What is the worst thing about being fat?

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  • Dolce_xxv
    Dolce_xxv Posts: 15 Member
    Cloths being able to dress the way you want, looking the way you want. Also depends where you live or go, where I'm from it's all about what type of cloths you wear, how you look, everyone works out and are so into them selfs (how sad) but unfortunately they don't take big ppl seriously. Also depending on jobs. Damn people today are so materialistic and shallow !
  • zidine100
    zidine100 Posts: 23 Member
    edited February 2015
    That feeling you get when you just cant fit into your clothes anymore. Or chafing, by god the chafing couldn't walk more than three miles without my inner thighs feeling like they were on fire. (thankfully neither one is a problem anymore, went a 11 mile walk today and boom no chafing) That and how much it costs to eat, seriously i was spending about £5-10 on snacks alone. Wow i cant decide whats the worst and i could go on and on but i'll refrain.
  • mjrkearney
    mjrkearney Posts: 408 Member
    Ever having anyone think that I'm fat.

    I'm not fat. I'm me. Know the difference.
  • andympanda
    andympanda Posts: 763 Member
    Change1992 wrote: »
    I think for me, like other people have said, its the dropping out of fun, social events because of how embarrassed I am of my size. Plus, there's normally always someone with a camera!

    Now I can;t to yo fun event with food because i am afraid i will go over my calorie count.
  • andympanda
    andympanda Posts: 763 Member
    whoops can't spell today, cant go to fun events with food because i am afraid i will go over my calorie count. I won't even go out to dinner at anyone's house or a restaurant because of temptation.
  • •Shame related to size
    •Dependency on food to relieve stress and negative emotions
    •Not being able to fit certain sizes
    •Looking horrid in anything form fitting
    •Feeling selfish for gaining weight
    •Nothing looks right on me
    •Not feeling like myself anymore.

    The last one has got to be the worst, I've never been this big in my life. It's uncomfortable and I'm embarrassed to be seen by anyone who doesn't know how fat I've gotten..:/
  • probably two things for me: seeing myself in pictures with my husband and walking way slower than my students on field trips...I'm not yet where I want to be weight-wise, but I am down two sizes and am starting to fall in love with my body now. I actually take selfies and gladly pose for photos with my husband.
  • Here's mine:

    1. Not having confidence in my looks and being afraid to approach women out of fear that they'll reject me for being too fat.
    2. Shopping. My body is weird in that most dept stores don't have my size but the big and tall stores are either too expensive or have clothes that are too big looking on me.
    3. Family. Weird because I'm probably in better shape than most of them but they seem to love making fun of my weight issues.
    4. Photos. I hate taking pictures and seeing how I look, especially next to skinny people.
    5. Sweating constantly. Even though I'm in decent shape for someone my size I sweat all the time. I may not even be tired but I'll start sweating if I walk too far, even in the winter. People have told me how gross I am when I'm all sweaty in the winter.
  • KungfuPanda14
    KungfuPanda14 Posts: 17 Member
    edited February 2015
    I have so many to add to this list but the one thing that's motivating me at the moment is ;

    it was my grandfathers 90th birthday on Aug 10th (Hes my whole world, he lives in the US and me in the UK, I am very close with him - he even adopted me for two years when I was a child) anyway, I went to see him for his 90th birthday (overseas) and I was too embarrassed to take a picture of just him and I on my phone because I knew I would look fat and ugly. He died on December 17th 2014 and I wish although I have the lovely memory of being with him, I wish I had that picture.
  • southofreason
    southofreason Posts: 10 Member
    smr09012 wrote: »
    Hands down, it's airplane seats. And the look that someone gives you when they're walking down the aisle and they realize they have to sit next to you.

    This. I travel a lot and perpetually have bruises on my thighs from airplane seats.
  • Photos for sure. I hate seeing how fat my face looks...and my arms in sleeveless tops.
  • THEMBE93
    THEMBE93 Posts: 15 Member
    stretch marks, chaffing, dressing rooms , having to pick up clothes with x in the front of the size, lack of confidence when taking pictures or doing any sort of movement because you worry what people will think. doubting yourself in things that don't even have anything to do with your weight. It's a mental game
  • mo2go
    mo2go Posts: 30 Member
    Not being noticed. Feeling heavy and huffing and puffing my way through the day.

    Tinker_and_bash - Sudocreme (spelt badly) but this works wonders. Sold most places but in Boots it will be near the baby section. Protects the skin and helps it mend.
  • Reamellie
    Reamellie Posts: 6 Member
    I am 22 and weigh 268. I try to be active. I run. I do body weight exercises. I love my body. I don't care about looking fat in pictures. I don't care about people calling me a whale on a daily basis.

    I care about people assuming they know what I eat and what i do because of my size.

    "Go shove more cheeseburgers in your mouth, fatty."
    Yeah, well. I won't do that because I'm a vegetarian.

    "You're a lazy fat slob"
    I try to work out five times a week so... No.

    Its just atitating.
  • Reamellie
    Reamellie Posts: 6 Member
    LizN63 wrote: »
    Having your three year old tell you that you have a fat tummy.
    Kids say it as it is.

    They do. My son (aged 3) asked if I had a baby in my tummy, because it was 'quite big'. Now living in dread of him saying it to someone else!
    Yes!! Lol
    One of my students last year had the biggest smile on her face as she said, "ms. Terra, you so fat."

    She didn't mean anything by it but... Ouch lol

  • KeepTheFaith9
    KeepTheFaith9 Posts: 80 Member
    For years:

    I had to ask for a seatbelt extension on flights.

    Couldn't go on many rides when I took my kids to Disney/Universal because I was too fat.

    Stopped going to the beach or in the pool unless I was only with immediate family.

    Couldn't wear a tucked-in shirt.

    And many more.

    All reasons why I feel motivated to keep it off.
  • saraphim41
    saraphim41 Posts: 205 Member
    I guess the absolute worst thing is the premature death attached. Having children, not knowing if you'll live to see them grow up. Remembering my grandmother telling me, "You're digging your grave with your teeth."

    Beyond that, never getting to be what/who you want to be. Never knowing how that feels.
  • Jolinia
    Jolinia Posts: 846 Member
    When your body starts letting you know that there is genuinely something starting to go downhill with your health.
  • cmeher527 wrote: »
    I try to remember these words: "Losing weight is hard...being fat is hard...pick your hard"
    I love this!
    Great words..
  • yusaku02
    yusaku02 Posts: 3,472 Member
    gut pushing my leg away when trying to cut my toenails.

    that was the first time I really noticed how fat I was getting.
  • Makterbro
    Makterbro Posts: 101 Member
    Hating Pictures
    Feeling slugish all the time
    Not being able to do fun things because of my weight
  • chesnity3
    chesnity3 Posts: 960 Member
    Not being comfortable in my own skin and having pictures of everyone else but myself.
  • str1ne
    str1ne Posts: 69 Member
    I looked around in my mid 40's and realized there were very few people my size that were retiring, they had usually died before retirement age. I didn't want that.
  • McEneny
    McEneny Posts: 23 Member
    Feeling like you are letting yourself down because you are not as healthy as you can be.

    Which includes feeling sluggish, hating to take pictures, and avoiding doing stuff where you will really "show off" how out of shape you are.
  • MsBeverleyH
    MsBeverleyH Posts: 99 Member
    All of the above. Plus,

    This just happened to me. Was a real treat:
    At lunch, coworkers and I were discussing my potential allergy to dairy, what my next steps should be about it, etc, then someone who clearly hadn't been paying any attention pipes up saying "if you just go to the gym..."

    I'm so glad that I wouldn't be "allergic to dairy" if I just "went to the gym".
    (Luckily for me, everyone else was quick to defend saying that I do in fact work out every day, that I eat healthy, etc.)
  • mjsmamma
    mjsmamma Posts: 137 Member
    cmeher527 wrote: »
    I try to remember these words: "Losing weight is hard...being fat is hard...pick your hard"

    Love. This. Quote.

    I had been thin growing up (manic exerciser), got fat (got married), got thin (x-said I wasn't worth getting marriage counseling and no one would want me), broke my leg overtraining and got fat, now losing again.

    Being thin is hard. It is hard work. Every day. But being fat is harder. Since I experienced both, it's amazing how different the world treats you; walking into a clothing store thin? Instant help. Walking into same store fat? I must be invisible. I hated that EVERY part of my body got fat. I still look at the skinny clothes I saved and remember how I felt in them. Photos. Ugh. My goal is to lose and keep it off for my daughter's HS graduation (2017) so I can look proud of her AND proud of me in the pics.

    What scared me is that I will be 50 January 2016. I don't want to be fat AND old! I can't do anything about the old but I CAN do something about the fat.

    I am so happy I listened to whatever positive inner voice I heard, and that I ignored the negative inner voice.

    I sincerely wish each and every one of us the power to believe ourselves worthy of taking care of ourselves. And the power to do something to prove it. My beau said something to me; "tell your mind to get out of your bodys' way."

    Try it. Tell your brain to shut up. And let your body do what it knows it can do. I will do it if you will! {{hugs}}
  • LisaMcDonald86
    LisaMcDonald86 Posts: 33 Member
    I also have a list:

    - The way I look in photos.
    - Clothes not fitting properly.
    - Lack of energy when I get home from work.
    - I have whiplash from a recent accident and I think if I was smaller I wouldn't be in so much pain.
    - Not being able to touch my toes.
    - the way I feel about myself.
    - ETC....
  • sljohnson1207
    sljohnson1207 Posts: 818 Member
    Vailara wrote: »
    Knowing that you're being judged. Knowing that people are watching what you eat. Knowing that people think you're lazy, lacking in self-control, a burden on society, etc.

    ^^ So much this!

    Also, just size-ism in general. I have been extremely thin (height of past EDs), healthy weight, overweight, and obese. The judgments from others can be very hard to hear and ignore.

    Now that I'm back into a healthy weight range, I find the size-ism to be almost just as bad as when I was overweight and obese. Before, it was the disgust look, now it's the stink eye. Of course, I don't know why, but I cared when I got the disgust look, but don't care as much if it's the stink eye.

  • slimbettie
    slimbettie Posts: 686 Member
    Missing out on swimming with my son when he was a little boy, because I felt too fat and ashamed of my body. Thought everyone is watching and judging. Bleh! Will never have that time back.
  • Getting tired easily, finding clothes that fit....
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