Online Dating
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all of my online dating experiences have been good. then again, i play video games with people online for a good week or so before i agree to meet in person, so i take a good amount of time to scope them out first and make sure they're not some creepy entitled neckbeard with anger problems.
Like you meet them in the game first or you meet them on a dating site and then make them play video games? What if they don't have the game you have? Or are you talking like mobile games like words with friends?0 -
Markdjones83 wrote: »newmeadow he isn't from here originally and english is probably his 2nd language. I don't think he is picking up on your sarcasm lol.
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This was great, I can relate to so many of the crazy stories. I've been online dating for about a year and a half..
I did fall madly in love with a man I met of POF, sadly it went sour real quick..
The craziest one was a guy who took to a basketball game and pretended to be my 'husband' wanted to take a million and one pictures of us.. asked random people to do it- I was embarrassed.. on our way back to the car he started to share with me his past 'naughty' experiences with men (he claimed to be military) and if I was interested in partaking in the festivities, he also talked about his ex-wife (mother of his child) in a nasty way, made her seem like a lunatic which in essence it was him.. I couldn't run away fast enough..
Now if there was only a way for me to delete those pictures of his phone.. ugh.0 -
47Jacqueline wrote: »After six months on Match.com, OKCupid, JDate, I'm pretty fed up with men over 60, who, for the most part, are not looking for a woman in their own age range.
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My question is why people try cyber dating when we can meet real people outside at work, at college, etc. and date there.
I tried online dating mostly because IRL I would really get friendzoned... just became "one of the guys"... :sad:
I'm glad I did tho, found the love of my life.
WednesdayJanuary07th2015 wrote: »chrisskellinton wrote: »chrisskellinton wrote: »Question: how many of you have trouble figuring out what to share when? One of the tough things for me in early communication is trying to avoid revealing too much too early while also not being purposely dodgy. It's a struggle to answer some of those ice-breaker questions early on ("Tell me about your family" and "Why haven't you been married?") when the honest answer can be quite complicated (and potentially TMI).
I had this dilemna when I was pregnant (as a surrogate). How much to explain on the profile vs. when to bring it up when messaging back and forth. I didn't want to arrange a meeting for coffee and show up visibly pregnant and have to explain as quickly as possible before he ran off. But when I put on my profile that I was pregnant, I got messages from MANY guys wanting me to send them pics of my bare baby bump. Or asking if I could still have sex. Or asking if my milk had come in yet.
You were worrying about dating while you were pregnant???????Srsly?
I wasn't "worried" about dating while I was pregnant as a surrogate. That's like worrying about dating while I'm donating blood, or while I'm out singing karaoke, or while I'm reading a book. Why should doing something I enjoy or something that is part of who I am prevent me from dating? My first surrogacy I started dating a guy when I was in my first month of pregnancy. We broke up for reasons unrelated to pregnancy 2 months after I delivered.
My only concern was at what point in the dating process I should bring it up to potential suitors.
I don't think you get my point. But I do think most people should know immediately.
No being a surrogate is not like donating blood etc. Having a kid whether it is yours or not is way more life changing to the other person than just doing something randomly like donating blood or singing karaoke.
Me being a guy and let's say I had recently broke up with a woman who was pregnant with my child. I think the other person should know that right away because it will affect them too and their choice to want to be with me.
As long as a woman is okay with dating a guy, whom has a child; it shouldn't matter what stage of life that child is in. Whether said child is in the womb or out.
Beg to differ. I would date a man with kids. Have no issue with it (at my age it's hard to find guys who don't already have kids anyway.) I would NOT date a man with one still cooking. That is a serious life transition (whether he is still with the mother or not) and he needs to be focused on that rather than dating. For him to do otherwise seems irresponsible and makes him unappealing to me.
I know what you meant with the bolded part, but the only thing that came to my mind... :laugh:
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My question is why people try cyber dating when we can meet real people outside at work, at college, etc. and date there.
I'm a single mom with an office job. The only possible places I could meet a guy were at the gym (I'm not there to chit-chat) or at the grocery store. Online was an easy way to talk to guys when I had spare time right before bed.
Well, It all occurs to me that most of us use online dating because we miss the opportunity to be in real-world dating. otherwise we wouldn't choose this.
So can we regard ourselves as unlucky people?
Do you think online dating is really a date or mostly a way to chit chat and waste some time?
Because to me as a guy in most cases it proves to be a waste of time. It doesn't have the seriousness of the real date.
It isn't the same as a real date at all, but I can seRandom interjection: I hate the term "friendzone." Guys get mad when you put them in the friendzone. It implies that they should be entitled to more just because they took the time to get to know you.
Guys who whine about being a "nice guy" generally really aren't.
Oh god yes, the friendzone thing. I hate that. And usually the ones that use that in a derogatory way (so clearly not Mark) are the same ones that tell you you are perfect and everything they're looking for -- that is, until you politely tell them you aren't interested in going there with them. Then you're an evil b**** that isn't good enough for them anyway. Lovely.0 -
WednesdayJanuary07th2015 wrote: »My question is why people try cyber dating when we can meet real people outside at work, at college, etc. and date there.
Because most people are too addicted to their cellulars, to notice anyone else. Even grocery shopping has become dangerous. All I hear is carts, crashing into something. I use to just be nervous around children pushing carts because since the weren't tall enough to see over the cart, they'd run the cart up my heels/ankles; it was a painful problem but now the adults with their cellular addiction, do it too.
Awe! Not necessarily... I just got back from a work trip, was away for a week and met another lady who we went out for dinner after work etc. Now, she was pretty but not *drop dead gorgeous* super sweet, great personality...and I swear, everywhere we went, guys were all over her. And I realized...a HUGE part of is was that she is such a major flirt! I wanted to take notes or something LoL!!!
In contrast, I am a HORRIBLE flirt. Not only that, I can't even tell if Im being flirted with. "He was such a nice guy! So cute too!" is my impression, while everyone around me is like...he was coming onto you so hard! Why didnt you say anything?! I just really suck at throwing off or picking up on the clues. A guy has to pretty much flat out tell me he'd like to take me out or something for me to realize hes interested in me. My friends say Im eternally hopeless.
Online though, I can be super clever, witty, charming, all that fun stuff! Then by the time we meet, its already established there is an interest and things can take off from there.0 -
A guy has to pretty much flat out tell me he'd like to take me out or something for me to realize hes interested in me. My friends say Im eternally hopeless.WednesdayJanuary07th2015 wrote: »
Unfortunately, I am the same way! Oh he likes me? Who knew?!
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Never dated online but the thought always intrigued me. Especially the relationships started online that actually end up going somewhere. :0)0
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VintageMisery514 wrote: »I met this guy online, and we met up a few weeks later for our first date at a concert. My girlfriends thought that was an awful first date, but I'm different from some girls and thought it was a cool idea. We meet up at the venue and grab some food and a few beers at a bar next door. It was great -- conversation was awesome, we made each other laugh, it was all really easy and natural for us. We head back to the venue, go in, have a great time. It ends, and we leave and start the long walk to our cars in the parking lot. He stopped me halfway there to kiss me, and it was an awesome kiss. Everything was perfect. We get to his car and he starts having a panic attack about driving home. He wants to go home with me. I'm nowhere near being comfortable with that, but I offer to drive him home and then he can pick his car up with someone tomorrow. He collapses to the ground in tears and starts sobbing, asking me why I don't trust him...?? I couldn't figure out if this was some crazy attempt at going home with a girl or if he genuinely was freaked out. Then he threw up on my shoes. I was really grossed out but also felt so bad for him, I asked him if I could call anyone for him. He begged me again to take him home with me so he could buy me new shoes tomorrow. I again say no. He finally asks me if I can get his mom's number out of his phone and call her to come get him. He was 30 at the time, but his 70-something year old mother drove into the city of Atlanta to pick up her slightly unbalanced son regardless. I stayed with him until she got there to make sure he was okay, and she apologized to me and told me that he was "a sensitive boy."
I still feel really bad for the guy, but that was CRAZY.
I wonder if his drinks had some kind of drug in them
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I met a guy on POF who seemed really nice. We had been seeing each other for 6 weeks or so. We're at a restaurant and his phone is ringing off the hook but he keeps letting it go to vm. Then all of a sudden his face drops and he says to me, pretend you're my assistant. And his WIFE shows up at the table. The dude was married. And then asked me to pretend I was his assistant, as if.0
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Ok, let's do MFP the Bachelor. I have decided I would be the perfect candidate for this. So, each of you ladies will vy for my undivided attention on individual dates each weekend.
Since I am such a hot commodity, you must pay for your own flight here to Texas in order for the chance for my love!
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Markdjones83 wrote: »Ok, let's do MFP the Bachelor. I have decided I would be the perfect candidate for this. So, each of you ladies will vy for my undivided attention on individual dates each weekend.
Since I am such a hot commodity, you must pay for your own flight here to Texas in order for the chance for my love!
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invited me out to dinner (wasnt anything fancy but i was up for meeting someone new), picked me up in his pick up, drove to the next block, unzipped his pants, pulled out his willy, and asked me to suck it. Shortest date EVER!0
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messyinthekitchen wrote: »I met a guy on POF who seemed really nice. We had been seeing each other for 6 weeks or so. We're at a restaurant and his phone is ringing off the hook but he keeps letting it go to vm. Then all of a sudden his face drops and he says to me, pretend you're my assistant. And his WIFE shows up at the table. The dude was married. And then asked me to pretend I was his assistant, as if.
LOL did you or did you blow his cover?
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I was involved in online dating for 4 years and have given up. I have had many terrible date stories but so as to not stay here all night I'll simplify. The classic quick private part picture texts as if I'm going to be impressed. You've seen one, you've seen all. I met a guy who asked for my home address close to Valentines Day, I thought he was going to send flowers, he sent packages to my house with different credit card billing information. He then wanted me to send him the packages. I had to pay to send them back to the companies. The last date I went on said he had one child then when we met in person he said he had another son 5 months old with a different baby momma. He was also still living with her. My hall of shame!0
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I have done a fair bit of internet dating over the last 10 years or so, I have had quite a few men, mainly from the states travel to where I am after talking for 3 - 6 months. They had to get there own hotel room and whatnot. I met, and fell crazy in love with an amazing man....... we were together for five years. He was from Washington DC, me Vancouver BC Canada, over 4,000 miles, we traveled back and forth ........ he was a gorgeous black man, me pale face white woman, but that was the lesser of our problems. It was the distance that finally tore us apart, its been 5 years now, we still talk, still love each other, but neither one of us enough to leave our families and careers............... I have met some obnoxious men, men that were in it only for the sex, married men even though I stressed no married men, over and over!!! You just have to really know your stuff, know how to screen, talk to them for a long time before meeting, there are ways you can find out if a person is a liar the first time you speak with them, it goes both ways, men lie, women lie. Best bet is to be honest from the get go .......... and be very careful. The site I met my guy on was interracial dating.com ............... there are good, and bad people.0
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I've heard so many stories of online dating both good and bad I don't know what to think...haven't tried it0
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I believe it's worth trying, just air on the side of caution, always, in real life and online dating, that is for all of us! It is worth it, and you can, indeed find true love, may take awhile, but it is worth it
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ldrosophila wrote: »messyinthekitchen wrote: »I met a guy on POF who seemed really nice. We had been seeing each other for 6 weeks or so. We're at a restaurant and his phone is ringing off the hook but he keeps letting it go to vm. Then all of a sudden his face drops and he says to me, pretend you're my assistant. And his WIFE shows up at the table. The dude was married. And then asked me to pretend I was his assistant, as if.
LOL did you or did you blow his cover?
Oh I was sure to tell her what a pig her husband was. Her and I are friends now. At least something positive came from it.
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ldrosophila wrote: »invited me out to dinner (wasnt anything fancy but i was up for meeting someone new), picked me up in his pick up, drove to the next block, unzipped his pants, pulled out his willy, and asked me to suck it. Shortest date EVER!
Seriously, wtf? It reminds me of that move in HIMYM where the guy stripped down naked when Robin stepped out the room. Because, hey if you make a woman feel awkward, they just might put out....And even if only works 1-2 times out of 10, you're still getting laid once in awhile, right?
But your scenario is even worse b/c clearly the intention was going to be a one-way exchange. EW!
ETA: I had a good male friend in college who asked his best friend to give me a ride home since we lived 20 minutes apart. It was about a 4 hour trip and he whipped it out about an hour in - I refused to oblige. I told my friend about it and the next time he was home he went to the guy's house, rang the doorbell, and punched him the face. Incidentally, the pervert's Dad was the chief of police...0 -
messyinthekitchen wrote: »ldrosophila wrote: »messyinthekitchen wrote: »I met a guy on POF who seemed really nice. We had been seeing each other for 6 weeks or so. We're at a restaurant and his phone is ringing off the hook but he keeps letting it go to vm. Then all of a sudden his face drops and he says to me, pretend you're my assistant. And his WIFE shows up at the table. The dude was married. And then asked me to pretend I was his assistant, as if.
LOL did you or did you blow his cover?
Oh I was sure to tell her what a pig her husband was. Her and I are friends now. At least something positive came from it.
Did she leave him?
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It turns out online dating is not as bad as I thought. It works for some people at least. But do you think it is the best way to find your mate? What is the best option if you had choice?0
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Tonydevolani_ wrote: »Online dating?
who does that
I have Was very successful twice so far, long term relationships, but both were total randomness. Just met through online video games or in chatrooms. Every time I've actually *tried* to date online for real, awful failures XD
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OMG here we go.
I suggested starbucks and he says "Oh no their coffee is too expensive!" - straight away I thought cheapskate so then I suggested "how bout this place here (takeaways) they have coffee here for only a dollar". He agreed, went to order our coffees then turned around, put his hand out and said "so have you got a dollar for your coffee?"
I kid you not
Made me feel cheaper than a two-dollar hooker
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I met my husband online. The only reason I agreed to meet with him was that his message to me was grammatically correct, and actually intelligent sounding. Considering 99% of the messages sent to me previously were some variation of "hey baby..." it was really refreshing to have someone put some effort in. Or at least effort that wasn't completely centred around getting me into bed, or send nude pictures.0
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