Are you about to ask the forums why you aren't losing weight?! Read This First!

jessiruthica wrote: »

The root reason is not CICO. Yes, that's the physical reason that they gained weight, but there can be so much emotion behind eating, everything up to and including clinical depression. Many many times a person needs to address both the physical aspects of becoming healthier along with the mental/emotional aspects. To the poster who said she was learning how NOT to eat emotionally, that's as much of an important step as learning to eat healthier options.

There can be a lot behind why people over eat but most cases it's because we like the taste and don't want to stop...that's why I was fat.

I love food...hated exercise.

I still love food but love my exercise and learned about "portion control" and that I don't have to stop eating the food I love just less of it...

I suspect most people here are quite similar to me...just like food.

As someone who finds themselves now needing to lose around 130 pounds because they tricked themselves into blaming everything and everyone but herself, I have to say thank you for this post. It's honestly probably the most true thing I've ever seen posted.

I suffered from undiagnosed depression for years. Worked in foodservice. Food was an easy direction for me to turn to without having to admit to anyone - including myself - that I had a problem. When I finally, FINALLY came to and realized what I had done to myself, I was 15 pounds away from 300 and couldn't walk to the front door of a grocery store from my car without getting winded.

Now that I've finally taken responsibility for what I (and no one and nothing else) has done to myself, I log everything. Even the bad stuff, from the mini-sized pack of Whoppers from the office candy jar to a whoppin' piece of cake with cream cheese frosting - and even the few ounces of sweet tea my server accidentally gave me at dinner instead of unsweet. EVERYTHING.

The TRUE starting point (and the real way you know you're serious about losing weight) is when you realize that it's time to take responsibility for where you are.

Brilliant post!

Tbaby1514 wrote: »

gamesandgains wrote: »

Best post of the day. People need to hear the facts and get a little tough love sometimes. Bravo, OP.

I'm glad you saw it as tough love, and not me beating up on people! I was afraid it was going to get misinterpreted.

It looks like this thread has received at least one flag, which is astonishing.

One thing that you didn't address (perhaps because it is only tangential) is that many of the people who post the "why am I not losing weight?" threads are 1. Underage and should be on SparkTeen. 2. Underweight. I've seen a LOT of threads started by 15-17 year old girls lately and people who are pounds away from being underweight.

hmmm... never thought to try the yoga pants excuse angle.... I'm diggin it

bla bla bla bla.Its funny that you actually wasted your time creating this condescending thread.Why don`t you just mind your own business and worry about yourself

^^^ and there it is

Atkins800 wrote: »

bla bla bla bla.Its funny that you actually wasted your time creating this condescending thread.Why don`t you just mind your own business and worry about yourself

Tbaby1514 wrote: »

Atkins800 wrote: »

bla bla bla bla.Its funny that you actually wasted your time creating this condescending thread.Why don`t you just mind your own business and worry about yourself

LADIES AND GENTLEMEN! WE HAVE FOUND THE SNOWFLAKE! Congratulations Atkins, you are the first person to get pissed off enough to say something! It's not condescending, it's the truth, being posted by a fellow fatty who was once in those shoes. I see in the 5 seconds that your post was up it was flagged more than my post which has been viewed by almost 2,000 people in the last 6 hours it's been up. I think we know who the general population agrees with, stop deflecting.

How can someone with such a cute profile pic (Atkins)----be such a _______________well, you know what. Maybe she needs friends. As you can see by the kudos, the rest of us agree with the OP. Good going OP.

I was in denial, buying L, XL, too XXL, " I am not too fat" gross self deception! Portion sizes just got bigger, 2 slices pizza became one large pizza! stress craves carbs! Plain stupidity, and lack of self love/respect! and excuses! BMI 33.6 I am in the obese range class1, just calculated it! and WRONG focus! GOD please help me get healthy and reach my healthy weight. 28-10-2014, 10:20pm.

loved this. Great post. Excuses like them annoy me to.

Great post!! I just wish there was a way for the majority to counter-act the flags of the minority. This post deserves to stay posted.

Ok, it's later in the day and I've had some caffeine, so now I can formulate a response. OP, I do not necessarily disagree with your line of reasoning, as pretty much everything you said has been said on these boards many times in regard to weight gain. However, I disagree that this is "tough love."

To me, tough love is giving someone a harsh or uncomfortable truth for the purpose of specifically helping that person. This post came across to me like someone yelling "hey fatty, eating too much is why you're fat" at another person from a car window. While the message itself is (generally with the exception of medical conditions) correct, broadcasting it out to the community at large out of nowhere is a bit awkward. But I'm also not really a "big announcement to the masses" type of person unless there is a specific and timely discussion on the boards which would prompt such a post anyway.