I have ONE flag, and that was from a user (probably somebody in this thread) and they did it as a joke because I was being silly complaining about the fact that I didn't have any flags and everyone else did....
Now, I'm usually pretty blunt. I've gotten in to plenty of arguments with people on here when I disagree with what they have to say and have no problem taking someone to task if I think the advise they are giving someone is bad or wrong. I could have easily made the same comment my friend did but probably wouldn't have even gotten a warning for it....
It's just funny how different people's perception of what constitutes mean can be. I think I'm fairly blunt and often snarky, but clearly something about the way I present my opinions doesn't ruffle feathers quite as much as some other people. Maybe I should try harder.....
if you get three flags do you get banned? i am clueless as to the new rules...
No, right now it's still based on the old rules, mods have to agree with the complaint to issue a warning or strike. It looked like warnings and strikes are now the same thing though.
so a flag is neither a warning or a strike?
Nope, just an alert to the mods that you pissed someone off.0 -
People do that. I just laugh at them and if its good enough I copy it to my status so all my MFP friends can laugh with me.0
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QueenBishOTUniverse wrote: »What's always amusing to me is what does and does not get strikes or now flags. In the previous system I had a warning and no strikes and the warning was for posting a thread that I thought was hysterical but I knew when I posted it I would get dinged for it, I did it anyways, because it was funny. But I never got in trouble for my responses to other users in the forums.
With the new system I have ONE flag, and that was from a user (probably somebody in this thread) and they did it as a joke because I was being silly complaining about the fact that I didn't have any flags and everyone else did....
Now, I'm usually pretty blunt. I've gotten in to plenty of arguments with people on here when I disagree with what they have to say and have no problem taking someone to task if I think the advise they are giving someone is bad or wrong. I could have easily made the same comment my friend did but probably wouldn't have even gotten a warning for it....
It's just funny how different people's perception of what constitutes mean can be. I think I'm fairly blunt and often snarky, but clearly something about the way I present my opinions doesn't ruffle feathers quite as much as some other people. Maybe I should try harder.....
if you get three flags do you get banned? i am clueless as to the new rules...
No, right now it's still based on the old rules, mods have to agree with the complaint to issue a warning or strike. It looked like warnings and strikes are now the same thing though.
so a flag is neither a warning or a strike?
Nope, just an alert to the mods that you pissed someone off.
Yup, and moderators have ALSO stated that they will be keeping an eye on people who are using the flagging system as a way of "getting back" at people they don't like. So people who get flag happy are, at the very least, likely going to get ignored by the mods for crying wolf one too many times.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »People do that. I just laugh at them and if its good enough I copy it to my status so all my MFP friends can laugh with me.
You copy the pm?0 -
yopeeps025 wrote: »People do that. I just laugh at them and if its good enough I copy it to my status so all my MFP friends can laugh with me.
You copy the pm?
Yup, I've seen a few people on my FL copy PM's they've gotten from irate users to their walls to laugh. Also pervy PM's
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its funny, you know how you can see your flags right, i have one abuse flag, and no idea what it is for. cant imagine what it could even be for... but there is no apparent way to know. so how helpful is that if someone cant see what is the offending behavior and thus change it.0
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My 2¢ If they just did it on the forum and were mean, suck it up, block them and move on.
Now, if they went out of their way to be douchey in a private message, that's another thing. That is OBVIOUSLY being mean/rude and I would report them and block them and maybe even copy the message into the forum post.
I see a lot of "mean people threads", and often it's that text is taken out of context to how the person who "said" it, meant it to come across. A lot of people think I'm sweet but a lot of people think I'm mean. Text sucks that way.![:\](https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
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How do you see your flags? I'm tempted to flag myself just to see what it does...0
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FaylinaMeir wrote: »My 2¢ If they just did it on the forum and were mean, suck it up, block them and move on.
Now, if they went out of their way to be douchey in a private message, that's another thing. That is OBVIOUSLY being mean/rude and I would report them and block them and maybe even copy the message into the forum post.
I see a lot of "mean people threads", and often it's that text is taken out of context to how the person who "said" it, meant it to come across. A lot of people think I'm sweet but a lot of people think I'm mean. Text sucks that way.
Copying the message into a forum post is against the rules and will (ironically) get you into more trouble than the person who sent the message. Friend's feed is one thing, but I wouldn't advise posting it on the forum.
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FaylinaMeir wrote: »My 2¢ If they just did it on the forum and were mean, suck it up, block them and move on.
Now, if they went out of their way to be douchey in a private message, that's another thing. That is OBVIOUSLY being mean/rude and I would report them and block them and maybe even copy the message into the forum post.
I see a lot of "mean people threads", and often it's that text is taken out of context to how the person who "said" it, meant it to come across. A lot of people think I'm sweet but a lot of people think I'm mean. Text sucks that way.
Except pasting PMs into the forums is actually against the guidelines. It'd just be better to block the person and move on.
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The only way I know is to look at your posts, the flags show up. I was pretty sure I'd get mine for posting about flags on a page where someone was obviously flag-happy, so I was looking out for it. You can go to your profile to see how many you have.SkepticalOwl wrote: »How do you see your flags? I'm tempted to flag myself just to see what it does...0 -
It's just the internet. Cripes. Read, shrug, delete, move on.0
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Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
Ah. Can they still report the pm though?0 -
Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
Ah. Can they still report the pm though?
They can copy it into a PM to a Mod, yes.0 -
Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
Ah. Can they still report the pm though?
They can copy it into a PM to a Mod, yes.
Thank you. I was wondering how that worked
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If they're not willing to say it on the thread then they should not say it. I think that person might have just wanted to be an @ss and took it out on you. Sorry about that - there are a lot of jerks out there.-1
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SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »It's just the internet. Cripes. Read, shrug, delete, move on.
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Liftng4Lis wrote: »SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »It's just the internet. Cripes. Read, shrug, delete, move on.
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Dear OP,
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People on here aren't mean. But, a few people are pretty lame.0
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I mostly meant the nonsense trolling.0
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Block them, ignore them, or just do not respond to them. I am here to support you when you fall down; I'll encourage you to stay in the fight, and I sure as heck won't shoot down your approach. Although a lot is understood on metabolism and such, there is still so much to learn from many approaches out there. If an approach fails to achieve the desired results, we can at least know what it actually does achieve. I wish you the best of success. If it doesn't work, try something else, but never ever stop ...-1
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QueenBishOTUniverse wrote: »What's always amusing to me is what does and does not get strikes or now flags. In the previous system I had a warning and no strikes and the warning was for posting a thread that I thought was hysterical but I knew when I posted it I would get dinged for it, I did it anyways, because it was funny. But I never got in trouble for my responses to other users in the forums.
With the new system I have ONE flag, and that was from a user (probably somebody in this thread) and they did it as a joke because I was being silly complaining about the fact that I didn't have any flags and everyone else did....
Now, I'm usually pretty blunt. I've gotten in to plenty of arguments with people on here when I disagree with what they have to say and have no problem taking someone to task if I think the advise they are giving someone is bad or wrong. I could have easily made the same comment my friend did but probably wouldn't have even gotten a warning for it....
It's just funny how different people's perception of what constitutes mean can be. I think I'm fairly blunt and often snarky, but clearly something about the way I present my opinions doesn't ruffle feathers quite as much as some other people. Maybe I should try harder.....
if you get three flags do you get banned? i am clueless as to the new rules...
No, right now it's still based on the old rules, mods have to agree with the complaint to issue a warning or strike. It looked like warnings and strikes are now the same thing though.
so a flag is neither a warning or a strike?
Nope, just an alert to the mods that you pissed someone off.
My mere presence just does that to some. *snickers*
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OP, I don't know you, and I don't know what thread you posted on, or who messaged you. I'm one who's known for being extremely supportive- but at the same time, there are times I'm downright blunt. There are people who think I'm mean, queen *kitten*, and my mere existence just pisses them off. BUT, I don't hide. Whatever I've got to say, I say it right out in the open. Anyone who's going to hide in PM and send you hate mail, isn't worth your time. Delete, ignore, move on. Not worth your time. Trust me, it's nothing I'd be losing any sleep over.-3
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OP, I don't know you, and I don't know what thread you posted on, or who messaged you. I'm one who's known for being extremely supportive- but at the same time, there are times I'm downright blunt. There are people who think I'm mean, queen *kitten*, and my mere existence just pisses them off. BUT, I don't hide. Whatever I've got to say, I say it right out in the open. Anyone who's going to hide in PM and send you hate mail, isn't worth your time. Delete, ignore, move on. Not worth your time. Trust me, it's nothing I'd be losing any sleep over.
Wow. I can't believe you got flagged for the above. I hope people are aware that the mods are going to be taking into account those that flag posts just to flag the person.
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I wish you could meet some of my MFP friends then... they are some of the nicest people online I've ever met online
You can add me and my friends at any time. We are here to motivate... not hate! 0
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