So what do you need to see on the resume of your next spouse

I was out in the yard preparing the garden for planting. Just digging away and thinking about the bounty to come and the calories being burned.

Mom calls, she's sending her boyfriend over with some pears. He's walking and has been for about a month. I think I've inspired him. He's a good guy and a former chef at a downtown club. So after digging a few more minutes I run to the front of the house to see if he's coming. Mom doesn't live far away. Yep there he is and with the pears.

He wants to see the garden. So I take him back there and he is impressed with how much I have dug. It is quite a bit for doing it by hand. We talk some about the garden and what I'm planting. I pulled a green onion up and it was perfect. I let him smell it.

Then somehow the conversation turns to his long ago ex-wife. He was talking about her gaining weight after they got married. I said Don, You're a chef! Well she didn't like my cooking. LOL err okay. I said my ex didn't like my cooking either.

So there you have it, new Mrs. must like my cooking. Adding to resume requirements as I type.

If I ever remarry she has to love kids. I am a single dad and they are my world so they would have to be her world to. And if my new wife already had kids I would love them as my own. Next on my list is she has to love God, the Yankees & and be a country girl (at least at heart). Lol thats my list brother.

I was out in the yard preparing the garden for planting. Just digging away and thinking about the bounty to come and the calories being burned.

Mom calls, she's sending her boyfriend over with some pears. He's walking and has been for about a month. I think I've inspired him. He's a good guy and a former chef at a downtown club. So after digging a few more minutes I run to the front of the house to see if he's coming. Mom doesn't live far away. Yep there he is and with the pears.

He wants to see the garden. So I take him back there and he is impressed with how much I have dug. It is quite a bit for doing it by hand. We talk some about the garden and what I'm planting. I pulled a green onion up and it was perfect. I let him smell it.

Then somehow the conversation turns to his long ago ex-wife. He was talking about her gaining weight after they got married. I said Don, You're a chef! Well she didn't like my cooking. LOL err okay. I said my ex didn't like my cooking either.

So there you have it, new Mrs. must like my cooking. Adding to resume requirements as I type.

If I ever remarry she has to love kids. I am a single dad and they are my world so they would have to be her world to. And if my new wife already had kids I would love them as my own. Next on my list is she has to love God, the Yankees & and be a country girl (at least at heart). Lol thats my list brother.

Now wait a minute! Doesn't she have to know how to knit? <G>

Oh yeah! I forgot that! I want my hand knitted sweater!

I will use this for boyfriend...
I will make a MANDATORY prerequisite of FAITHFUL. Must be faithful...

Haha i have a LONG list and a HUGE test.

He has to LOVE kids and want like a million...since i do.
He has to LOVE animals since they are my passion.
He HAS to be a Christian with relatively the same views on God as me.
It would be NICE if he could cook since...haha i dont:)...at the moment.
He has to be funny....sorry boring guys..no way.
He was to be determined and know what he wants.
He has to be....i like Karley's answer....mature in the sense that he is a man...not some young guy who acts like a child.
He has to have patience and be willing to deal with my hyperness.

I will end with that...too many to list:)

Requirements..would have to like kids and be able to deal with the fact that I have two. And I am really young, so I don't have much hope in guys my age really accepting that- and I don't really care. I am in no hurry and my life is going to be quite busy when I start college in August. Anyway....

They must like kids, and have patience with everything that comes along with parenting.....and also they need to be mature. Not necessarily completely mature, but...they need to be a man. Haha.

Your kids are beautiful. :flowerforyou:

Thank you!!

.....At least six years experience as a sex slave baaahhhaa!!

Smart, passionate, hilarious and must worship the ground I walk on.

Haha i have a LONG list and a HUGE test.

He has to LOVE kids and want like a million...since i do.
He has to LOVE animals since they are my passion.
He HAS to be a Christian with relatively the same views on God as me.
It would be NICE if he could cook since...haha i dont:)...at the moment.
He has to be funny....sorry boring guys..no way.
He was to be determined and know what he wants.
He has to be....i like Karley's answer....mature in the sense that he is a man...not some young guy who acts like a child.
He has to have patience and be willing to deal with my hyperness.

I will end with that...too many to list:)

Sigh! All the perfect women (or women whose list matches mine) are to young for me. lol :-)

Haha thank you thank you...yeah....all the good guys are either taken or a little too old. So i *sigh* with you:)

Haha i have a LONG list and a HUGE test.

He has to LOVE kids and want like a million...since i do.
He has to LOVE animals since they are my passion.
He HAS to be a Christian with relatively the same views on God as me.
It would be NICE if he could cook since...haha i dont:)...at the moment.
He has to be funny....sorry boring guys..no way.
He was to be determined and know what he wants.
He has to be....i like Karley's answer....mature in the sense that he is a man...not some young guy who acts like a child.
He has to have patience and be willing to deal with my hyperness.

I will end with that...too many to list:)

Sigh! All the perfect women (or women whose list matches mine) are to young for me. lol :-)

Haha thank you thank you...yeah....all the good guys are either taken or a little too old. So i *sigh* with you:)

Yep, I tend to like the little bit older guys.

I've already found my soul mate, but here's some of the things on my "list" that he fit perfectly:

- must be sweet, caring and compassionate
- must love kids (he came with 2)
- must love me for who I am, fat and all (lol)
- must be responsible in life (no child-men that would rather spend their lives getting drunk and playing video games)
And my most important one, and I encourage all you girls to look for THIS
- MUST LOVE HIS MOTHER!! If he can't respect the single most important woman in his life, how will he be able to respect me? This of course depends on the situation. Sadly, not all mothers are "moms". But in my experience (dating, watching friends date, etc) the guys who can't seem to respect their mom, or just don't seem to care, are the worst partners. And obviously I'm not saying they have to be mama's boys. They have to have cut the apron strings long ago....but the love and respect still has to be there. My hubbys mom did a wonderful job raising him and his brother, and they're both very well aware of that....and it's made them both better men

Well I'm not looking but if I do meet someone he:

Must be a Christian.
Have a good sense of humor.
Likes to cook would be a plus since I don't. :bigsmile:
Must like cats because I have two.
Must be chivalrous.
Must share my political views. (Wouldn't want to cancel each other out during elections.) :bigsmile:

Umm
What I would love is for someone who SHOWS me they love me(and I'm not talking in a "presents sort of way) I want someone who when they KNOW i am having a bad day will comfort me and let me cry on their shoulder words will only go so far.
I want someone who is able to deal with my quirky slightly weird sense of humor
I want someone who will cuddle with me
who loves the outdoors and wants to travel
Someone who can think for themselves
Who will support me in whatever I choose to do and vice versa
Who is not a JEALOUS MANIPULATIVE NIMCOMPOOP!!
Who doesn't feel the need to play games and try and be emotionally or physically. Abusive I've had enough of that to last a lifetime
Who I will trust a 110% and can understand all th BS I have been through
And someone who will make me laugh :-)
I think that's all for now

Yes, food was an issue for me too. My ex had all kind of food requirements, no deadly nightshades, no red meat, (which is fine with me), no soy, no mixing carbs with protein only one at a meal, etc. Drove me nuts, as I do all the cooking. And it changed on a monthly basis, and she expected me to dump all food that did not fit her current fad. I am too cheap for that. So, yes, a normal, balanced diet is nice, taking each other's preferences into consideration. In addition, the same goals on what you value, what you want to spend your money on is key.

Secondly, and actually first, being mellow. No more drama. You need to be able to communicate and tolerate each other's eccentricities. Got together 4 years ago with my current spouse, remarried 3 years ago, have a 2.5 year old, and we haven't had a single fight yet. So nice, after having endless arguments, daily/weekly before. So bottom line is mellow, being able to tolerate and appreciate each other, and let go of not important things.

A big part of all this, which I realized now, is having the same goals in life. Where you want to life, what you value, what you want to spend your money on, what stuff/cars/house/furniture, etc. you want, when and where you want to retire, etc. My ex was ten years older, and around 50 for her, she wanted to retire and stop working, when we did not have nearly enough for retirement. She hated the mid-west (she grew up in Seattle), and resented for being here. (Blame on me academic, you only have a very limited number of job choices, and it is hard to move, but on a plus, I have job security, pretty much can do what I want, as long as I am productive, and set my own schedule. Not many jobs like that out there.) So, hard to give this up for something less.

And her strategy of me keeping working for another 20 years, while she retires, was not that exiting to me. So, there we went downhill from there, and we should have divorced 5-10 years earlier.
So, no kids, no contact with my ex for 7 years by now. But my current spouse has a 10 year old, ex, not communicating, not paying child support, etc. And we are paying for his weekly shrink visits to deal with this. So, as with you ex'es kind of stay with you for life, if you have kids.