How do you deal with someone else's very wrong concepts of weightloss?

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  • blktngldhrt
    blktngldhrt Posts: 1,053 Member
    elphie754 wrote: »
    I really appreciate everyone's advice. I think I may just bring it up next shift and say "hey, I get you have a personal trainer and I think that is awesome, and I enjoy hearing about the workouts (which I do, they give me ideas) but can we make complaining about the scale an off limit topic? It has been bothering me lately" and see what they say.

    Also I am using gender neutral pronouns for a reason :).

    Complaining..is it a female? J/k

    I would just word drop things like bmr and tdee in regards to yourself and what you're doing for a deficit. Maybe they'll get curious and look it up. I like to avoid confrontation in work environments so I wouldn't tell anyone that they're complaining..but to each their own.
  • NikonPal
    NikonPal Posts: 1,346 Member
    re: How do you deal with someone else's very wrong concepts of weightloss?

    I say nothing unless asked.

    If asked, I mention MFP
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    MrM27 wrote: »
    In real life, I just smile and say okay unless they specifically are asking me for advice.


    Here, well........We all know how it goes.

    that is what I do …

    my friends GF is always complaining about too much sugar is bad and you will gain weight if you are eating sugar and bla bla bla….I just smile and nod my head ….easier then getting into a huge debate..

    OP - I would just leave it be and let your progress speak for itself. Maybe this person will notice you are progressing faster and ask you how you are doing it …then you can give a reasoned response….
  • KimofTas
    KimofTas Posts: 48 Member
    obscuremusicreference wrote: »
    Smile, nod, then complain about how you have to buy new pants again and you're glad you saved money on a trainer.

    LOL. Terrific response. Like another poster said, don't make it your problem. OR you could mysteriously become one of those ppl who talk about nothing else but their weight loss, how great it is, how much weight you're losing and do it while talking fair over the top of the other guy.

    It will probably be so irritating to them not being heard by you, that they'll shut up about their own weight stuff.

  • mizzzc
    mizzzc Posts: 346 Member
    oh lord. I remember this girl who was trying to become my trainer at my current gym told me i'm not allowed to eat bananas because they have too much sugar and I shouldn't count calories. I need to just eat lots of "good carbs." In her exact words:

    "Ya I don't believe in counting calories..... You should try and eat only good carbs.....What is a typical day for eating? Oh ya you shouldn't be putting half a banana in your protein shake that has wayyy to much sugar and contributes to you not losing weight"

    I just laughed. - Trainers are meant for exercise not diet!

    OP just let it ride out on their own - or if you cant stand it just be blunt. Not sure what else to say but i had some very wrong ideas about health and weight loss and I learned on my own in my own way. o:)
  • cindytw
    cindytw Posts: 1,027 Member
    I have had this situation happen to me with a close friend. I was eating one way, she wasn't and had a lot of issues on her end. I told her about what I was doing, she went on her own way, dismissively at that, and then one day she decided it was for her because she read a book. Now she is like she did this all the time and its the greatest thing ever, even though I was at this 4 years ago. I just smile and nod now. But if she were to challenge me on something, well, that would be something entirely different.
  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    We had a pretty open an non-volatile conversation about it before work last night. They actually appologized and said they didn't realize they were annoying me lol. I casually mentioned CICO and they said they were going to give the advice they were getting another month, and if no change, try CICO. I simply said okay and if they need an app to track that, I know of a good one.

    Seems like the issue got put to rest. Although they were curious if I had enough of the brownie I brought to work to share LOL (which I always bring a few servings of if I bake so a) they are out of the house and b) I can brag tha GF brownies Re just as awesome).
  • cincysweetheart
    cincysweetheart Posts: 892 Member
    Yup… I have a co-worker like that! Either she is a complete idiot and misunderstood every word her trainer said… or her trainer was a complete idiot. I tried for a time to correct her… or at least put what her trainer said in the proper context…. but that got me nowhere. I stopped saying anything at all. I just let my results do all the talking for me. I only talk when she asks a specific question related to what I'm doing. She still doesn't listen to me because she doesn't want to hear that she has to eat less calories than she burns…. but 109 pounds later...she stops trying to tell me I don't know anything either!
  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    cincysweetheart wrote: »
    Yup… I have a co-worker like that! Either she is a complete idiot and misunderstood every word her trainer said… or her trainer was a complete idiot. I tried for a time to correct her… or at least put what her trainer said in the proper context…. but that got me nowhere. I stopped saying anything at all. I just let my results do all the talking for me. I only talk when she asks a specific question related to what I'm doing. She still doesn't listen to me because she doesn't want to hear that she has to eat less calories than she burns…. but 109 pounds later...she stops trying to tell me I don't know anything either!

    That's good they stopped but I feel bad that they dismiss advice that obviously worked for you. Thankfully my co-worker was very receptive to what I had to say.
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    elphie754 wrote: »
    We had a pretty open an non-volatile conversation about it before work last night. They actually appologized and said they didn't realize they were annoying me lol. I casually mentioned CICO and they said they were going to give the advice they were getting another month, and if no change, try CICO. I simply said okay and if they need an app to track that, I know of a good one.

    Seems like the issue got put to rest. Although they were curious if I had enough of the brownie I brought to work to share LOL (which I always bring a few servings of if I bake so a) they are out of the house and b) I can brag tha GF brownies Re just as awesome).

    RESULT!

    good for you :grinning:
  • sati18
    sati18 Posts: 153 Member
    elphie754 wrote: »
    We had a pretty open an non-volatile conversation about it before work last night. They actually appologized and said they didn't realize they were annoying me lol. I casually mentioned CICO and they said they were going to give the advice they were getting another month, and if no change, try CICO. I simply said okay and if they need an app to track that, I know of a good one.

    Seems like the issue got put to rest. Although they were curious if I had enough of the brownie I brought to work to share LOL (which I always bring a few servings of if I bake so a) they are out of the house and b) I can brag tha GF brownies Re just as awesome).

    Awesome - very well done. Honesty is usually the best policy in situations like this - it's just a struggle sometimes to phrase things in a non confrontational way. you obviously nailed that one if they apologised to you!

  • Whiskeytub
    Whiskeytub Posts: 96 Member
    Personal anecdotes - instead of saying "cuz urdoinitrong" I will say "Well, what worked for me is..." or "I've noticed that when I don't lose weight it's because..." and they can take that as advice or choose not to listen.
  • WalkingAlong
    WalkingAlong Posts: 4,926 Member
    Yeah, the whole "you're doing it wrong" attitude is offensive to people. It's why this place is so volatile. You may as well be telling someone they picked a mate wrong or a religion wrong. Diet's a personal thing, for some reason. It's kind of funny how sensitive we are about it.
  • jackjackattck
    jackjackattck Posts: 117 Member
    obscuremusicreference wrote: »
    Smile, nod, then complain about how you have to buy new pants again and you're glad you saved money on a trainer.

    This is my favorite response! It is honestly them missing out, not you. If that person wants to spend tons of money on a trainer and yet ruin it all with too many calories, then they won't see results and will fail in the end.. and you win. I understand it may be annoying, but in the long run, if you are losing weight and this person is not, who cares? Tune it out and laugh it off in your head!

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