Dating age difference

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  • southernbuttercup
    southernbuttercup Posts: 61 Member
    My husband is 12 years younger, but we suprisingly have a lot in common and most importantly the same sense of humor. Helps you get through life's challenges. I'm 46 and he's 34. When I was dating I also had dated older. I probably wouldn't date too much further than 12 years either way. If I'm talking about something I wouldn't want to be with a man who, for example, who never heard of eight track tapes, someone who I'd have to explain things to like I'm ancient history. On the other end of the spectrum, I wouldn't want someone so much older I felt like their daughter. Just my preferences.
  • meeyuh
    meeyuh Posts: 38 Member
    Boyfriend is 11 years older. Age doesn't generally come up unless we're watching a movie, and one of us points out I wasn't born yet. :p I've dated older and younger. No matter to me as long as we get along and stay happy with each other!
  • whitehorse67
    whitehorse67 Posts: 101 Member
    Age is just a number....as long as it's a LEGAL number! lol...It's definitely all about the connection! Maturity level and how the person you are with treats you.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    kshadows wrote: »
    mjtunney wrote: »
    Reading back on this, I had to chuckle. If the biggest age differences I've been with were in the same room together, there ages would have the same #s but reversed (27 and 72).

    Here's the question asked a different way, and see who thinks I am dirty old man after this...... What do you think about someone who is dating someone younger than their oldest child?

    I wonder about this too! My dad is 66 but my oldest brother is 44... it's feasible that he could date a woman who was younger than that... that might weird me out. If one of my parents was dating someone MY age, I think I'd die. lol
    It might feel weird at first, but if it's a good match I think people would get used to it.

    My friend's husband is married to a man 30 years older. She's younger than I am and he's five months older than my mother. He has two adult children from his first marriage. They're younger than his wife, but not by much, and they all get along really well.

    My friends just had a baby of their own, too. She's just over a year. They're a great couple and very much in love.

  • RavenLibra
    RavenLibra Posts: 1,737 Member
    There's a disconnect between chronological age and maturity levels... ALSO... I think using years as a metric is overlooking the pertinent math... a 30 year old dating a 20 year old is dating someone 33% younger... a 40 year old dating a 30 year old is dating someone 25% younger... and a 50 year old dating a 40 year old is dating someone 20% younger... there is ONLY a 10 year difference in all cases.. and yet... within that a 13 % gap between the oldest group and the youngest... SO.. this discussion would be more relevant if you were discussing the percentage gap in any given age range...

    and at 50.. I would date up to 7 years older... and maybe 15 years younger... but that "young lady" would need to be very intelligent and have her *kitten* together.. JUST to date me...
  • RavenLibra
    RavenLibra Posts: 1,737 Member
    and that older lady... well sh'ed need to deal with a lot of my cr*p ... and at some stage .. literally :#
  • BrianSharpe
    BrianSharpe Posts: 9,248 Member
    Didn't read all the replies but Charles Manson (80) is marrying a 26 years old........no daddy issues there.

    Back on topic, I'm 11 years older than my wife.........
  • seththealmighty
    seththealmighty Posts: 51 Member
    No age limits here. While you could reply with "so you would date a 12 yr old?"; I would just say that there is no way I would ever attain feelings for a 12 yr old, so that doesn't come into play.

    I went from dating girls 5 years younger to me, to dating a women 7 years older. I guess you could say I cheated though, because they looked 18 even though they were almost 30. lol
  • T1DCarnivoreRunner
    T1DCarnivoreRunner Posts: 11,502 Member
    draznyth wrote: »
    Females date upward in age, males date downward. It is the way of things.

    That seems to be tradition, but I'm not sure why. Maybe it is because women often mature earlier than men (in my experience)? Regardless, I often prefer older women, but if a younger woman is mature enough, then that is alright.
  • whitehorse67
    whitehorse67 Posts: 101 Member
    Suz_8589 wrote: »
    I've always dated older, Way older in my opinion. I was 16 he was 26? And another relationship when I was 18 and he was 32. And my last one I was 24 and he was 37. Lol age is just a number but also none of these relationships worked out so maybe I need to date my own age again lol

    I would say it's not the age difference, you just have not found "the one" yet. Since my divorce, I have dated younger, older and same age range. I have just not found that certain woman that is my perfect match. I would also say that I was not a perfect match for them as well, or maybe it would have worked out.

    Just remain open minded like you are and you will find him :)

  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,961 Member
    For me at a 25 yr old female, I looked for 2 years younger/5 years older. My boyfriend is 1 year younger than me. Which oddly seems to be the trend in my friends.
  • MaxPower0102
    MaxPower0102 Posts: 2,654 Member
    It's Manson.... I don't think her issues are just Daddy issues
  • BrianSharpe
    BrianSharpe Posts: 9,248 Member
    mjtunney wrote: »
    It's Manson.... I don't think her issues are just Daddy issues
    True.....

  • mz_getskinny
    mz_getskinny Posts: 258 Member
    Since I've been an adult I have always preferred men in their 30s. When I'm 50 I still might prefer men in their 30s ;)
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I'm 38 and married -- if I were single right now I'd probably be seeking men in the 28-44 range, but wouldn't rule out someone a bit outside of that range. I just have always tended to date/marry younger men and have more in common with men who are my age or close to it.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    Reading back on this, I had to chuckle. If the biggest age differences I've been with were in the same room together, there ages would have the same #s but reversed (27 and 72).

    Here's the question asked a different way, and see who thinks I am dirty old man after this...... What do you think about someone who is dating someone younger than their oldest child?

    my parents are in their late 40s and if either one of them dated someone my age or younger I would be very repulsed
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
    edited November 2014
    salembambi wrote: »
    Reading back on this, I had to chuckle. If the biggest age differences I've been with were in the same room together, there ages would have the same #s but reversed (27 and 72).

    Here's the question asked a different way, and see who thinks I am dirty old man after this...... What do you think about someone who is dating someone younger than their oldest child?

    my parents are in their late 40s and if either one of them dated someone my age or younger I would be very repulsed

    You may be repulsed. I try to think of Auntie Mame saying "Live! Life's a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death!"

  • malavika413
    malavika413 Posts: 474 Member
    It's hard enough to find interested people, so I'm not going to add an age limit as well. Why would I deny anyone based on age, attractiveness, etc?
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    For me, personally, I like someone of a similar age - like at least within the same generation. It's nice to share the same pop culture references and inside jokes, to have a shared experience of being in a similar stage of development at the same point in time - it's a shared context/frame of reference kind of thing. But that's just me...
  • gwb77
    gwb77 Posts: 46 Member
    Age is just a number.
  • MrsBooBear
    MrsBooBear Posts: 12,618 Member
    I'm married but if I were dating, He would have to be late 20's+
  • dkewatson
    dkewatson Posts: 1,415 Member
    gwb77 wrote: »
    Age is just a number.

    True, but at some point there are legal ramifications. Just sayin' :)
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
    jenilla1 wrote: »
    For me, personally, I like someone of a similar age - like at least within the same generation. It's nice to share the same pop culture references and inside jokes, to have a shared experience of being in a similar stage of development at the same point in time - it's a shared context/frame of reference kind of thing. But that's just me...

    I understand that... I also enjoy many friends of different ages that offer different perspectives. Some I adore in a more romantically inclined way because they share the same intense passion about something that is important to me, it could be something like music, reading - even though it might be a different genre.
    If we both share the same idea on how to live life, well... I'm quite happy. :)

  • sunglasses_and_ocean_waves
    sunglasses_and_ocean_waves Posts: 2,757 Member
    edited November 2014
    salembambi wrote: »
    Reading back on this, I had to chuckle. If the biggest age differences I've been with were in the same room together, there ages would have the same #s but reversed (27 and 72).

    Here's the question asked a different way, and see who thinks I am dirty old man after this...... What do you think about someone who is dating someone younger than their oldest child?

    my parents are in their late 40s and if either one of them dated someone my age or younger I would be very repulsed

    I get the impression you'd be repulsed by birds singing and babies laughing. :wink: Seriously, at some point you need to grow up and hope your parents are happy. If dating someone much younger makes them smile, maybe you could just be happy for someone you love.
  • I'm 19. It's a tricky age to date! I never go older than 23-24, just because guys 25 and older are typically looking for something more serious than I am. I also don't date more than one year younger than myself. (I'm a sophomore in college.. two years younger than me is high school! Yikes!)

    Once I'm 24-25, guys up to about 32 will be fair game, I think. Still no one more than a couple years younger, though.

    These rules have never applied to one-night things, though. If they're attractive (and over 18), who cares?
  • TechNerd42
    TechNerd42 Posts: 225 Member
    I was 19 when I met my husband, 21 when we married. He is 22 years older than I am. I have found, however, that the ages of people I am attracted to has expanded downward a bit, but not too much (30s at the youngest now) although I've grown older. Guess this means that once husband kicks it, I'll become a cougar, because I'll be 50 or 60 and the guys I'm attracted to will still be close to 40. :)
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    salembambi wrote: »
    Reading back on this, I had to chuckle. If the biggest age differences I've been with were in the same room together, there ages would have the same #s but reversed (27 and 72).

    Here's the question asked a different way, and see who thinks I am dirty old man after this...... What do you think about someone who is dating someone younger than their oldest child?

    my parents are in their late 40s and if either one of them dated someone my age or younger I would be very repulsed

    I get the impression you'd be repulsed by birds singing and babies laughing. :wink: Seriously, at some point you need to grow up and hope your parents are happy. If dating someone much younger makes them smile, maybe you could just be happy for someone you love.

    the thought of my parents dating someone my own age is very triggering to me

    for reasons that are none of your business

    do not assume to know me or my life experiences.I said what I said and have the reaction I do to that for a very very valid reason


    Btw my parents are currently happy dating people their own ages
  • 365andstillalive
    365andstillalive Posts: 663 Member
    So long as everyone is a consenting adult, I'm happy.

    There's 9 years between my SO and I, and we've been going strong for around 2.5 years, living together for 2 of that.

    I've found many of my friends were more judgmental than his over the age gap, which I've always found somewhat surprising.
  • SwashBlogger
    SwashBlogger Posts: 395 Member
    Dating? I say just keep it legal. I personally have not been attracted to younger men, but up to 20 years older is good. However, if you are wanting to start a family, there are more things to consider regarding age.
  • 13shark77
    13shark77 Posts: 65 Member
    That sounds about right if you want to consider starting a family.
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