People just don't get it...

TavistockToad wrote: »

Each to their own... I run so I can eat burgers!

me too. but GOOD burgers. not white castle. that stuff is real crap.

KLGreenNYC wrote: »

Your friends' argument that you could just "run off the burgers" is not a helpful one. It sounds like you're on a journey to be healthier, and to live your life according to habits of health. It's not just about losing weight. So, yeah, you could run some extra miles to work off the sliders, but you'd still be putting that disgusting White Castle grease into your body! You've chosen not to, and I congratulate you for it. You're on a path to long-lasting health, and if your friends don't support you on it, then I feel sorry for them.

Ah... the "I'm better then you " attitude ceases to amaze me. I doubt his friends need your sympathy.

It isn't their journey, it's yours. Go with them and have fun and eat your lunch. Eat what YOU want. Let them laugh... this is about you. As long as you're eating healthy while still enjoying, then who cares?

I generally just associate with people when it is convenient for me. I have a relationship with my girlfriend and the kids, but beyond that, I am in school and am training for a spartan race (races, rather). Friends take time, mental energy, and use up resources that are limited as it is.

Having said that, you need to consider if you want to have that space for friends that do not understand your perspective. Friends are people in our lives that enrich our lives, but they still take effort, time, money, physical energy and brain power to upkeep. If they make you feel guilty, then why have that negativity in your life?

As for me, Meetup is my friend. If I want to do something, I just find a group that also wants to do that something. Easy and convenient. When I watch sports, I go to the bar to cheer on my teams with other people. When I want to play some soccer, I find a pickup soccer game to go to. So on and so forth. Don't have to care what they are doing with their life, and I don't have to share what I am doing with my life. We are there to watch sports or play sports. That's it. No guilt trip allowed. I do have one or two people I consider friends, but only because I share some very unique interests with them and we get along well. I don't vibe with a lot of people I come across, so naturally I don't have a lot of friends. But most of the time, I just don't want to put in the effort described above in the previous paragraph.

This is just my perspective. I am not lonely or unhappy by any means. I just have other stuff I like doing than making and maintaining friendships, and creating social pressures for myself. I have an awesome quality of life without added stress of other people. I have an awesome and hot girlfriend, 4 kids that I adore and am helping grow, an education to nurture, and hobbies that I get involved in when I choose to and have time to. So just consider that. You are venting because you are a good deal peeved by this pass of guilt. You said it is a pattern with this group. So you have to decide if that is something you can deal with.

Good job on your feats thus far. Aroo!

brain328 wrote: »

beavislong wrote: »

My friends were all going to White Castle today(insert any restaurant on any given day) and were giving me grief for not joining them. I looked at the nutrtition and was like no way. It is horrible there. I can eat my homemade low sodium soup, my veggies and my orange and have 5 times as much food for less than the calories of two sliders not to mention the nutrition benefits. They are like well you can run an extra few miles tonight. Yes, I could but I already have 9 miles planned as a part of my marathon training.



Sorry just ranting. Stay vigilant friends!

Try to convince them to go somewhere healthy, and get them on the wagon with you

Ah no. Then he is doing to them exactly what he is complaining about. Its about him and his choices. They shouldn't guilt him, although I don't see what is wrong with going and not eating or getting something small, but on the other hand he shouldn't be trying to guilt them either.

OMG I know just how you feel. I loathe people trying to push food on me. If I say no, that's my choice. I don't tell other ppl what to eat, and I don't owe anyone any excuses. If I must, in order not to make a scene at work, I'll take something in order to shut them up and then just throw it away. No way in h#ll am I going to a fast food place with anyone. If it's actually my company they want, we can go shoot pool or something that's not centered around greasy crap that would literally take up my entire day's calories.

I doubt a place like White Castle will mind if you bring your homemade lunch along. No reason not to go and be sociable. Non fast food places tend to be more strict, but often have soup and salads as well.

beavislong wrote: »

MrM27 wrote: »

Out of curiosity. Are you overweight or have been overweight?

Yes, by the books I am still overweight. I have lost nearly 40 pounds in the last few years and 15 in the last three months. I am getting close to an acceptible range. I plan to sport a six pack by the end of summer and qualify for the Boston Marathon.

If you are just starting out on your weight loss journey I know how pesky this can be. The determination you have to start the journey and see results very soon is a bit frustrating.

When you start making some strides in your goals, you can work on going out to lunch and dinner with your co workers and family as long as you plan for it.

When I started losing and seeing results happen I realized that I could or did not have to resist every calorie forever. I needed to work in lunches and diners out so I could enjoy life. Everyone else around me was, I just needed to plan for and if it was last minute work on the anxiety part of it and still allow my self enjoyment!

The closest White Castle to me is 3 hours away. Maybe that's a good thing since I'm trying to lose weight because my butt would be there all the time.