What is the worst thing about being fat?

StarlaTheTempAtKZUG

This has probably been asked before, but I am new to MFP and I'm interested in meeting some new people, and I thought this might be a good question to ask. I'm sure we will all be able to relate.

For me, it's photos. That's one of the main things that got me here in the first place. An extremely embarrassing photo of me was taken and put up on Facebook. I am closer to the camera (plus all of my friends are skinny), and I look two to three times larger than everyone else.

Would anyone like to share?

fearlessleader104

My issue was that it was getting exhausting to do normal day to day things. I started losing weight because I like myself and want to make my life easier.

bakeraiyana

For me one of the big things is, not being able to wear what I want to wear, or going shopping and seeing things, and thinking "That's cute!"..But too bad I can't wear it." I don't know if it's just me, but sometimes I ask myself, I wonder what it's like to be adverage size or skinny

maccarossi1

Finding nice looking clothes that fit, for blokes at least all clothes that are XXXL and above all seem to just be sloppy and boring so it makes it hard to find something good to wear out.

rjrobert

Having limits on things I can do. I feel like I'm missing out on some of life when I see pictures of people doing adventurous things that require athleticism.

fitgirlrealness

Being made fun of by your own friends and family and not being able to wear the things you want to cause they look odd on your body!

determined24girl

for me its just feeling fat and the self loathing that often comes with it.

Lefty1290

StarlaTheTempAtKZUG wrote: »

For me, it's photos. That's one of the main things that got me here in the first place. An extremely embarrassing photo of me was taken and put up on Facebook. I am closer to the camera (plus all of my friends are skinny), and I look two to three times larger than everyone else.

Yes, photos is a big one.

"Outgrowing" clothes that you love, feeling judged when out in public, having no energy which makes doing anything such a chore, self-loathing.

SLLRunner

I've been maintaining at a healthy weight for over a year (and it took me a year to lose 44 pounds), but I really don't miss hurting all the time.

That's really was the worst part--the aching from carrying all that weight around. It's gone, which is a godsend.

fiferjim

Has to be buying clothes nothing fits correctly or looks right. My extra weight has never really caused me any physical difficulties but I know it's not healthy so that's why I'm trying to shift the bulk.

StarlaTheTempAtKZUG

Thanks for your responses, guys. I want to add some more things that really bother me:
- Not being able to fit in seats properly at old theatres and old cinemas, and on public transport.
- The fear of cheap plastic chairs.
- That feeling of dread just before you go to sit in a restaurant booth.
- Being the one that no one wants to sit next to, because they don't want to feel your thigh fat.
- Not being able to climb stairs or walk more than a hundred metres or so without huffing and puffing.
- Not wanting to sit on the floor because it's too hard (and embarrassing) to get up.
- Not being able to shave your legs, cut your toenails, or tie your shoelaces without feeling suffocated.
- Not being able to see your privates in the shower without pushing your belly out of the way.
- Having a closet full of clothes, but not fitting into any of them.
- Being the fat friend, and not being able to keep up with your skinny friends.
- Being self-conscious when going to the beach, the public pools, or water parks.
- Being afraid of going on rides at theme parks, in case you don't fit.
- Feeling hot and sweaty whenever it's over 24 degrees (75 degrees fahrenheit).
- Being the fattest person (by far) in your family.
- Having to shop in plus-size stores.

And the list goes on and on.

_celesse

All the sweating. I'm constantly thinking I'm grossing people out just by existing near them. Even in the middle of winter, if I move too much I will be sweating and it's effing gross and embarrassing, even if no one else notices.

Not being able to wear what I want. I feel like a whale in clothes when I try to dress "dainty and cute" (my ideal personal aesthetic) and stupid. And them some cute, dainty small girl comes along and I feel worse (I know it's all me). And everyone goes absolutely nuts over small cute girls and I guess, idk, maybe I want that attention?

And well, I didn't get any of the "benefits" of being plus sized - boobs/*kitten* lol. This one's not that bad until you realize that people literally actually are attracted to that stuff. In the end I guess it's more good than bad, but whatever I toss it in anyway.

myfatass78

Not having the confidence to have sex.

Mech9

The worst part for me was when my ex left me for a thin girl. ouch.

kellyrco

So much not fitting in normal size clothes, the sitting and leaning over and feeling my stomach take up so much room. And I agree photos on facebook are embarassing - I'm trying to turn that into motivation that after losing this weight I will again look good in pictures.

Kandrapitcher

Feeling I don't look right when my boyfriend and I are making love. I always turn the lights off.

Hitesc

What I hated the most was the unintentional hurtful things people said. For example, "Oh you are just my big teddy bear". I hated that comment the most.

llUndecidedll

Sticking out like a sore thumb. I am a fat person who watches fat people all the time. I can't help it. Obesity disgusts ( a little too strong of a word) me. I am obese so I am disgusted by my size. So I guess the worst part about being fat is being disgusted by my own image.

No good can come from decades of obesity, we know this and still struggle to make the necessary changes. So maybe it's the general lack of integrity of most obese adults (including myself) that disgusts me.

lyrics09

All around hating yourself from the inside.

For me - Its a combination of avoiding fun situations because you're embarrassed or don't want judged, its not being able to enjoy stuff like buying clothes or going out with friends, taking pictures is horrible so you miss out on all the memories by avoiding the pictures all together, awkward trying to ever be close/intimate with people because you are uncomfortable the whole time instead of enjoying the moment, and not to forget all the wonderful rude people you'll encounter. Plus not being confident in the things you really are truly good at because your confidence in yourself/your body is so low-- you hold yourself back from true worth and potential.

be_patient

- photos
- not fitting in your clothes comfortably
- self hate
- not being able to fit delicately in his arms
- being uncomfortable when you move, sit, or live

Hitesc

lyrics09 wrote: »

All around hating yourself from the inside.

For me - Its a combination of avoiding fun situations because you're embarrassed or don't want judged, its not being able to enjoy stuff like buying clothes or going out with friends, taking pictures is horrible so you miss out on all the memories by avoiding the pictures all together, awkward trying to ever be close/intimate with people because you are uncomfortable the whole time instead of enjoying the moment, and not to forget all the wonderful rude people you'll encounter. Plus not being confident in the things you really are truly good at because your confidence in yourself/your body is so low-- you hold yourself back from true worth and potential.

That first point really brought back memories, I missed out on a lot of events because I was too self conscious to do them

got_fat

bakeraiyana wrote: »

For me one of the big things is, not being able to wear what I want to wear, or going shopping and seeing things, and thinking "That's cute!"..But too bad I can't wear it." I don't know if it's just me, but sometimes I ask myself, I wonder what it's like to be adverage size or skinny

This is my day, every day. This is the hardest thing about being overweight, seeing something and not being able to but it. Or even finding your size but not feeling comfortable or happy in it, and its 4x the price. Just recently i spent 2+ hours just to find pants and an average top to wear to an interview. . Lets say i wasnt too confident in that job interview.

Vailara

Knowing that you're being judged. Knowing that people are watching what you eat. Knowing that people think you're lazy, lacking in self-control, a burden on society, etc.

imabeevampire

Having your three year old tell you that you have a fat tummy.
Kids say it as it is.
Photos, seeing fat rolls under fitted tops and having to wear baggy tops instead.

Buying a dress for a wedding which looked great but i had to buy a size 18!

Not having the confidence to have sex ever since hearing your belly *flap*
Biggest turn off ever!

LizN63

imabeevampire wrote: »

Having your three year old tell you that you have a fat tummy.
Kids say it as it is.

They do. My son (aged 3) asked if I had a baby in my tummy, because it was 'quite big'. Now living in dread of him saying it to someone else!

Sued0nim

The worst for me for 20 years was accepting it as "this is just me" and living with it and believing I was a-ok

The "this is me now " feels and looks 20 years younger, enjoys shopping, stays out later, doesn't suffer from anxiety, hasn't needed asthma medication, revels in strength and fitness, is a great example to her children and laughs a helluva lot more

That happened on the journey not at the destination...I reached my first goal a couple of days ago ..no biggie ..the journey has been great though and long may it continue

jennifer_417

The long-term health complications. I woke up and changed myself before I had any, but a number of my family members didn't. For me personally, it was probably just feeling soooo unattractive.

Edited for typo.

gemm30

Having to have the seat restraint on a roller coaster physically pushed down by an attendant., mortifying.

Not fitting in to nice clothes.

Not being able to walk in high heels.

Sweating it's gross I look like I've had a shower when I come out of the gym.

I have a wedding to go to in august the bride used to be bigger than me she has lost 5 stone,
I don't want to be the fat friend.

The list goes on an on.

Tinker_and_Bash

I've got a belly apron (pannus) and the chafing underneath my belly and on my thighs ]is hands down the worst.

sugaraddict4321

As a former skinny person (I was not a fat child or teen), looking back at what I did to myself and feeling sad I let it happen. Yes, there were a few medical issues and a freak accident along the way, but for the most part this is the result of my choices. It was so easy to make bad decisions. Now it's hard to make good ones and I'm older with even more health issues.

blackcoffeeandcherrypie

Not being comfortable in my underwear - my bra rolls up and digs in, my knickers inch off and get stuck under my belly and then I'm trying to discretely hoik them back up in public. I remember when I was thinner, I never had to adjust my underwear, or worry that when I bent over, my knickers would roll down off my belly. My bra strap stayed in position on the side, and I never had to pull it back up over the blob of flat underneath my armpit. Being comfortable in your underwear has got to be the best thing ever.