Online Dating
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So tired of first emails that just say - "Write if you are interested"0
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Tonydevolani_ wrote: »CherokeeBabe wrote: »Tonydevolani_ wrote: »Online dating?
who does that
I have
Was very successful twice so far, long term relationships, but both were total randomness. Just met through online video games or in chatrooms. Every time I've actually *tried* to date online for real, awful failures XD
you must be very desperate
You're still mean, tony o.o
ima tell Angie on you.0 -
I tried dating websites for a couple of years, got no dates. I spent hours reading profiles and writing a custom message for each profile, in those two years I think only about three people bothered to give me a reply.
"I will reply to anyone that takes the time to write me a decent message and not just <Hi> I ignore those people". Saw a few of those profiles, of course they never replied to me, got my blond haired blue eyed brother just to send a <Hi> ,....they replied with an essay.0 -
On our date, he asked outright if I found him attractive. I said yes (what else do you say?), and he said "you're not really my type, but I guess you'll do".0
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He was a 27 year old virgin..........enough said0
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wolfsbayne wrote: »
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I tried dating websites for a couple of years, got no dates. I spent hours reading profiles and writing a custom message for each profile, in those two years I think only about three people bothered to give me a reply.
"I will reply to anyone that takes the time to write me a decent message and not just <Hi> I ignore those people". Saw a few of those profiles, of course they never replied to me, got my blond haired blue eyed brother just to send a <Hi> ,....they replied with an essay.
Awe!! You know, I hear this a lot from guys, and I try to give it from a ladys point of view, well...at least mine, though I'm sure Im not the only one.
At one time, if I was not interested, I would do the guy the courtesy of responding, let him know I appreciate him reaching out but dont believe we are a match and wish him all the very best.... I can count on one hand the amount of times a guy has either replied being courteous, or let it go and didn't respond..both fine.
The *majority* of the time, things go downhill from there... "why? Tell me what you dont like about me?","Oh, you think youre too good for me?", "I deserve to know exactly why, you aren't even giving this a chance", "*insert any string of cursewords and derogatory terms for women here followed by* ...YOUR LOSS!"... oh, and a lot of guys use the...."I'm the best thing that could have ever happened to you!"
But..it woudlnt even be so bad if they reacted like that and then moved on..nope. Usually, they will continue to write and harrass me...So yeah, when I'm not in the mood to have my butt handed to me for trying to be polite, I don't respond at all if I'm not interested.
All that being said...there was one guy who I had declined..his response was so sweet, courteous and humourous that I was too impressed to resist. We did end up meeting, and unfortunately, my initial gut reaction was right. All the same, if more guys took it in stride like that, and didnt take it so personally, it could lead to a second chance that may actually lead to something.
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I wouldn't rule out online dating0
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TheRealJigsaw wrote: »wolfsbayne wrote: »
Neither do I
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Oh ya @vickyaida?0
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Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach, says it took him 10 years to meet his now wife. After six months of not even a nibble, I'm not sure I have the stamina.0
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47Jacqueline wrote: »Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach, says it took him 10 years to meet his now wife. After six months of not even a nibble, I'm not sure I have the stamina.
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lapointdaniel wrote: »Oh ya @vickyaida?
Oh yeah0 -
Tonydevolani_ wrote: »CherokeeBabe wrote: »Tonydevolani_ wrote: »Online dating?
who does that
I have Was very successful twice so far, long term relationships, but both were total randomness. Just met through online video games or in chatrooms. Every time I've actually *tried* to date online for real, awful failures XD
you must be very desperate
Nope, not sure why you'd say that. Trying out online dating has been an interesting experience, and meeting people online has been great, both the relationships and the general friendships I've made Dating sites themselves just don't seem to work out for me, just lots of harassment, people wanting hookups and ONSs but no serious guys that are compatible with me. I've had a lot more success meeting great people online while doing things I enjoy, hobbies, games, etc. Totally different environment, seems to work out much better 
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CherokeeBabe wrote: »Tonydevolani_ wrote: »CherokeeBabe wrote: »Tonydevolani_ wrote: »Online dating?
who does that
I have Was very successful twice so far, long term relationships, but both were total randomness. Just met through online video games or in chatrooms. Every time I've actually *tried* to date online for real, awful failures XD
you must be very desperate
Nope, not sure why you'd say that. Trying out online dating has been an interesting experience, and meeting people online has been great, both the relationships and the general friendships I've made Dating sites themselves just don't seem to work out for me, just lots of harassment, people wanting hookups and ONSs but no serious guys that are compatible with me. I've had a lot more success meeting great people online while doing things I enjoy, hobbies, games, etc. Totally different environment, seems to work out much better
I think I'm starting to agree there. The dating sites I can't seem to find people I mesh with or it just seems standoffish!0 -
Markdjones83 wrote: »CherokeeBabe wrote: »Tonydevolani_ wrote: »CherokeeBabe wrote: »Tonydevolani_ wrote: »Online dating?
who does that
I have Was very successful twice so far, long term relationships, but both were total randomness. Just met through online video games or in chatrooms. Every time I've actually *tried* to date online for real, awful failures XD
you must be very desperate
Nope, not sure why you'd say that. Trying out online dating has been an interesting experience, and meeting people online has been great, both the relationships and the general friendships I've made Dating sites themselves just don't seem to work out for me, just lots of harassment, people wanting hookups and ONSs but no serious guys that are compatible with me. I've had a lot more success meeting great people online while doing things I enjoy, hobbies, games, etc. Totally different environment, seems to work out much better
I think I'm starting to agree there. The dating sites I can't seem to find people I mesh with or it just seems standoffish!
I blame it on the heightened expectations that seem to come with the idea of a 'dating site'. Meeting people casually just seems more genuine and easy, doesn't matter if it works or not, then surprise - sometimes it does! I don't go out to bars or party, so it just happens more naturally for me that way. Gave up on actual dating sites a couple years ago after a few tries, it was just awful, nothing but 'your hot lets ****' crap and guys getting butthurt and cussing me out & attacking me when I said I wasn't looking for casual sex (which was already written in my profile, multiple times). Annoyed the crap out of me.
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real life, online, does it really matter how people meet? and weirdos in society we can also meet socially, not only online. Just sayin. Note: Met my husband socially at a party0
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47Jacqueline wrote: »So tired of first emails that just say - "Write if you are interested"
Some people just dont know what to say. Send back a one word reply that says "write" or start the conversation yourself. How bout something like "yeah I'm interested in what you think interests you about me?" Be creative
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47Jacqueline wrote: »So tired of first emails that just say - "Write if you are interested"
You're lucky to get a complete sentence! The majority of first emails I get are "Hi" or just a phone number. What am I supposed to do with that? lol0 -
47Jacqueline wrote: »So tired of first emails that just say - "Write if you are interested"
You're lucky to get a complete sentence! The majority of first emails I get are "Hi" or just a phone number. What am I supposed to do with that? lol
The only things I received were either 'hi/hey' or 'DTF? Ur hot, waanna meetup for some fun?' messages. I think I may have gotten a few obvious copy and pasted super-long greeting messages, but even something that "good" was rare.0 -
Oh I cant stand those c&p... you can just tell, because theres a whole novel, yet not a word in there says a thing about what interested them about me. I like when someone makes a comment about something in my profile, or one of my pics (other than...baby, you are so beautiful" ok...)
I had one guy send me a resume of his attributes and relationship history (yes, he called it his dating resume) followed by about 20 interview questions for me...that included stuff like how many children I wanted to have, how long I think is an appropriate amount of time to date before marriage, would I consider living together before marriage...
I deleted and blocked him so fast...........!0 -
I had one guy send me a resume of his attributes and relationship history (yes, he called it his dating resume) followed by about 20 interview questions for me...that included stuff like how many children I wanted to have, how long I think is an appropriate amount of time to date before marriage, would I consider living together before marriage...
I deleted and blocked him so fast...........!
Sounds like you met one of my Exs on a dating site XD Wasn't an online relationship or anything, but he did email me a huge list of extremely detailed questions about the future when we'd only been dating two months. Included everything from politics, stances on abortions, drugs, a large amount of sexual kinks, even things like if I agreed that 'a womans place is in the kitchen and supporting her husband in all things that he wants and desires, without question.' I was barely 18 at the time and it freaked me out for awhile. I never answered most of them and he figured out that he was coming on too strong. Ultimately, there's a good reason for him being an 'Ex' now. LOL
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Yeah.... I think he's on Match now, didn't learn his lesson lmfao0
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LovingLife_Erin wrote: »I met my husband online. The only reason I agreed to meet with him was that his message to me was grammatically correct, and actually intelligent sounding. Considering 99% of the messages sent to me previously were some variation of "hey baby..." it was really refreshing to have someone put some effort in. Or at least effort that wasn't completely centred around getting me into bed, or send nude pictures.
Interesting point, So the way we message and how distinctive our style is can make a lot f difference.0 -
I think my sense of humor gets in my way.0
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stephaniels0416 wrote: »TheRealJigsaw wrote: »wolfsbayne wrote: »
Neither do I
Me either.
Virgin territory is not my cup of tea!0 -
When dating online, Do you think when is the best time to ask the other person out which is not too soon or late?
I mean not to appear so pushy and turn the other one off, or maybe we should wait for the other person to ask us out?0
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